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- Life Success Strategies - What Are Your Core Values? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonWhat are my core values? What's most important? The most important thing about the most important thing is to keep the most important thing the most important thing. I hope by now you are beginning to realize the importance of knowing what you want in your life, and you're beginning to ...
Views: 6308 - Personal Success Tips - Wu-Wei Techniques (Verbal Kung-Fu) - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonThe Wu Wei principle is to yield to an oncoming force in such a way as to render it harmless and at the same time, change its direction by pushing it from behind instead of resisting it from the front. When there is a conflict between two or more people, conditioned response is to cope by ...
Views: 4499 - What is Your Dharma? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonLiving your life on purpose allows your personal compass to direct you toward fulfilling your life purpose. When you’re on your intended path, you’re in dharma, which is an old Sanskrit word which Webster’s Dictionary defines as: an individual's duty fulfilled by observance of ...
Views: 3434 - Marry YourSelf First: The 13 Most Important Questions for Your Best Life - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonHere’s something everyone can relate to: Your Car. That wonderful and amazing piece of technology that takes you from one place to another… usually without any difficulty. And what is one big element the car relies on to get you there? The tires…those round rubber donuts which ...
Views: 2557(4 votes) - Integrity is Where Your Walk Matches Your Talk - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonSome people call this place and space perfect in a non-perfectionist way. This is your perfect path! Let's visit the barometer metaphor: A barometer is used to measure atmospheric pressure. This pressure change helps weather forecasters to predict what weather conditions might be ...
Views: 2517 - Personal Success Tips - Creative Self-Expression - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonHow is your self-expression going? Are you able to set and keep your boundaries? Are you asking for what you want? Are you letting people know if they are meeting your needs? And where are you having difficulty carrying out your self-expression? Better yet, why is it so important to do all ...
Views: 2471 - Relationship Success Strategies - Zen Listening - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonZen: Finding enlightenment through intuition and introspection. Listening: Making an effort to attentively hear another person speaking. Therefore Zen Listening might be best described as the art of using one’s intuition and introspection to be fully present with another person during a ...
Views: 2446(2 votes) - Abundant or Redundant: Where do You Live? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonAbundance….this word has become quite popular these days as one of the latest “metaphysical buzzwords”. ‘Creating abundance”, “Manifesting abundance”, and “living the abundant life” are just a few of the abundance of abundant clichés these days. All of these sayings are trying to convince us ...
Views: 2434 - Random Acts of Kindness and Pay it Forward - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonYou can actually push the envelope in your life a bit more by practicing good deeds for no seemingly special or specific reason. One very powerful action and attitude you can embrace is the practice of random acts of kindness while also creating the pay-it-forward system of living. Random ...
Views: 2225 - Life Success Strategies - Your Personal Integrity Meter - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonDiscern between accepting and settling. Accept what you cannot change, but never settle for anything below your standards. When you settle for less than your standards, you allow yourself to lose integrity and you lose a piece of yourself every time. Simple math tells you that the more you’re ...
Views: 2222 - The Best Mental Health Counseling: Seven Steps to Stress-less Success - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2010 from Ken Donaldson1) Create a life vision and visit it daily What I mean by a life vision is this: Where are you going? Where are you going in life? And what are you doing all this for? What’s the target? Many people don’t have this target or vision in their lives. They’re just in motion. They don’t ...
Views: 1917(6 votes) - SMART Goals - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken Donaldson“People don’t plan to fail; sometimes they just fail to plan.” One of the major steps of Stress-less Success is to the create goals that reinforce the vision you created in the first step. The most effective method of goal-setting that I know is the SMART Goals model. SMART ...
Views: 1851 - Marry Your Self First: Addiction, Depression, Divorce.... - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonI had a client say something very interesting to me last week…she suggested that because I was a mental health counselor, I, therefore, have minimal issues or challenges in my life. Ha! I wish! I shy away from sharing much of my personal story with my clients, as that is all part of ...
Views: 1826(3 votes) - Personal Success Strategies - Bull-Fighting, Rabbit-Chasing And Wrestling With Pigs - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonSo...did I get your attention? Yes? I thought I might! I did a small presentation for the Greater Seminole Area Chamber of Commerce on "How to Win Over Difficult Prospects" and the bull-fighting, rabbit-chasing and wrestling with pigs came as a result of that (I never know what is going to come ...
Views: 1793 - Lessons From a Cat: Play, Persistence, Relaxation and Boundaries - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonI’d like to introduce you to a friend of mine: Jzumbula Kittae la Kunta. I call her “Kunta” and she’s a cat. Cats are interesting creatures and Kunta has taught me a number of lessons I wanted to pass on to you. Nine of them, in fact…fitting since cats allegedly have 9 lives. I think ...
