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- Awaken to the World that Drags You Down - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2023 from Guy FinleyLong before it’s possible for us to be spiritually reborn, we must first awaken to ourselves. Awakening is the sudden realization that somehow or other what I took to be the only world isn’t the only world.. But in a true awakening, I recognize that there’s a world beneath me. And the ...
Views: 480(1 vote) - Cancel These Three Painful Relationship Patterns Before They Get Started - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2019 from Guy FinleyOften when someone feels wronged by their partner they demand “payment” for the pain they feel unjustly inflicted upon them. History proves they will argue until this well-established pattern completes itself, one way or another. At some point, unable to resolve who’s to blame for the pain, one ...
Views: 909(1 vote) - LOSE INTEREST IN THE PAIN OF YOUR PAST - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2015 from Guy FinleyThere is no moment in which everything around us isn't beginning. In fact, if the various cosmos – from the greatest to the least – had a slogan it would be this: “In with the new, out with the old.” This celestial principle of regeneration is not only ceaseless in the world around us; it is ...
Views: 1203(1 vote) - Step Out of the Flood of Negative Thoughts and Feelings - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Guy FinleySomewhere in a remote region of the Southwestern United States, a park ranger was seated in his high tower. It overlooked the deep canyons and ravines that ran through the national park where he'd worked for the past twenty years. Looking out over the terrain through his binoculars, he could see ...
Views: 1555(1 vote) - The Awakening of Selfless Love - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2019 from Guy FinleyA middle-aged man had recently moved into a new city and, soon after, decided that he wanted to explore his immediate area, maybe meet some of his neighbors, as well as visit some of the interesting shops that lined the streets all around his apartment. Less than half-an-hour later, not ...
Views: 1033(1 vote) - Uncover the Fountain of Fresh Starts Hidden in You - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2013 from Guy FinleyWe tell ourselves that we want a new life; in our minds we see ourselves reclaiming our right to live without limitations. We see ourselves walking away from destructive relationships and letting go of negative thoughts and feelings. And this is the very problem. We talk to ourselves about a ...
Views: 1264(1 vote) - Put Yourself in Charge of All Outer Circumstances - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Guy FinleyBarring those moments when we find ourselves in real physical danger, conditions of themselves have absolutely no authority over us. It's true. No event or circumstance has any power to make us feel one way or another. The only command any condition may have over us is that which we ...
Views: 2924(3 votes) - 3 New Choices That Dismiss Dark Conditions - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2003 from Guy FinleyThree New Choices That Dismiss Dark Conditions One reason we must learn to say "Yes" to life -- regardless of how much we may not want what it brings -- is that whenever we embrace a fearful or negative view of some unwanted situation, not only must we still find our way through the twists and ...
Views: 1358(1 vote) - Freedom From Self-Defeating Behavior (an excerpt from "Beyond Dependency" an e-book - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2004 from Guy FinleyAn angel has two wings. On each of these wings is written one of these two words: YES and NO. As we are about to learn, these two simple words represent special principles that are the wings of spiritual freedom. For instance, we must learn to say YES to self-study, prayer, meditation and ...
Views: 2177(1 vote) - How to Win New Spiritual Strength - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2003 from Guy FinleyNo animal hides in shame for being itself. No tree bends to the opinion of others. No wind avoids the granite face before it. Only human beings cultivate ways in which to fawn or cower before one another, and all for the sake of winning nothing but a fleeting feeling that for their cunning they ...
Views: 1538(1 vote) - Keys to an Unshakable New Self - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2004 from Guy FinleyAny weakness we may harbor in our present character persists only because we have yet to see how its presence compromises our happiness, but a growing awareness of this interior shakiness changes everything. Our awakening stirs within us a Celestial Character created for the purpose of ...
Views: 1422(1 vote) - New Powers to Help You Perfect Your Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2003 from Guy FinleySince what others may do to us is not in our power to change, we need only concern ourselves with what we do to ourselves . . . for this is in our power. There is always a moment before a problem starts with another human being where we realize that what we want is not going to happen. ...
