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- ***Boundaries in Relationships – How to Set them & Choose Your Battles - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishI’ve often told my clients that at any moment World War III could break out in your intimate relationship—if you let it. You really do have to pick your battles and your moment, tone, words, and emotional intensity. Here are some key ideas from Part 1. Quick Review: Managing ...
Views: 1393 - ***When and How to Set Limits, Draw the Line and Pick Your Battles in a Relationship. - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWhen you’re unhappy in love, it’s often hard to know if you are being too picky, too “sensitive” or just wrong in your assessment of the situation. You wonder what “counts” as being a legitimate reason for you to fall out of love or feel distant from your ...
Views: 1313 - ***Triumph Over Your Fear Of Public Speaking - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishDoes your tummy churn at the thought of speaking in public? Do you feel cotton-headed when you get to the podium? And, unbelievably, did you forget to make the most important point? Welcome to the vast majority of people who fear speaking or performing in public. You’re in good company with ...
Views: 1177 - ***Expert Q&A: Dating Again After a Major Break Up - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: How long should I wait before dating again after my divorce? A: Most of us have heard this advice about looking for love after you've just ended a marriage or intimate partnership: "Don't jump from the frying pan into the fire." In other words, to avoid re-bound love, take time off from ...
Views: 2379(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: Having a Life When You Live at Home - by Submitted on May 03, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: I'm in my thirties and I've been living with my parents ever since I lost my job. How can I convince my parents that I still need a personal life? A: No matter how great the goodies are at your parent's house, you'd probably like to live on your own in your own space. More adult children ...
Views: 1656 - ***Expert Q&A: Remarrying Your Ex - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: Should I remarry my ex? A: We all like second chances in life. Rarely do we get them. Remarrying your ex is one of the few opportunities for a "do-over." There are no divorce statistics for people who re-marry their ex. However, the divorce rate for all second marriages is about sixty ...
Views: 5907 - ***Expert Q&A: Coping with an Ill Partner - by Submitted on Dec 31, 1969 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: My partner's become withdrawn since being diagnosed with a serious illness. What should I do? A: Despite all the advancements in medicine, most of us are still terrified to hear words such as cancer, tumor, incurable, inoperable, experimental, drug resistant, radiation, and chemotherapy. ...
Views: 3166 - ***Expert Q&A: Battling Addictions Side-by-Side - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: I think my partner is addicted to porn. What should I do? A: Last week I saw "Avenue Q," the Tony Award-winning Broadway musical that stars humans and puppets. The Trekkie Monster puppet gets repeated laughs when he sings about the purpose of the Internet: "Porn," he belts out. Even ...
Views: 1934 - ***Expert Q&A: Taking Charge of Trial Separations - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: My partner and I recently separated. What's the best way to use this time? A: Instead of going directly to divorce, some couples decide to separate for a while. This approach definitely has its merits. It prevents you from acting hastily about the relationship and gives you a chance to ...
Views: 2119 - ***When to Have Sex in a New Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishMost of us want to feel chosen, connected and cared for. Unfortunately, it's easy to be fooled into thinking you are falling in love, and one of the sure ways to cloud your judgment about your new partner is having sex too soon. Here are the top reasons how a hasty decision to have sex ...
Views: 2090(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: How to Recover from a Bad Mood - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishIn a column about relationships, it's easy to overlook that the number one person you must always relate to is yourself. Yet, sometimes, when circumstances make us veer off our usual course, we get irritable, pessimistic and just plain old down in the dumps. Here are some tips to help you ...
Views: 3075(2 votes) - ***Expert Q&A: Dealing with Different Personality Styles - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: I love my partner very much, but how do I manage that we are so opposite when it comes to being outgoing and social? A: You've probably heard the expression "opposites attract." But what, exactly does this mean? And is it true? Of course, nothing is true for all couples, but, in ...
Views: 1893 - ***Expert Q&A: Dating the Person With Whom You Cheated - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: I'm dating the person with whom I cheated. How can I learn to trust him? A: There is some truth that those who cheated on their partner are more likely to cheat again in a new relationship. Cheaters, after all, have crossed one of those major relationship boundaries-fidelity. And cheaters ...
Views: 5851 - ***Expert Q&A: Fix Your Sexless Marriage - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: How can I turn around my sexless marriage? A: Why would some couples remain celibate? Isn't sex supposed to be part of the pleasures of love and marriage? Yet, approximately 10-15% of marriages may experience long stretches of time without sex. A smaller number of couples never ...
Views: 3259 - ***Expert Q&A: Create Your Own Valentine’s Day - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: It's Valentine's Day, and I'm single and miserable. Is there anyway I can turn it around? A: I don't know about you, but I'm really not very fond of those fake, business-driven holidays such as Mother's Day and Valentine's Day. (Okay. I admit, I do like Halloween because I love seeing all ...