Views: 1788(3 votes) - Personal Success Strategies - Boundaries: The Tripod Model Of Health And Wellness - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonThe old real estate cliché asks the question, "What are three most important elements of property?" which is, of course, answered by, "Location, location and location." ...So, let me ask you a question: What are the three most important elements of successful relationships? Answer: ...
Views: 1499 - Relationship Success Strategies - Are You V.I.P. or S.A.D. - It's Up To You - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonI was preparing for a couple of presentations for the Women On the Way (W.O.W.) program at our local St. Petersburg College (my A.A. /A.S. degree alma mater). I am always honored to go back to my old “stomping grounds” to do presentations, but even more so for this group, as most of the ...
Views: 1497 - Personal Success Tips - Out Of The Box And Into the Land of Possibility - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonIt is time for you to set yourself free and allow some discomfort in so that you may fully embrace your greatness... I know “out of the box” is one of the most used up clichés out there, but I couldn’t find anything better. If you live in the box you live a life of predictability, ...
Views: 1490 - Life Success Strategies - How Big Is Your Fish Tank? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken Donaldson“It’s the simplest of math: Big fish tanks grow big fish; little fish tanks grow little fish....” "You can't catch fish unless you put your line in the water. You can't reach your goals if you don't try." ~ Kathy Seligman As I was planning for one of my workshops, the “fish tank” metaphor ...
Views: 1475 - Why Success is Awesome - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2012 from Ken DonaldsonSuccess is often aligned with prosperity, wealth, honor, and achievement, among many other “feel good” words. Success has a Latin origin that means to follow, prosper, and to go into action. Why success is awesome is because achieving it will allow you to experience your greatest sense of you. ...
Views: 1468(1 vote) - Personal Success Tips - The Deeper Your Roots, The Sweeter Your Fruit - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonRoots and fruit...one of my favorite life philosophies. I believe we are all very similar to trees in a metaphorical sense. We have our “fruit”, which are our results. These results are based on our behaviors in that our behaviors, or actions, are what create our results. We have feelings ...
Views: 1433 - Personal Success Tips - The Mood - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonI recently went to one of the local home improvement stores to buy some lighting items for my office. Since I am not an electrician, I was looking to have the “experts” at this store assist me in this endeavor. Upon arriving and having gone to the lighting department, I was confronted with a ...
Views: 1385 - Relationship Success Strategies- Chooser Versus Choosee: The Power of Choice - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonAre you letting people influence your life in a way that’s negative? Do you isolate yourself out of fear of getting hurt? Are you clear about acceptable and unacceptable behavior in others? Are you happy with your boundaries? Review the following list of unhealthy boundaries. Check off any ...
Views: 1356 - Putting CBT Into OCD - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonIf your first thought about the title was, “That sounds boring.” you might be right. But if you knew that over 2 million Americans were affected and afflicted by Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, and chances are you know at least one of these people, then you might be more ...
Views: 1350 - Your Living Legacy - What is The Legacy You Hope to Leave? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonHow will you leave your mark? How will the world know you’ve been here one hundred years from now? What wisdom do you want to leave with humankind from your life on this Earth? Simply put, your legacy is what you’ll leave behind for those who come after you. No pressure, but ...
Views: 1343(1 vote) - Relationship Success Strategies - What Is A REALationship? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonWhat is a REALationship? A REALationship is one that has openness, honesty, integrity, individuality, growth, passion, and intimacy. It is easy to be in denial, superficial, and distant. I teach people to have deeper and more REAL relationships ----> REALationships!!!! In school we learned ...
Views: 1291 - Personal Success Strategies - The Expression-Repression-Depression-Connection - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonWith all these rhymes I was tempted to write a poem (and I may still...stay tuned for the sequel!!) about this topic. However, I decided I would just be straight-forward with these dynamics, seeing how critically valuable they are in our day-to-day lives. We have a choice we make many times ...
Views: 1201 - Relationship Success Strategies: The Apples in the Apple Pie - Knowing What You Got to Have, Want to Have, and Absolutely Will N - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonWhat do you have to have in life? What are those absolute, non-negotiable essentials for you? When you settle for nothing less than those essentials, you’ll find all your inner needs met. The problem is our culture has become very used to settling for less. This outcome, as I see it, ...
Views: 1145 - The ABC's Of EMDR For PSTD - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonHope you’re not overwhelmed with the acronyms…just trying to save some space! So…what exactly is PTSD? It stands for Post-traumatic stress disorder. PTSD develops after an ordeal which involves some form of trauma. The person who develops PTSD may have been harmed or harm ...
