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- Divorce to Remarriage: Don't "Re-do" your "I do" Before you Read This - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2007 from Alyssa JohnsonRemarriage is challenging in the best of situations. While most people are very excited about the idea of remarrying, very few adequately prepare themselves for the minefield of challenges that lie in wait for them. You should! Believe it or not, the remarriage divorce rate is at least ...
Views: 8323 - Divorce to Remarriage: What Happens When You Rush to Wed The Second Time Around - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Alyssa Johnson50% of first marriages end in divorce. 75% of those divorcees will remarry. At least 60% of those remarriages will end in a re-divorce. Sobering statistics aren't they? But why are they this high? 50% of first marriages end in divorce I'm not even going to make a guess at the reason for ...
Views: 8104(1 vote) - Step Families & Remarriage - Great Ways to Ruin a Step Family - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2007 from Alyssa JohnsonStep families are hard. Anyone who says different doesn’t know what they’re talking about. Unfortunately the Brady Bunch just isn’t a reality. Those kids didn’t have two homes they were going back and forth to. They didn’t have parents who were trying to co-parent with an ex-spouse. And ...
Views: 3349 - Life After Divorce -The Absolute Best Way to Move Forward After A Divorce - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2009 from Alyssa JohnsonMy favorite song right now is "In Better Hands Now" by Natalie Grant. I was on a long car drive this morning and falling asleep so I put this song on when suddenly it hit me how much this song has to say for those of you who have recently divorced. Support and encouragement can come from any ...
Views: 3328(2 votes) - Relationships After Divorce: When Is Too Soon to Date After a Divorce? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2009 from Alyssa JohnsonMaking the choice to begin dating after divorce may cause lots of emotions for you. The thought can be exciting, scary, happy or even sad. But what about the feelings your kids may be having about it? One of the most important aspects to keep in mind when considering your children's reactions ...
Views: 2762(1 vote) - Self-Care: How to Take It Easy on Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonI will be the first to admit that self-care does not come natural for me! I am your “Type A, push through ‘til you drop, make it perfect or else” – kinda girl! Grasping the importance of self-care is something I’ve had to learn. I usually do a pretty good job with it, because I’ve learned ...
Views: 2733 - Sex in the Remarriage - The Most Important Ingredient for a Strong Step Family - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2007 from Alyssa JohnsonIn first marriages, the old saying is to put a bean in a jar every time you make love during the first year. For every year thereafter, take one out every time you make love. By the end of your marriage, it is said that the jar will finally be empty. It's a nice wives tale, but not necessarily ...
Views: 2311 - How to Enjoy Life – One Day at a Time - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonEver wonder how to enjoy life? This month we continued our focus on living out our life’s purpose. Discovering your purpose can seem rather daunting, but once you’ve got a direction, it can be even more difficult to stay focused and not allow obstacles to get in your way! Let’s face it. ...
Views: 2043(1 vote) - Step Families & Remarriage - More Great Ways to Ruin a Step Family - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2007 from Alyssa JohnsonStep families are the fastest growing family in America. While that may be the case, there is a lot of confusion about how they function and what they look like. This confusion, unfortunately, leads to anger and heartbreak as these new families quickly realize just how hard it is to be a step ...
Views: 1922 - How to Leave a Legacy: The Ripple Effect - by Submitted on May 10, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonI want to leave a legacy. How ‘bout you? I want to know I left a mark on this world and not just any old mark, but one that really made a positive difference in as many lives as possible. Sound impossible? No way! Every action you take has the potential to be a ripple effect. What do I ...
Views: 1714 - Divorce to Remarriage: Meeting the Kids - How to Impress Them Not Depress Them - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Alyssa JohnsonDating after divorce can be tricky. But introducing that special someone to your children is even harder. Let's cover the 4 most important steps to take in that first meeting between your new partner and your children. 1. Don't introduce them too early - Be sure this is a committed ...