Views: 2876(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: Staying Positive - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: I've already broken my New Year's resolution. How can I successfully better myself? A: Unfortunately, it's true that by February many of us are on a downward slide of breaking our New Year's resolutions. You've probably given it a good try, but old habits are hard to break. Since you ...
Views: 1967(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: When Women Should Propose Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: My boyfriend won't propose even though we've been dating for years. Should I take the initiative? A: Let me just get it over with-I do not recommend that women propose marriage. I'll explain why a few paragraphs later, but first, here is the experience that sparked my deeper thinking ...
Views: 3771(3 votes) - ***When to Have Sex in a New Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishMost of us want to feel chosen, connected and cared for. Unfortunately, it's easy to be fooled into thinking you are falling in love, and one of the sure ways to cloud your judgment about your new partner is having sex too soon. Here are the top reasons how a hasty decision to have sex ...
Views: 3805 - ***Expert Q&A: What is the Best Way to Handle In-Law Problems? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishDo these scenarios sound familiar? * Your in-laws are cold to you. * Your husband or partner can't stand up to his mother or father. * When it comes to the holidays, it's your in-laws' way-or the highway. * Your in-laws are critical and judgmental of you. * Your ...
Views: 3991 - ***Expert Q&A: Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail and How You Can Beat the Odds - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHave a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Q: Every year I drop my New Year's resolutions by February. What can I do to keep them? A: Unfortunately, for many of us, by Valentine's Day your New Year's resolutions ...
Views: 3178(2 votes) - ***Expert Q&A: Relationship Ruts Part 3 - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: Why do I end up with such "basket cases" for partners? A: Basket cases--a great description of someone whose behavior prompts you to give too much of your time and energy to help, calm, or "fix" them. If you are exhausted and exasperated from feeling that you always have to pick up the ...
Views: 2157 - ***Expert Q&A: Managing Empathy and Love - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: Do I empathize too much? A: Most of us have been taught to feel sorry for people who are less fortunate than we are and to forgive people when they make mistakes. Charity and civilization rely on empathy. Yet, as many of my clients have shown me, there is such a thing as too much ...
Views: 2185 - ***Expert Q&A: Grudges and Forgiveness - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishIf you're like myself and many of my clients, you find forgiveness a difficult prospect. Big questions such as "When is it too late to ask for an apology?", "Is forgiveness necessary for personal and spiritual growth?", and "Should someone apologize for being truthful?" complicate the ...
Views: 3492(4 votes) - ***Expert Q&A: Making the Most of Meeting the Parents - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHave a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Q: I'm about to meet my partner's parents. How can I make a good impression? A: Okay, you're ready. You've fallen in love and gotten "serious" about someone who feels the ...
Views: 2243(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: Caregiver Burnout - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHave a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Q: My ailing mom has come to live with me, and it's taking a toll on my marriage. How can I find a balance? A: Medical advancements have allowed us to live longer but not ...
Views: 2239(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: Criticizing Your Partner in Public - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHave a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Q: My husband is always picking on me in public. How can I get him to stop? A: Many of us have been caught off guard in social situations where someone else exposed ...
Views: 6368 - ***Expert Q&A: How to Overcome Difficulties in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHave a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Happy marriages and long-term relationships are not happy every day. John Gottman, a pioneer in marital research, discovered that even in mutually satisfying marriages, ...
Views: 2429(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: Balancing Your Logic and Your Emotions - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: How do I "fall in love using my head and not my heart?" A: Most of today's grandparents heard the love lesson "use your head not your heart" long before they looked with interest at the opposite sex. But just what do these words mean--and how do you apply it to your love life? Consider ...
Views: 2625(2 votes) - ***Thanksgiving Family Stress - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHolidays for many people can mean being alone and feeling lonely--or being with family members who cause you stress and also make you feel lonely! It seems you can't escape the holiday blues. But you can! Here are some tips. 1. Identify your triggers. Identify ahead of time exactly what ...
Views: 2811 - ***Delusions of Santa Claus - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWouldn't it be great if you could instantly read men? So far, there isn't any super-power for that. And wouldn't it be great if there were Santa Claus men who are bigger than life--and who can satisfy your every whim and need. Uh-oh, it might seem that there are enough of these kinds of men, ...
Views: 2707 - ***The Dangers of Being Even More Carried Away - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishActivities that excite us make us feel good about life, love and ourselves. We are all pleasure-seekers, and there are endless things that can make us feel re-vitalized. We like to be carried away. Take a closer look at Cookie. She is having a great time. Joe is smart, successful, fun and ...
Views: 2220(1 vote) - *** How to Avoid the Top Relationship Dangers of Minimizing Harmful Behavior - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) Wish*Sylvia’s husband had a rule: If you can’t be home right after work, you had to call. When she rushed a co-worker to the hospital, in the confusion, Sylvia called about thirty minutes after she was due home. When she did phone home, he accused her of cheating on her and lying. The moment she ...
