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- 4 Real Dangers of Your Spouse’s Emotional Affair - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2019 from C Mellie SmithAn emotional affair is a situation that is not often addressed when discussing problems that can come up in a marriage. In today’s world, in which men and women work together day-in and day-out, it is very common for one partner to form a close bond with a co-worker. This bond can often ...
Views: 1004(1 vote) - It's Not Over 'til It's Over: How to Save a Failing Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2015 from C Mellie SmithIf your marriage is failing and either one or both of you have mentioned the “D” word, you might want to take time to step back and do something to fix the marriage. After all, you both made a promise to your family, friends, each other and maybe even God to love one another and stay together ...
Views: 2604(1 vote) - 5 Steps for Dealing With Anger After Infidelity - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2019 from C Mellie SmithThe intense anger that you feel after discovering that your partner has had a sexual or emotional affair is a natural and appropriate emotional response to the injustice, betrayal, and pain that you are reeling from. Now, while the anger may feel like it is the primary emotion in your mind’s ...
Views: 1134(1 vote) - Wife Cheated on You? How to Avoid the Biggest Mistakes Betrayed Husbands Make - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2014 from C Mellie SmithWhen your wife cheats it's difficult to keep your head on straight and think clearly about the choices you are going to make right now that can affect the rest of your life. If you've found yourself in this situation you should consider the biggest mistakes that betrayed husbands often make when ...
Views: 6142(1 vote) - 3 Ways to Deal With Post Affair Anger Before it Takes a Toll On You - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2018 from C Mellie SmithWhen you find your spouse has had an affair, your first reaction is likely to be a nearly uncontrollable anger and a strong urge to get away. Giving up and splitting up may seem to be the most logical and easiest method of dealing with infidelity. However, it's important to remember that you ...
Views: 1067 - 4 Common Consequences in Marriage After Infidelity - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2015 from C Mellie SmithInfidelity is one of the top causes of marital discord, and is one of the primarily reasons for the high divorce rate in this country. Infidelity has the potential to rip apart a seemingly perfect relationship, whether it was a prolonged affair or a onetime mistake. Spouses on both sides of an ...
Views: 4821 - 4 Questions To Help You Heal And Recover From Cheating on Your Husband - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2018 from C Mellie SmithOne aspect of infidelity in a marriage that is not addressed very frequently is the recovery of the unfaithful spouse. This is especially true of cheating wives. Very often, a man who is unfaithful can expect some understanding and support from friends and relatives and even from his ...
Views: 998 - 4 Tips For Triumphing Over The Emotional Chaos of Infidelity - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2017 from C Mellie SmithFinding Your Way in the Darkness of Infidelity The emotional devastation that comes from infidelity is like no other pain in the world. Ask anyone who’s ever been cheated on by their spouse or partner. They’ll describe the chaotic roller coaster of anger, sadness, and confusion that they ...
Views: 1654 - 5 Obvious Signs (Once You Know) That Your Partner is Not Loyal - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2018 from C Mellie SmithWhen it comes to finding a long-term partner and entering into a loving, respectful, and dedicated relationship, you want to find someone who is loyal. Although most individuals look for loyalty, almost demand it, and certainly want it in a relationship, it’s not a trait that is talked about ...
Views: 9834 - 5 Scenarios For When to Give up on Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2019 from C Mellie SmithMarriage is a layered and complex relationship; one of the most intimate bonds we have in our knowledge of the human experience. Marriage signifies a deep and intentional connection, and it’s not to be entered into lightly, nor should it be exited out of after the first fight. You are the ...
Views: 944 - 5 Steps to Forgiving Yourself After Cheating on Your Partner - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2019 from C Mellie SmithWhile it can be simple to say that you made a mistake and that it is now time to move on, allowing yourself to be rid of the guilt you feel after cheating is another matter completely. This is because, in order to truly move forward with your life, you have to pull that dishonest behavior ...
Views: 961 - 5 Tips to Overcome The Emotional Devastation of Infidelity - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2016 from C Mellie SmithNo matter whom committed infidelity, once it’s out in the open it is devastating to everyone. It is hard on both parties the perpetrator and the victim. This is most especially true when there is still a lot of love in the relationship. Some things that can help you overcome the emotional ...