Views: 1396(1 vote) - Take Yourself to a Higher, Happier Life Level - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2003 from Guy FinleyUnlike the untold billions of other life forms teeming on the Earth -- whose nature is an open and shut case -- human nature is not fixed. What does this mean to you? Only everything! The tiger, the horse, and the bird, must express their nature. They have no real choice. And even though they ...
Views: 1460(1 vote) - The Dawning of Freedom - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2003 from Guy FinleyKey Lesson Part I: Life itself has never weighed-in so heavily upon us as to hurt us; rather it is we who - - in ignorance of reality - - carelessly attribute weight to events that are essentially without substance, causing ourselves to suffer nothing less than the fervent magnitude of our own ...
Views: 1335(1 vote) - To the Persistent Goes the Prize - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2004 from Guy FinleyKey Lesson: Part I: It seldom occurs to us that whatever we persist with in our lives works to perfect the same, so that by allowing persistent negative thoughts and feelings to have their way with us, we unknowingly perfect self-punishment! Part II: As surely as raindrops have the power to ...
Views: 1540(1 vote) - 10 Causes of Needless Heartaches - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2003 from Guy FinleyOur lives are meant to be bright, noble, and ever ascending. This promise of our True Potential is made good in us by the fulfillment of our possibilities, and not through the interminable struggle of trying to do what is impossible. Most of our sorrows are the offspring of trying to be ...
Views: 4255(3 votes) - Flow With The Present Moment - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Guy FinleyFlow With The Present Moment Into The Fullness Of The Free Mind Here's an inner life exercise of immeasurable value. Think of these new instructions as a kind of special cleansing agent, but not as a way to improve yourself. Let me explain. When we wash a window, to clean away its ...
Views: 1663(1 vote) - Act on What You Know Is True - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2012 from Guy FinleyTruthful principles can only act as agents of change for us when we choose to enact them. Their capacity to restore self-command, grant us a mind at peace, or deliver us from fearful dark states is only as great as our willingness to call upon their powers. That’s why we must do the personal ...
Views: 1354 - Enter Into Full Partnership With Love - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2020 from Guy FinleyLove often appears at our door as a beggar in disguise. There are countless ancient myths that tell how the gods would show up at the door of someone’s home, appearing to be in dire straits. On the surface of things, they seem to be seeking food and shelter; but, in truth, they’ve come to ask if ...
Views: 971 - Special Exercises to Help You and Your Partner Grow Together - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2019 from Guy FinleyIf we want to help our partner change, we must change. There is no other way. And more: unless we’re exceptionally blessed, it’s unlikely our partner has the same wish that we do: to keep growing and exploring a love that, at the start, was filled with surprising changes, but that has lost some ...
Views: 851 - Step Out of the Rush and Into Relaxed Living - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2012 from Guy FinleyA family went to its favorite park for a Saturday picnic lunch. While the three boys, William, Paul, and Michael, played together, running up and down the green rolling hills as fast as they could, Dad put the finishing touches on the meal while Mom put out the paper plates on a checkered picnic ...
Views: 1402 - The Great Law that Governs Harmonious Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2018 from Guy FinleyOur relationships with one another are often a source of distress. In general, the principal form of conflict we experience with others has to do with some form of consideration that we feel they are not giving to us. We often suffer from thoughts like these: "She is not being respectful ...
Views: 1045 - 10 Steps to Detect and Stop Secret Self-Sabotage - by Submitted on May 23, 2012 from Guy FinleyIt's a little known - yet much denied fact - that people treat you the way you secretly ask to be treated. Your unspoken request that determines how others behave toward you is extended to -and received by - everyone you meet. What is your invisible inner life? It's the way you actually feel ...
Views: 1559 - An Invitation to Outgrow Your Limitations - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2018 from Guy FinleyHave you ever noticed how the more negative you get, the more difficult everything about your life becomes, including being able to do the simplest things? It’s like suddenly sinking into dark molasses, where not only can’t you move, but everything you don’t want seems stuck to you! To the ...
Views: 1165 - Anger Management - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2012 from Guy FinleyQuestion: Why do I continue to get angry, and why do I always feel so justified in my anger even though it always makes me feel terrible at a later time? Answer: To be angry is to suffer. It doesn't help anyone to get angry. Anger hurts whoever is angry. It burns. Anger ruins relationships, ...