Views: 1695 - A Life Well Lived - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonI’ve been asked repeatedly “What are the nuggets that you most frequently share with the ladies you work with?” So I decided to share 4 life lessons I’ve learned in over 15 years of working with women and nearly that long being a mom. If you’ve ever wondered, “Who am I?” or “Why am I here?” ...
Views: 1665 - Not Perfect? The Good News Is…No One Is! - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonEver assumed someone’s mad or going to be mad at you? C’mon – we both know you have. How can I say that with certainty? Because ALL of us do that! It’s human nature. We want our interactions to go smoothly with others. But life’s not perfect and it never will be. People will get mad at ...
Views: 1644(1 vote) - The Power of Just One Word - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonRecently, I shared a simple 3 step process for waking up to what you enjoy. This helps point you in the right direction for understanding what’s truly important to you and why. Now, I want to share a practical step for choosing a direction and remaining focused on it. Getting clear on ...
Views: 1625 - Are You Sleep Walking Through Your Life? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonIt’s such a simple question. Your initial reaction may have been an offended “NO!” But too often, we get caught up in the daily busyness of life that we don’t look that far ahead. This is why those milestone birthdays – 30, 40, 50, 60 – can be a struggle. “Where did the time go? How did I ...
Views: 1621 - Self-Care is NOT a Bad Word - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonAs women, we’ve been conditioned to take care of everybody else. We feel it’s expected of us and there’s a lot of guilt involved in this. It almost seems sacrilegious to think “What about me?” Then there’s even more guilt! Guilt seems to be the underlying emotion relating to all of this. ...
Views: 1608 - Self Control - What Is It Exactly? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2012 from Alyssa JohnsonWe hear about the importance of self control all the time. I don't know about you, but I usually have visions of grey clothes, and a boring life whenever I hear the words self control!! I made the decision to do a little investigating on this topic for find out what's so great about Self ...
Views: 1573(1 vote) - Self-Care – What Do You Have Energy For? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonI went to a get together a friend of mine put on this week and heard a really sad comment by one of the ladies there regarding self-care. We were talking about friendships. She said that she’s so busy with all her responsibilities at work and with her kids that she notices that she purposely ...
Views: 1479(1 vote) - Self Esteem and Confidence: Release the Devil You Know - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonWe hear about the importance of self esteem and confidence just about every day in the media. These are areas that many women struggle with. They have to do with an overall belief (or lack thereof) in oneself and one’s ability to make wise decisions. I find that the hardest decisions for me ...
Views: 1410 - Life & Work Balance – Myth or Reality? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2013 from Alyssa Johnson“Is it even possible to achieve life & work balance?” bemoaned a client of mine a few months ago. She was running herself ragged trying to juggle about 15 plates at once. She’d hit a wall and wasn’t even sure where to go from here. She was exhausted, short-tempered with just about everyone ...
Views: 1409(1 vote) - How to Create More Meaningful Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonAre you longing for more meaningful relationships? A good place to start is with the people you love. These are the people who matter to you and you matter to them. I had an interesting revelation last night I wanted to share with you. I’ve known my husband for over 20 years. Sometimes we ...
Views: 1347 - What Is Important in Life for You? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonHave you ever asked yourself “What is important in life?” I’m not sure many people do. Let’s face it, life is busy. Life is chaotic. Life is exhausting. All of our “to do” lists are completely unrealistic and ridiculous. But that’s just life, right? Um….I’m going to be that little ...
Views: 1347 - I’m Not Perfect – But I’m Getting Better - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonOk, I admit it! I’m not perfect! Whew – I feel better getting that off my chest! Sometimes I feel a lot of pressure to seem like I’ve got it all together. My kids are watching me. My clients are watching me. People in organizations where I hold leadership positions are watching. I know, I ...
Views: 1327 - Self Control - How Can I Have More Of It? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2012 from Alyssa JohnsonSelf control is something all of us say we want more of. The mystery behind it is trying to figure out the how. How do I have self control? How do I make better choices? How will I know I can trust myself? I'd like to share 3 steps to help you move in the right direction. All 3 of these ...