Views: 2295 - 6 Ways to Restore Sexual Intimacy After Infidelity - by Submitted on May 15, 2019 from C Mellie SmithIf you are in the unfortunate and very painful circumstance of dealing with infidelity within your relationship but are choosing to go ahead and stay with your partner, one of the major aspects you will notice is the profound effect that the affair has on your sexual intimacy. In most cases, ...
Views: 977 - 8 Great Ways to Pick Yourself Up After Infidelity Has Rocked Your World - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2017 from C Mellie SmithBeing cheated on is one of the most damaging things a person can ever experience. It can feel like an all-out attack on your softest, most vulnerable spots. There’s really no gentle way to put it – infidelity is the most intimate betrayal imaginable. The upshot is that the experience of ...
Views: 2542 - 8 Questions to Ask Before Starting Couples Counseling - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2018 from C Mellie SmithWhen a partner in a marriage has been unfaithful, it may seem that there is no choice but to dissolve the marriage; however, couples counseling may provide another alternative. A skilled couple’s counselor may be able to help both partners see how the marriage got off course and help them ...
Views: 1062 - 9 Proven Ways to Overcome The Anger And Depression After She Cheated on You - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2014 from C Mellie SmithOvercoming anger and depression after your wife cheats on you can be very difficult, but it's something you have to do for yourself if you want to either move on in your life to a different more healthy relationship with your wife or even someone else entirely. One thing most people don't ...
Views: 10762 - After The Affair: Is Suspicion Taking Over Your Life? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2018 from C Mellie SmithThere is still hope after the affair. All marriages have problems, and you might think that infidelity would cause all marriages to break up; however, you'd be wrong. Surprisingly enough, quite a few marriages do survive infidelity. In fact, recent surveys indicate that only ...
Views: 1178 - Beating the Odds: How to Survive Infidelity and Have a Happy, Healthy Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2016 from C Mellie SmithIt may seem impossible when you first find out that your spouse is cheating, or realize you’ve cheated and potentially destroyed your marriage, to realize that you can come out of infidelity with a happier and healthier marriage. It really doesn’t mean the end if you are both committed. Here are ...
Views: 1826 - Confused About How to Save Your Marriage After Infidelity? Here's What You Need to Know - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2014 from C Mellie SmithInfidelity knocks you on your rear-end, and changes your world like almost nothing else can. Even if you are the one who cheated, the trust you and your spouse had for each other is now gone. Not only is the trust gone for the spouse, it's gone for yourself and even the entirety of ...
Views: 2033 - Dealing with Infidelity: The 8 Mistakes You're Making and Don't Even Know It - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2014 from C Mellie SmithWhether you are the one who committed adultery or your spouse is the one who cheated it's likely that you're trying to overcome it and survive the affair. Whether that means going through with a divorce or trying to save your marriage, some people deal with infidelity with erroneous ...
Views: 1706 - Do You Recognize These Mental Blocks to Affair Recovery? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2014 from C Mellie SmithIf your husband cheated on you, you may be in despair. After all, this form of betrayal cuts so deep. By discovering the best ways to overcome mental blocks which are related to affair recovery, you'll make it easier to move forward to a brighter future. Whether you decide to stick it ...
Views: 1798 - Does Emotional Cheating Always Lead to an Affair? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2018 from C Mellie SmithYou’ve noticed your spouse has pulled away. They’re spending more time at work. They’re going out with a friend after work. Or maybe they’ve made a new friend of the opposite sex and are spending a lot of time with them. You suspect they’re having an emotional affair. Maybe ...
Views: 1792 - Help Dealing with Infidelity: What to do When the Thoughts Still Haunt You - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2014 from C Mellie SmithYou wake up in a sweat after watching the scene in your dreams of him with her. Him kissing her, him running his hands through her hair like he does you, him whispering sweet nothings in her ear – the visions never stop. That’s what you imagine about the cheating. It’s the same for men and ...
Views: 1911 - Help Dealing With Infidelity: Where do You begin? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2014 from C Mellie SmithFinding out your spouse is cheating can send your life and emotions into a downward spiral so strong that you feel like you cannot ever overcome or get out of. Getting help dealing with infidelity is a necessity if you want to find a way to swim out of the downward spiral. It all starts with the ...
Views: 1325 - How Can You Ignite The Spark And Rebuild Your Relationship After Cheating? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2014 from C Mellie SmithWhen infidelity happens, it can literally feel like the earth has swallowed you up along with the carpet that has been ripped violently out from under you. Your world has changed. Everything you believed to be true is suddenly challenged in a way that you never thought possible when you married ...