Views: 1795 - Apprentice of the Heart - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2004 from Guy Finley(An Excerpt from "Apprentice of the Heart") Seated in the center of the heart, as surely as the essence of a tiny seed holds the promise of a towering tree, lives within us the Presence of a Power that can dispel any gathering darkness and change what is unkind into conscious compassion. What ...
Views: 1344 - Change is Now or Never - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2021 from Guy FinleyVictory over our own lower nature is now or never. We can't end conflict later. We can't stop being sad, cruel, angry, scared, or anxious later. Thinking, or hoping, that any destination we have in mind is going to be superior to where we're presently standing is exactly why we're still standing ...
Views: 700 - Choose to Be Part of Life’s Endless Beginning - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2022 from Guy FinleyThe universe is a work being continually perfected; though unseen, it is justice, compassion in action. Those who resist and resent what comes their way—who fight with its unending waves that rock their contrived sense of reality—are actually the ones who live without real choice. They must ...
Views: 494 - Develop The Power Of Patience That Perfects Your Life - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2008 from Guy FinleyAn essential spiritual force is missing from our lives. We are about to gather ample evidence of this fact, and learn ways to recover this crucial force that we unknowingly give away. The power we're missing is patience. Real patience is not about waiting for one's expectations to be fulfilled. ...
Views: 1886 - Find Freedom in the Principles of Invisible Justice - by Submitted on May 09, 2012 from Guy FinleyThose with whom we assemble, we soon resemble! This simple old saying hides a deep Truth that can enlighten and empower every aspect of our lives: Who we are — our very essence — is continually being transformed by the company we keep. Stated differently, when we keep the company of ...
Views: 1567 - Find Your Fearless Inner Guide - by Submitted on May 31, 2020 from Guy FinleyFind Your Fearless Inner Guide The journey to the divinity within has its dangers. About this we are clear: the inner path is lined with many trials and pitfalls. But there is nothing to be feared in this realization. In truth, these encounters are actually stages of initiation; they are ...
Views: 818 - Find Your Fearless Inner Guide - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2020 from Guy FinleyThe journey to the divinity within has its dangers. About this we are clear: the inner path is lined with many trials and pitfalls. But there is nothing to be feared in this realization. In truth, these encounters are actually stages of initiation; they are necessary points along the upper path ...
Views: 1012 - Five Simple Laws to Help You Reach Your Highest Spiritual Possibilities - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2020 from Guy FinleyWe are all familiar with the general laws govern our physical well-being; eat healthy foods, exercise both mind and body, and avoid toxic people and places whenever possible. Adhere to these simple laws, and be relatively free from suffering; break them, and you place yourself under another set ...
Views: 879 - Free Yourself to Forgive - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2018 from Guy FinleyBy Guy Finley It is impossible to change the relationship we have with the world around us without changing the relationship we have within ourselves. This is the secret teaching of the ages. Our task, if we want to be free human beings -- if we want a life in which we no longer carry ...
Views: 1470 - Freedom from the Fear of Feeling Powerless - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2015 from Guy FinleyTrue spiritual “power” isn’t the ability to imagine and implement an endless series of new solutions to old problems. Rather, it is a radical new and higher form of self-understanding, one that illuminates and transcends our unconscious need to have any painful problems at all. Which would ...
Views: 1232 - Freedom From the Fear of Feeling Powerless - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2021 from Guy FinleyTrue spiritual “power” isn’t the ability to imagine and implement an endless series of new solutions to old problems. Rather, it is a radical new and higher form of self-understanding, one that illuminates and transcends our unconscious need to have any painful problems at all. Which would ...
Views: 838 - Fulfill the Higher Plan for Healing Whatever Pains You - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2012 from Guy FinleyIf one day you bang your elbow and seven years later the same spot still aches, and now radiating pains are appearing in your fingers and shoulder, you would start to suspect that something in your body's system was amiss! You would conclude, virtually beyond any doubt, that your original injury ...
