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- Butterflies or Thorns? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Ronald RossYour life, like mine, is a series of interwoven relationships. Some are (were) wonderful, life-giving experiences and some are (were) absolutely horrible, but all worked together to make us who we are today. If it wasn't for the relationship my mother had with my father (they were married ...
Views: 662(1 vote) - How You Define Yourself Makes a Difference - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Ronald Ross“I’m just the bastard son of an L.A. whore.” The comment startled me as I conversed with a handsome gentleman before church began. His definition of himself makes clear my assertion that how you define yourself makes a difference. The easiest way adults define themselves is by their ...
Views: 947(1 vote) - Bad Belief Systems You Must Lose if You Want to WIN - Part 12 Cynicism - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2020 from Ronald RossCynicism is the presumption that no one or anything should ever be trusted. Cynics suffer a gloomy outlook and a sarcastic tongue; they are the opposite of cheerfulness and respect. A cynical person is filled with bitterness, speaks with malice, and suspects even the most honorable people. It ...
Views: 844 - Bad Belief Systems You Must Lose if You Want to WIN - Part 13 - REGRETISM - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2020 from Ronald RossDo you have a long list of stupid things you’ve said and done? Yeah, me too. Then, if you’re like me, you have the harmful habit of constantly re-experiencing those thoughtless and injurious acts of idiocy. And when we do, we focus on the fault and re-experience the pain. In the process, we ...
Views: 1011 - 1.0: Five Questions to Ask Yourself When Thinking About Your Own Personal Success - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2015 from Ronald RossSuccess is not an accident. It takes planning, effort and discipline. One way for you to seek your own personal success is to ask the right questions. When you ask the right questions you have a better chance to get the right answers. The kinds of questions I refer to are not ...
Views: 906 - 2.0 Five Questions to Ask Yourself When Thinking About Your Own Personal Success - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2015 from Ronald RossQuestion 1: Which is easier to accomplish: to make the world adjust to my particular needs or for me to adjust to the world as it is today? Singer/songwriter Lauryn Hill wrote, “That strong mother doesn’t tell her cub, Son, stay weak so the wolves can get you. She says, Toughen up, this is ...
Views: 951 - 2.3. Prepare for Action: Talk - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2014 from Ronald RossYou are about to change the total direction of your life. You are going to move from a life of relative idleness to one of ambition and perhaps even sacrifice and the transition can be scary. You need to talk. Some people will think you are nuts if you declare your intention to make a ...
Views: 970 - 2.4: Listen: How to Receive Advice - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2015 from Ronald Ross“Do not under any circumstances leave for Africa without sufficient funds raised to sustain you for at least three years.” That was the advice given me by a seasoned missionary as I considered taking my young family to Africa. It was good advice. We saw how good it was when we arrived in Lusaka ...
Views: 1173 - 2.5. Prepare for Action: Establish Principles - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2015 from Ronald Ross“Would you like to know a quick and easy way to discern right from wrong?” I asked the students in a college class I was teaching. Every head bobbed enthusiastically up and down indicating they were interested. “Before I tell you, let me say this.” I paused as the room went silent. The ...
Views: 973 - 2.6: Prepare for action – PLAN - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2015 from Ronald RossHave you ever ridden in a multi-million dollar executive jet? My brother has been a professional pilot all his life. I once flew with him from Colorado to Florida in one of the most technologically advanced executive jets ever built. He had been flying this magnificent airplane and his ...
Views: 1007 - 2.7 Prepare of Action – Count the Cost - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2015 from Ronald RossDo you know the difference between price and cost? The terms “price” and “cost” can be confusing. The two terms are related, but quite different. The price is the amount you pay for a product or service. When you pay a price for something, the price represents the value of what you give up ...
Views: 645 - 2.8 Prepare for Action Set Real Priorities - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2015 from Ronald RossWould you like a simple definition of priorities? Here it is: The things that matter most. That may be far too simple a definition for a time management expert, but many books, blogs, songs and poems use that definition. “First Things First” is a book about separating the urgent from the ...
Views: 953 - 3.0 Five Questions to Ask Yourself When Thinking About Your Own Personal Success Question 2: Who is best suited to fix my personal problems, politicians in Washington DC or me? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2015 from Ronald RossThere are an increasing number of people who think Washington DC has all the resources and all the wisdom necessary to solve their daily personal problems. This kind of thinking is music to the ears of professional politicians and government bureaucrats because they want as many people as ...