Views: 1312 - What's Truly Important? Follow Your Heart - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2013 from Alyssa Johnson“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” This verse from Luke 12:34 keeps running through my mind as I think about why certain things have been important to me throughout my life. We finished up our discussion of Part #1 of the Vibrantly Live System this month – Defining ...
Views: 1298 - Balance in Life: What Do I Need Less Of? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonLast week we looked at having more balance in life by asking “What do I want more of?” This week, I want to help you take the opposite approach with a little twist. There’s great power in words. I share this principle with my clients all the time. Take a minute and notice how your emotional ...
Views: 1296(1 vote) - Take Care of You by Receiving this Gift - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonHave you ever realized how hard it is to take care of you when you don’t make it a priority? There’s always “stuff” to be done. Kids need rides. The house gets dirty. Groceries get eaten. But what about you? How much do you make taking care of you a priority? It needs to be a conscious ...
Views: 1291(2 votes) - A Life of Peace through Questioning - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonI work with women every week who claim that having a life of peace is their biggest priority. “A life of peace” doesn’t make for the best goal though. It’s not real specific. What’s that look like – really? I get it; they’re tired of the rushing, running, demands, difficult relationships and ...
Views: 1288 - How to Relieve Stress: Wave It Goodbye - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonOur world is stressful. Anyone disagree with that? So want to know how to relieve stress? It’s easy to find yourself tied up in knots over just about anything if you’re not careful. It takes a conscious decision to shield yourself from the chaos that surrounds us each and every day. I’d ...
Views: 1281(1 vote) - Self-Care – Enjoy Life: Am I Who I Want to Be? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonIt’s an important question. Life happens. We respond. And suddenly years have passed. This is where we get ourselves into trouble and realize, “This isn’t what I wanted! How did my life turn out like this? I don’t enjoy life right now!” The problem lies in not having asked that little ...
Views: 1280 - How do I get peace of mind in relationships? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonAs women, we love relationships! But how often do you find yourself asking “How do I get peace of mind relationships?” I mean, they can cause our greatest joys and our greatest heartbreaks! It can be quite a roller coaster if we’re not careful. Today, I’d like to share a simple process for ...
Views: 1272 - How to Find Peace: Be Determined…Be Dauntless - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonI like to choose 1 word to be my focus and anchor each year. This year I wanted to learn how to find peace in my everyday life. The word I chose is "dauntless". I used to struggle a lot with of fear of rejection, perfectionism and self-doubt. I knew in 2013, it needed to end. You see, I turn ...
Views: 1253 - Balance in Life: What Do I Want More Of? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonIt’s real easy as a mom to focus on everyone else’s needs. We want everyone to be happy and feel loved. But neglecting yourself doesn’t lead to much balance in life for you. I can hear it now – “Me? I don’t have time to think of me. I’m fine.” Really? If you think your needs are any less ...
Views: 1243 - Build Confidence to Step into the Life You Were Meant For - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonLots of people talk about the importance of learning how to build confidence, but they just talk in circles without ever getting to the “how to’s”. Personally, I find that extremely frustrating! I recently read a great book called the Right Questions, by the late Debbie Ford. She challenged ...
Views: 1238 - Self-Care for the Kids’ Sake - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonLeaving a legacy we can be proud of is a huge part of the mission of Vibrantly Live. Part of doing that is teaching the importance of self-care not only for us, as moms, but also for our children. Self-care allows you to be in the right frame of mind to handle life’s every day stressors. If ...
Views: 1236 - Goals in Life for Success - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Alyssa JohnsonAs you look at setting different goals in life, I want to encourage you to look at who you need to be rather than just what you need to do. Behavioral changes alone, don’t last. It’s only when we make real, internal changes in who we are that change is maintained. A critical aspect is making ...
Views: 1234 - How to Build Confidence? Become it! - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Alyssa JohnsonWe’re continuing our discussion of successful ways to achieve what’s truly important to you. Rather than just focusing on set tasks and trying to push your way through, I’ve been sharing the importance of being a different you prior to starting the tasks. This week, I want to talk about ...