Views: 1399 - Giving Yourself and Others Room to Grow - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2019 from Guy FinleyThere is one essential ingredient missing in most of our relationships -- one that is definitely required if we wish to continue in our own development and help others to do the same. What is this powerful catalyst that only we can provide for each other? Room in which to grow. We can help ...
Views: 1024 - How to Attract Divine Attention - by Submitted on May 02, 2018 from Guy FinleyOver the many years now of living on a small mountaintop in southern Oregon, I have learned many invaluable spiritual lessons by observing the wildlife that shares the forest in which my small house sits sequestered. In truth, nature and her creatures are always exhibiting some of the most ...
Views: 1389 - How to Attract Divine Attention - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2022 from Guy FinleyOver the many years now of living on a small mountaintop in southern Oregon, I have learned many invaluable spiritual lessons by observing the wildlife that shares the forest in which my small house sits sequestered. In truth, nature and her creatures are always exhibiting some of the most ...
Views: 550 - If You Want to See Change in the World, Do This! - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2021 from Guy FinleyAround the world today, millions if not billions of individuals are being consumed by negativity. The world and our relationship to the cosmos always run through cycles of increased or decreased activity. Right now we are in a cycle of increased activity where many people are stirred up. In such ...
Views: 864 - Let Go and Awaken to a Whole New You - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2015 from Guy FinleyBy the fact that everything about her existence is perfectly ordered, Mother Nature is “choice-less.” What does being “without choice” mean in this context? All creatures – from the smallest to the largest – from gnat, to gorilla, all the way to the humpback whale, must serve nature as she ...
Views: 1343 - Let The World Inside Of You Go By - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2007 from Guy FinleyA man once awakened to find himself riding through what appeared to be a haunted house. He didn't know exactly where he was. All he did know was that it was very dark and that he was moving along with no choice as to the direction. And if that wasn't bad enough, around almost every twisting ...
Views: 1200 - Make this Spiritual Fact Your Friend and Set Yourself Free - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2024 from Guy FinleyFreedom, real freedom, does exist. But it is not a condition or an event, nor is it found within another person's approval of us. Nor is real freedom ever a mere effect of circumstances, otherwise it is not freedom but merely a temporary pleasure we have mistaken for being the same as being ...
Views: 265 - Make this Spiritual Fact Your Friend and Set Yourself Free - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2024 from Guy FinleyFreedom, real freedom, does exist. But it is not a condition or an event, nor is it found within another person's approval of us. Nor is real freedom ever a mere effect of circumstances, otherwise it is not freedom but merely a temporary pleasure we have mistaken for being the same as being ...
Views: 255 - Meet Every Moment Awake to a Limitless Life - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2021 from Guy FinleyIt’s safe to say that most us wrestle with some kind of frustration on a daily basis. This kind of dissatisfaction can be with ourselves, over what we can or can’t get done—or with others, who may deny us our wish or otherwise disappoint our expectations. Accordingly, we can feel as though we ...
Views: 566 - New Powers to Help You Perfect Your Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2021 from Guy FinleyThere is always a moment before a problem starts with another human being where we realize that what we want is not going to happen. Ordinarily we'll say the other person is about to "ruin my day." But there is, for those of us who want to understand, not only a way for our day not to be ruined, ...
Views: 686 - One Journey to the Divine - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2013 from Guy FinleyIt's a familiar analogy, but quite accurate, to talk about our relationship with the sacred in the same way we describe a beautiful gemstone. There are many facets to a gem, and depending upon the angle from which we view it, we see light reflected and refracted differently. Several people ...
Views: 1330 - Practical Steps for Finding Inner Peace - by Submitted on May 23, 2019 from Guy FinleyWhen you want to enjoy the sunshine directly, you must go outdoors. You understand you have to take yourself physically to a place where the warming rays of the sun can fall upon you without interference. Likewise, when you want to know the powers that circulate through a quiet mind, you must ...
Views: 1108 - Principles for Perfecting Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2018 from Guy FinleyHave you ever been so upset, so disturbed by someone, that if you didn’t lash out at them, you were sure the whole world would come crashing down on you? When you and I get upset with someone, our attention is instantly glued onto the source of our irritation. All we do is think about the ...
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