Views: 3631 - How the Stages of Grief Apply to Infidelity - by Submitted on May 17, 2015 from C Mellie SmithAlmost everyone has heard of the five stages of grief. These are the usual steps in the scattered time line of true grief. The five stages do not always occur in the same order, and sometimes the different stages are revisited throughout the grieving process. They exist because, as ...
Views: 5987 - How to Bring Back The Passion And Romance in Your Marriage Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2018 from C Mellie SmithWhen it truly comes down to it, marriage requires a lot of work. This isn’t because it is a difficult thing to maintain, as loving someone can be rather easy, but because a strong marriage requires the desire of two people to outlast and outstrip all of the difficult times and negative ...
Views: 816 - How to Confront Your Partner if You Think They're Cheating - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2018 from C Mellie SmithWhen it comes to suspicions of cheating, whether you think it is an emotional, physical, or cyber affair, it can be extremely tempting to just confront your spouse outright. This natural response makes sense to you because you are probably feeling like your entire world is crashing down ...
Views: 1447 - How to Deal With a Spouse Cheating on You With One of Your Family Members - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2018 from C Mellie SmithWe have all been there, reading articles online about how difficult it is to learn of a spouse’s betrayal and infidelity. Beyond heartbreaking, the pain is not something that anyone can even begin to imagine because it is so insurmountable. Unfortunately, cheating and betrayal is all too ...
Views: 1165 - How to Deal with Infidelity Resulting in a Child - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2014 from C Mellie SmithIt’s bad enough to find out your spouse has had an affair, but to add to it the daily reminder that a child resulted from the union can be very difficult to deal with. On one hand the child is completely innocent, but unfortunately due to your spouse’s choices the child is a reminder of ...
Views: 12130 - How to Deal With Sadness After an Affair - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2014 from C Mellie SmithSadness and depression are normal emotions to feel after you discover that your husband has betrayed you. Knowing its normal though, isn’t enough to see you through this time of grief. You are heartbroken about what you thought was true about your life, and even though you are trying to make ...
Views: 4010 - How to Deal with Your Husband's Emotional Affair - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2018 from C Mellie SmithWith all of the different ways people have to communicate in today's world, it seems that an emotional affair is something that threatens more and more marriages. Today people can talk through text messaging and social network sites in addition to normal conversation. These methods of ...
Views: 1011 - How to Face up to Your Self-Doubt and Feelings of Worthlessness After Cheating on Your Spouse - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2018 from C Mellie SmithAfter an affair the focus is often on the person who was cheated on. The person who had the affair is often left to manage their emotions on their own. Yet, an affair is an emotional time for both of you. If you’ve had an affair you may feel confused. You may be hurt, angry and ...
Views: 981 - How to Find The Road to Forgiving Your Unfaithful Spouse - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2016 from C Mellie SmithWhen you first find out about your spouse’s infidelity you may feel as if there is no way to ever truly forgive them. You may feel as if the trust is broken beyond repair. But, the truth is, many people have overcome infidelity and gone on to have an even better, closer, more long lasting, happy ...
Views: 1466 - How to Get Your Confidence Back After Your Partner Cheated on You - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2019 from C Mellie SmithThere is no doubt about it, being cheated on hurts. It makes you question your self-worth, causes you to pass judgement on yourself, and it makes you feel like you are undeserving of love. The betrayal of having your loved one choose someone else over you can seriously mess you up. Your ...
Views: 993 - How To Go About Repairing The Humiliation And Injury To Your Husband's Pride Caused By Your Affair - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2019 from C Mellie SmithWhen dealing with infidelity men are surprisingly more easily hurt and more deeply wounded than women in many cases. If you cheated on your husband and are now trying to put the pieces of your marriage back together, you both have a difficult task ahead. The Discovery of Infidelity Colors The ...
Views: 764 - How to Know They Are Truly Sorry: 6 Signs of Remorse After Infidelity - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2019 from C Mellie SmithOne of the major issues in relationships that attempt to mend and stay together after infidelity has been discovered is the lack of not knowing whether what you are seeing, and hearing is genuine and real. Your affair partner may say that they are sorry but provide you with simplistic and ...