Views: 1230 - How Can I Build Confidence to Move Forward? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonI had a difficult decision I was struggling with last month. I kept spinning my wheels going round and round trying to make a decision about moving forward. I kept lamenting: “How can I build confidence in making this decision?” I was stuck in this cycle for over 2 months. I’d been actively ...
Views: 1229 - How to Find Happiness: Resentful? Who, Me? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonResentment. It’s such an ugly word. You don’t usually think of it when considering how to find happiness! But it’s critical to the process! Let me show you how… What causes resentment? Feeling taken advantage of! As moms, this could be considered a daily occurrence if we’re not in the ...
Views: 1223(1 vote) - Peace of Mind Doesn’t Come from Assuming - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonPeace of mind can come from all sorts of places, but it definitely doesn’t come from assuming things about other people. We jump to conclusions all the time when it comes to people. These assumptions can get us in all sorts of problems. One of the most common errors is assuming someone is or ...
Views: 1212 - 3 Ways to be Happy in Your Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonThis month, I’ll be covering 3 different ways to be happy in the different relationships in your life. It’s something all of us want, but it’s not always the easiest thing to achieve. Why is that? I believe it’s due to assumptions we make. We’re so quick to assume things – a look means ...
Views: 1211(1 vote) - Life of Peace = Living on Purpose - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonI hear from the women I work with that they just want more of a life of peace rather than all the craziness they experience. What they’re referring to is that they don’t want the rushed, exhausting and stressed out feelings they carry around daily. Sounds good, doesn’t it? But at the same ...
Views: 1191(1 vote) - Relationship Advice – Avoid This Mistake! - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonTo have meaningful relationships we need to feel safe enough to be our true, authentic self. This is why one of the best relationship advice ideas I can offer you is to beware of judging others or assuming someone’s judging you. They tend to go hand in hand. If you’re a rather judgmental ...
Views: 1186 - A Life of Purpose One Decision at a Time - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonLast month I had the privilege of attending a conference with 500 other entrepreneurial women from around the world. We were there to focus on developing a life of purpose to serve in a greater way. It was an incredible experience, being in an environment with all of these other powerful women ...
Views: 1183 - Is Balance in Life a Myth? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonMost schools around here are back in session at this point. Finding balance in life may seem like a pipe dream for many. I see the harried expressions of moms as they drive their kids here, there, and everywhere. My foot was the victim of a grocery cart incident as a mother was rushing around ...
Views: 1181 - How Do You Find Your Purpose? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2013 from Alyssa Johnson“How do you find your purpose?” This is one of the most frequently asked questions! All of us what to know that we matter. We want to have an effect on this world. We want to know that everything we’ve gone through in this life was for something and that some type of legacy will be left. The ...
Views: 1179 - Peace of Mind: Finding More Mental Energy - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2014 from Alyssa JohnsonWith all the responsibilities we have, wanting a little more peace of mind is a given. But sometimes we don’t have time to even eat! Where will we find time to boost our mental energy? Before you go into panic mode and wish for extra hours in a day, let’s take a step back. Making sure your ...
Views: 1179 - Achieve Goals in 2014? Here’s how… - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2014 from Alyssa JohnsonHappy New Year! Can you believe it’s 2014? With the New Year, many people start wondering how to really achieve goals that are important to them. How about you? Are you ready to make a change or content to just continue floating along? This month, as we focus on the Vibrantly Live ...
Views: 1176 - Peace of Mind Naturally - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonPeace of mind often feels like a pipe dream that other people get to experience. But that doesn’t have to be YOUR reality! It is possible to experience it on a regular basis. You’re probably asking, “How?” about this time, aren’t you? Peace of mind will never be a reality if you don’t ...
Views: 1172(1 vote) - Spiritual Life Practices Allow More Energy - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2014 from Alyssa JohnsonOur spiritual life is often see as a taboo subject in “polite company”, but why? Because we have differing opinions? Because it’s a topic people feel strongly about? Sure. But I take a different approach. I think it’s something that needs to be discussed more. It’s only in sharing this ...
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