Views: 952 - 3.0: Protect Your Mind – Section 3 Introduction - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2015 from Ronald RossYour mind is the singularly most powerful tool for success that you own. It is powerful beyond measure and more valuable than the combined wealth you could ever earn in your lifetime. So, like anything of value, you must protect your mind. But protect your mind from what? From the six ...
Views: 977 - 3.2 Protect Your Mind from Depravity - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2015 from Ronald RossDo you watch those mystery documentaries where they take a crime and re-live it, then follow through to the capturing of the perpetrator, his/her trial and ultimate incarceration? We do. One especially gory episode we started to watch featured a variety of hideous acts that led to the ...
Views: 676 - 3.3: Protect Your Mind from Garbage - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2015 from Ronald Ross“Take out the garbage!” was a command my mother shouted at me when I was a kid. Today I stuff much of it down the garbage disposal; hit the “on” switch for a few seconds and it all goes down the drain. The rest I wrap tightly in a Walmart grocery bag, place it in the garbage can out back, and ...
Views: 1084 - 3.4 Protect your mind from shallowness - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2015 from Ronald RossSome years ago I had the privilege of being a judge at a regional Miss America pageant. You probably know that Miss America pageants are not just about beauty but also intellect. Besides the various beauty related events, the contestants were brought before the Judges one at a time to answer any ...
Views: 984 - 3.5: Protect your mind from Self-criticism - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2015 from Ronald RossSelf-talk, whether positive or negative, is your inner voice that says things you seldom speak out loud. How you talk to yourself determines the kind of person you are becoming. The good news and the bad news about self-talk is that what you say is what you get. Speak critically to yourself ...
Views: 936 - 3.6: Protect your mind from Pride - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2015 from Ronald RossIt is very easy to think, I’m wiser, I’m prettier, I’m more talented, I’m smarter, I’m more popular, I’m better than you at this or that or something else. Of the seven deadly sins, pride is considered the most alluring and the most destructive. Bad pride shows up as conceit, self-importance, ...
Views: 671 - 4.0 Five Questions to Ask Yourself When Thinking About Your Own Personal Success Question 3: Which will ultimately result in a better me: continued dependency or self-reliance? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2015 from Ronald RossThere may be times in your life when you need outside help to survive. That is why there are a variety of wonderful charities and social services to help people in times of need. But the reality is programs like Welfare, food stamps, free lunch, and government housing, are ultimately harmful to ...
Views: 678 - 4.1: Proceed Forward – Accept Responsibility - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2015 from Ronald RossThe airport departure lounge was crowded with family and friends bidding us farewell for a 3+ year commitment in Central Africa. I was only 25-years-old and had a wife and two children, had never travelled internationally and had little idea of what to expect upon our arrival in Africa. In ...
Views: 888 - 4.2: Proceed Forward – Calms Your Fears - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Ronald RossWhen you were a kid were you afraid of ghosts, goblins, monsters and that big scary Bogeyman under your bed? Me too, but I got over it. Would you like to shine the light on the ghosts of past mistakes and scare away the monsters of unforeseen obstacles? Would you like to blow off the menacing ...
Views: 978 - 4.3: Proceed Forward – Tests Your Theories - by Submitted on May 04, 2015 from Ronald RossThe first powered airplane took flight on December 17, 1903 on a wind-swept beach in North Carolina. Bicycle shop owner brothers Orville and Wilber Wright had long been testing theories of powered flight and on this day, their hard work paid off. Orville piloted the first flight that lasted ...
Views: 908 - 4.4: Proceed Forward – Improves Your Skills - by Submitted on May 11, 2015 from Ronald Ross“How many hours must a flight student fly before he can solo?” I asked my flight-instructor brother. “Around 17 hours of training and he or she must make at least 50 take-offs and landings.” In other words, you do not learn how to fly by reading books and hanging out at the airport talking ...
Views: 964 - 4.5: Proceed Forward – Opens Doors - by Submitted on May 18, 2015 from Ronald RossAnother significant reason that proceeding forward gives you the 5000+ Advantage is that motion attracts help, and as you go through life, there will be times when help is what you need. Several years ago the Air Force Academy football program was highly rated with a great won/lost record and ...
Views: 1025 - 4.6: Proceed Forward –Nourishes Your Soul - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Ronald RossDoing nothing is the hardest work there is. If you do physical work all day long you will come home tired. If you get up late and lay around the house all day in your pajamas, eat junk food, leave the dishes in the sink, let the yard go to seed and then moan and complain that all you have is ...