Views: 4546(1 vote) - ***How To Avoid Wedding Stress And Be A Smart Bride - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHow to Avoid Wedding Stress and Be a Smart Bride: Over-the-Top Wedding Plans Can Reveal Bottom-of-the-Barrel Feelings Weddings and the accompanying engagement parties and showers can get stressful and out of hand for many reasons. Here are the top reasons why planning weddings may not be as ...
Views: 3897 - ***Twelve Things Divorcing Parents Should Tell Their Children - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishDivorce is a difficult enough experience, and when children are involved, most divorcing parents have to set aside their marital feelings and work together to co-raise children responsibly. The goal is not to have children survive divorce but to thrive. However, many parents are so hurt, ...
Views: 2414(1 vote) - ***Top Tips Why You Should Get Along With Your Mate's Siblings*** - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishDr. LeslieBeth Wish, Ed.D, MSS at www.lovevictory.com Reasons Why Getting Along with siblings is So Crucial The Most Common Problems of Having Siblings-in-laws What Can You Do if You Have Siblings-in-law Problems? Why are the siblings so important in approving your choice of mate? It’s ...
Views: 2830 - ***How Can Families Cope With The Loss Of Their Home? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishLosing your home for any reason is heart-wrenching. Many families describe the feeling as “the rug being pulled out from under you” or “losing your moorings.” Money issues are one of the top sources of stress for families these days, and the number of families who have ...
Views: 6424 - ***Tips for Recovering from Being Suddenly Single - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) Wish***Tips for Recovering from Being Suddenly Single*** Women, Loss, Grief and Loneliness: If I’m so great, how come it hurts so much to be alone? ...
Views: 3879 - ***Family And Career: Tips For Women On Career Success*** - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWhen Laurel’s boss overlooked her for a promotion, she was stunned. She had received high praise for her market analyses and team cooperation and was sure she’d be selected for a major project. Tip #1: Get Feedback Rather than wallow in disappointment, Laurel sought from her boss ...
Views: 4280(1 vote) - ***Happy Family Research: Grieving Loss Of A Parent*** - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWe expect to outlive our parents, but we still struggle with grief. Take this quiz to learn about dealing with the loss of a parent. Put an “x” next to one answer for each question. 1. Losing a parent suddenly is worse than losing a parent after a long illness. __Strongly Agree ...
Views: 3053 - ***Happy Family Research: Grieving Loss Of A Husband*** - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishDivorce and death of a husband is a top life stressor. Learn about this grief from the following quiz. Choose one answer that best describes your belief. 1. Jennifer and her husband divorced after one year. Five months later, Jennifer has gone out on three casual dates. ___A. She was only ...
Views: 2927(1 vote) - ***Unconventional Advice On Dealing With Difficult People At The Office - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishTip Sheet Introduction Observe first—rather than act Confide in a colleague as a last resort Confront the difficult person as another last resort Make the colleague or boss look good—by being indispensable Don’t personalize--maybe Introduction Almost anyone who works has run ...
Views: 2845 - ***Managing Stress Triggers: Tip Sheet - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishTip Sheet Introduction Recognize personal stress triggers and symptoms Re-train the brain Get solution-oriented Develop a buddy system Minimize self-blame Be realistic in expectations for change Introduction No one can avoid stress. In fact, it’s a necessary part of life. Stress ...
Views: 2714 - ***Instant Relief From Grief: Tip Sheet*** - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishInstant Relief from Grief: Tip Sheet Introduction Give Back Stay Connected Cry and Yell Get Inspired Get Help Introduction Grieving is one of life’s most unpleasant events. Like falling in love, experiencing grief can make you feel as though you are going a little crazy—except ...
Views: 2419(1 vote) - ***When the Soldier Doesn't Return: The Needs Of American Families of Downed Warriors In Iraq - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2007 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWhen The Soldier Doesn’t Return: The Needs of American Families of Downed Warriors In Iraq Note: All names have been changed to protect confidentiality. By LeslieBeth Wish, Ed.D, MSS,MA Reprinted with author's permission from www.helpstartshere.org Introduction Sally had been a ...
Views: 2475 - ***New Years Resolutions That Work - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2007 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishNew Years Resolutions that Work Introduction It’s holiday time of year again when thoughts turn to shopping, giving, partying and—yes—making New Years’ resolutions. Even if a person doesn’t want to make them, reminders about resolutions are on the Internet, talk ...
Views: 2459 - ***Sustaining Healthy Family Life: Tips For Overcoming The Holiday Stress Blues - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2007 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishIntroduction Few of us are immune to holiday stress. It doesn’t help that Thanksgiving and Christmas are so close together. For many people, it’s like getting a second-wham of anxiety and disappointment before you recover from the first one at Thanksgiving. Because our ...
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