Views: 1747 - How to Rekindle a Marriage After an Emotional Affair - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2016 from C Mellie SmithYou turned your back on the truth and chose denial when you started to notice the little things - the coldness, the redirected warmth, the quick temper where it used to be so chill. You thought that your spouse just needed a little bit of time off, so you gave it, and then you found them out. ...
Views: 1800 - How to Save Your Marriage after Infidelity - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2015 from C Mellie SmithInfidelity, when you’re in the midst of it, can feel like the end of the world. It definitely feels like the end of your marriage. But, if you really want your marriage to survive you’re going to have to find the emotional fortitude to forgive, let go, and move on. Believe it or not, many ...
Views: 1317 - How to Strengthen the Emotional Bond in Your Relationship After Infidelity - by Submitted on May 10, 2016 from C Mellie SmithIn many ways, the time in your relationship after infidelity is completely new. But, in others, it’s not. It’s a strange feeling because while so much has remained the same, something really big has changed. It can take a lot of time and effort to strengthen the emotional bond in your ...
Views: 2180 - How to Tell if Your Husband’s Online Emotional Affair is Over - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2019 from C Mellie SmithOnline affairs have become one of the most common forms of emotional affairs, and they have caused many couples to break up. The signs of an online affair can be difficult to detect, but there are subtle clues that something is not OK. Chances are, you’ve noticed that your husband ...
Views: 1298 - How to Win Back Your Husband After You Cheated on Him - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2016 from C Mellie SmithMarriage is never easy. No one agrees to a lifetime of partnership expecting constant marital bliss without compromise. When you took your wedding vows and became a wife, you promised loyalty and faithfulness to your husband, for better or for worse. And yet, though you have originally ...
Views: 1351 - Is Staying With a Cheating Partner a Sign of Low Self-Esteem - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2018 from C Mellie SmithWhen you are in a relationship one of the worse crimes your Partner can commit is to cheat on you, it is quite heartbreaking no matter the reason. Before you experience it firsthand your go-to reaction would probably be to deal with said partner and give them the boot. All this probably ...
Views: 3664 - Is Your Marriage Worth Saving? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2015 from C Mellie SmithSometimes a marriage comes to the point where you are truly considering whether or not it’s worth it to stay in the marriage. But, it’s important that you don’t act too quickly. Marriage is more than just two people in love; it’s also a legal contract that should sometimes be held up just ...
Views: 2741 - Life After an Affair: Searching Within For The Strength to Move On - by Submitted on May 22, 2016 from C Mellie SmithThe truth is, overcoming infidelity isn’t really something that is going to happen overnight, but it can happen and has less to do with the affair than it has to do with you. You and your spouse need to each work on these things within yourselves before you can truly move on and create a ...
Views: 1665 - Looking Inwards To Save your Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2018 from C Mellie SmithWhen you wanted to get married, many people probably took it upon themselves to tell you how hard and tough marriage can get, but you thought to yourself that yours would be the different one. It can’t and won’t be that tough (after all the both of you have dated for a long time), what would ...
Views: 1248 - Rebuilding You: How to Heal From Insecurity After Infidelity - by Submitted on May 26, 2019 from C Mellie SmithThe discovery of infidelity is like an earthquake destroying a building; it rips a strong foundation right out from under your feet and replaces it with a tarnished version of what you once knew. It completely removes all stability you had, demolishes your self-esteem and confidence and ...
Views: 1247 - Should You Try to Salvage The Marriage After an Affair? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2018 from C Mellie Smith“Fix it, fix it. Fix it” These were Patricia’s words to her friends after Gavin’s death when they could not come to a truce in their marriage in the movie “Why did I get married too?” So you have finally said the “I dos.” It was a beautiful ceremony, and you both are all smiles. I married ...
Views: 1529 - Successfully Saving Your Marriage After Infidelity: Is it Even Possible? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2014 from C Mellie SmithYou've gone through something horrible, a total breakdown of the trust in your marriage. You may wonder how anyone can ever overcome such a devastating blow, and also wonder if there is even a possibility that your marriage can be saved. The one differentiator to determining overcoming ...
Views: 1286 - The True Cost of Cheating in a Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2014 from C Mellie SmithOne of the biggest costs of cheating in a relationship isn't the devastation it causes to the relationship; sometimes it's the loss of trust in you as a good person that is the biggest cost of all. The truth is, the closest relationship you'll ever have, is the relationship you have with ...
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