Views: 986 - 5.0 Five Questions to Ask Yourself When Thinking About Your Own Personal Success: Question 4: Which is most likely to help me succeed: to pull some other person down or help someone else succeed? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Ronald RossYou know the answer: you help yourself most when you help others succeed. But the easier thing to do is pull everyone down, or at least to continue to hang with those who refuse to do anything positive or take any affirmative action to improve their lives. It is easy to find people with whom ...
Views: 1121 - 5.0: Persevere Power - Introduction - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2015 from Ronald RossConfidence does not come easy. Fear does, disappointment does, anger does, failure does; each with little or no effort. But confidence, courage, composure, or conquest does not. If it did, more people would display it in their daily lives. Because it takes effort, because it takes risk, ...
Views: 937 - 5.2: The Infinite Source of Your Perseverance Power - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2015 from Ronald RossTerry Fox is a name millions of Canadians know well and Terry wasn’t even a hockey player – he was a runner – and he ran for miles and miles and miles – all with a prosthesis on his amputated leg. At the age of 18 Terry was diagnosed with bone cancer in his right knee and lost his right leg ...
Views: 1031 - 5.3: A Purposeful Life Creates Perseverance Power - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2015 from Ronald RossPeople without purpose are not living they are only existing. They are like a rudderless ship on a vast ocean driven hither and yon by the winds and tides. They wonder what the heck happened in the past while they wander aimlessly into the future. On the other hand, people with a purpose are ...
Views: 923 - 5.4: Persevere Power – When Quitters Win - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2015 from Ronald RossQuitting seems to be a way of life for so many people. How many teenagers do you know who quit school a few months before graduation? Look up and down your street – how many divorced people live around you? Did you ever get so mad at your boss that you walked off the job? What’s with all the ...
Views: 929 - 5.5: The Reward of Perseverance - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2015 from Ronald Ross“Cassie won a full-ride scholarship to a Division One California University!” bragged my friend whose granddaughter is a star high-school track athlete. “What is her best event?” I asked. “The 100 meter hurdles,” he answered with a puffed up chest (he was a state high school championship ...
Views: 959 - 5.6: Persevere Power is Enhanced in Surrender - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2015 from Ronald RossMore often than I care to admit, I have quit. I have walked off of jobs, terminated projects, and submitted to the realities of more than one broken business model. No doubt there were times when I quit too soon; if I would have persevered another day or week or month, I may have achieved my ...
Views: 1076 - 5.7: One Easy Thing You Can Do to Help You Persevere! - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2015 from Ronald RossDo you have someone around you who whines about the sun when it’s hot and then when it is winter he/she complains about the cold? Do you have a friend or relative who dumps their problems on you but they never attempt to change the way they think, speak or act? Some people feel so bad about ...
Views: 867 - 6.0 Five Questions to Ask Yourself When Thinking About Your Own Personal Success Question 5: Am I a victim or a victor? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2015 from Ronald RossFor review, here are the first four questions to ask yourself when thinking about your own personal success: • Q1: Which is easier to accomplish: to make the world adjust to my particular needs or for me to adjust to the world as it is today? • Q2: Who is best suited to fix my personal ...
Views: 979 - Acquire Confidence - Part 1: How Confident are You? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2014 from Ronald RossHow confident are you? It makes a difference, you know. The measure of your self-confidence is revealed in a variety of ways: your voice, the language you use, your body language, your grooming and much more. Self-confident people have a natural magnetism about them. They can be identified ...
Views: 684 - Acquire Confidence - Purpose for Living: Who are YOU? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2014 from Ronald RossWho am I, and, why am I here? Those are the two most important questions you can ask yourself. Let’s answer question 1, “Who am I?” Some say you’re the product of a bit of slime that squirmed its way out of some prehistoric bog and evolved from this to that, then to something else until ...
Views: 882 - Acquire Confidence – Looking Ahead - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2014 from Ronald RossThis weekly column is a portion of a book soon to be published under the title, “Acquire Confidence: What Confident People Do That You Can Do Too!” When the book is complete it will have six sections with several of the columns as a part of each section. The following is a ...
Views: 1004 - Anger Fever: How to Express Your Anger without Getting Arrested! – Part 4 - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2015 from Ronald RossThe sixth and best way to deal with anger is to SPEAK OUT. Previously I discussed S – Supervise yourself, P – Ponder appropriate responses. Now the E, A and K in the work SPEAK! E - EXPLAIN. EXPLAIN HOW YOU FEEL. Explaining how you feel is far different than screaming a stream of ...
Views: 965 - Anger Fever: How to Express Your Anger without Getting Arrested! – Part 5 - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2015 from Ronald RossFor weeks now I have been writing about anger and how it can destroy your relationships. To help you deal with your anger by speaking out using appropriate words and communication techniques I have developed an acrostic from the word S-P-E-A-K. The acrostic looks like this: S - Supervise ...
Views: 929 - Anger Fever: How to Express Your Anger without Getting Arrested! - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2015 from Ronald RossBy Ron Ross My neighbor came charging across the street. His eyes bulged out and his fists were clenched as he came screaming into my yard, “Why the ____ did you call the cops on me?” “Because you cannot keep you dogs from barking and the entire neighborhood is fed up with it,” I said in ...
Views: 934 - Anger Fever: How to Express Your Anger without Getting Arrested! – Part 2 - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2015 from Ronald RossBy Ron Ross Previously I described two ways to deal with anger, BLOW OUT and STRIKE OUT. Here are three other ways people deal with anger: FAKE OUT! The FAKE OUT way of dealing with anger is used by people who think they have to be nice all the time, so they try to FAKE OUT others by ...
Views: 1139 - Anger Fever: How to Express Your Anger without Getting Arrested! – Part 3 - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2015 from Ronald RossBy Ron Ross Anger can be expressed in six common ways. Five of them do not work well. Those five are BLOW OUT, STRIKE OUT, FAKE OUT, SNUFF OUT, and PULL OUT. Read about them at RonRossToday.com The best way to deal with anger is to learn how to effectively SPEAK OUT your anger without ...
Views: 935 - Bad Belief Systems You Must Lose if You Want to WIN - Part 10 Humanism - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2020 from Ronald RossThose who believe in Humanism advocate a doctrine that allows them to engage in anything which the human body may desire. They tolerate immorality, advocate abortion up to and including the ninth month, and support euthanasia, homosexuality, adultery, and any variety of invented "gender" ...
Views: 728 - Bad Belief Systems You Must Lose if You Want to WIN - Part 11: Criticalism - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2020 from Ronald RossNo one likes a critic, but that doesn't stop many who criticize darn near everything that happens. Those folks suffer from a belief system that is personally and socially destructive. They believe that nothing is ever right or good enough. There are two kinds of critics – the kind we're most ...
Views: 608 - Bad Belief Systems You Must Lose if You Want to WIN - Part 14 ESCAPISM - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2021 from Ronald RossIf you want to escape reality, you have a lot of help. There are many industries ready to free your mind as they take your money — the gaming-industry is one of them. The global video game revenue was around $180 billion in 2020, making it a bigger moneymaker than the worldwide movie and North ...
Views: 568 - Bad Belief Systems You Must Lose if You Want to WIN - Part 14 TOMORROW-ISM - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2021 from Ronald RossTomorrow-ism and procrastinationitis are two words I've created to refer to the habit of putting off until tomorrow that which can (should) be done today. You suffer from procrastinationitis if you think, "Tomorrow I'll spend more time with my children" or "Tomorrow I'll work on being a better ...
Views: 669 - Bad Belief Systems You Must Lose if You Want to WIN - Part 16 - It'll-do-ism - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2021 from Ronald Ross"It'll-do-ism" is the belief that good enough is good enough. It is the opposite of perfectionism (Bad Belief System #5). The day I turned 16-years old, I already knew how to drive, so I got my driver's license. I wasn't a very good driver (though I thought I was), but I was good ...
Views: 686 - Bad Belief Systems You Must Lose if You Want to WIN - Part 17 - MATERIALISM - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2021 from Ronald RossMaterialism is a philosophical theory that matter is the only substance, and reality and everything else — thought, emotions, intellect, and existence — are explained in terms of physical phenomena on matter. Do not confuse materialism with stuff-ism — the constant acquisition of possessions — ...
Views: 845 - Bad Belief Systems You Must Lose if You Want to WIN - Part 18 Utopianism - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2021 from Ronald RossWe all search for a little heaven on earth, but so far, no one’s found it. We want to live in a place where we are safe, comfortable, and content, but it won’t be found on this planet. Some claim the earliest Christians were utopian socialists because they had “all things in common.” (Acts 2 ...
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