Views: 1122 - Life Success Strategies - The Value of Vision - What is Your Life Vision? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken Donaldson"Give us clear vision that we may know where to stand and what to stand for - because unless we stand for something we shall fall for anything." ~ Peter Marshall Vision gives your life a target. That target represents everything you want to do, be, and have in your life. In other words, ...
Views: 1112 - Life Success Strategies - What Are You Selecting? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonI have a confession. I’m a Photoshop® wannabe. In case you don’t know it, Photoshop® is the premier software program for digital photography. It has more features to tweak, enhance, and distort photographic images than you can imagine. As much as I’d like to master this program, truth be ...
Views: 1092 - Life Success Strategies - The Aftermath of Tragedy - Why??? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonWhy? Many people are asking "Why" in the aftermath of tragedy. An appropriate question...but, unfortunately, there are no very good answers. There are, however, are few considerations for all of us to examine. We have become a violent culture and this violence has occurred very subtly. ...
Views: 1075 - Personal Success Strategies - Value Your Values, and Don't Leave Home Without Them! - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonYour personal integrity is dependent on you living according to your values. If you commit yourself to a values-driven life, you'll attract people of similar values and people who'll support and encourage you to continue to live accordingly, which will only increase the standards to which you've ...
Views: 1075 - Personal Success Strategies - Father's Day - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonMy dad woke up one morning feeling, as he put it, “Not quite right and a bit wobbly”. In being the strong-willed, tenacious, non-complainer that he is, he figured it was just part of the package of being 80 years old. However, after a few days of these lingering effects, he decided to go see ...
Views: 1074 - Life Success Strategies - Doing The Abun-Dance: The Art Of Prosperous Living - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonI have been hearing a lot about the “Law of Attraction” the last few years and I have found this model to be quite attractive... gosh, I guess it’s working. Anyways, when it is narrowed down to it’s basics it seems to mean that you will reap whatever type of energy you sow. If you put out ...
Views: 1060 - Personal Success Tips - Don't Let Your Barometer Direct Your Compass - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonHuh??!! Let me explain...A barometer is used to measure atmospheric pressure. This pressure change helps weather forecasters to predict what weather conditions might be forthcoming. Barometric conditions are always changing; therefore barometric measurement is always fluctuating. A compass, ...
Views: 1053 - Relationship Success: What is a REALationship? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonWhat is a REALationship? A REALationship is one in which you have openness, honesty, integrity, individuality, growth, passion, and intimacy. This begins with the relationship you have with yourself. Start by answering the following: • Do you know and live your life purpose? ...
Views: 1031 - Personal Success Strategies - Heart, Head or Hell? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonI have a confession: I was confronted by a friend recently. She suggested that I might possibly be living more from my head than my heart. She wanted to know where all the successful relationships were and was asking me, since I am THE REALationship Coach (That's pretty much the way she said it, ...
Views: 1027 - Personal Success Strategies - Self Talk: Whose Voice Is That? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonNo; I’m not hearing voices...not very much, at least. However, I do have a question for you: How do you manage that little voice inside your head? Now if you’re thinking, “What little voice is he talking about?” that would be the little voice right there! You know, that voice that tries to ...
Views: 1027 - Personal Success Strategies - Boundaries With Yourself: The Most Important Parameters - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonBoundaries with yourself? It does sound a bit odd, doesn’t it? Well, if you will bear with me for a few minutes here you can have a major break-through...really!! I received a phone call from a client who had a new employment opportunity, but felt scared because of the unknown elements ...
Views: 1021 - Relationship Success Strategies - We Can't Continue to Do What We've Been Doing! - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonStatistics also show nearly one third of American women report being exposed to some type of abuse at the hands of the significant other in their committed relationships. In reality, one out of every three is a grossly conservative figure, since the vast majority of abuse is never reported. ...
Views: 1021 - Personal Success Tips - R U Cre8ive E-Nuff 4 U? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonYou may have to get your secret decoder ring to decipher the title. Get it? Well, are you? Do you have enough creative outlets and enough creative expression in your life? I’ve heard that if you suppress your creativity it will go directly to your hips! Creative, which comes from the word ...
Views: 1015 - Personal Success Strategies - Accountability Circles, Peer-Leaders and Your Personal Posse - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonHave you ever noticed that successful people have a "team" that they surround themselves with? For example, the president has his cabinet, as well as numerous other advisors and consultants. The head coach of any sports team has countless assistants and trainers. Every CEO has a board of ...
Views: 1002 - Relationship Success Tips - Boundaries: No Bull Allowed - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonDo you have unwanted bull in your life? You know what I’m talking about: Those annoying people who want to control, dominate, and manipulate you for their own best interests. Those people who love to get into power-struggles and arguments with you and you are left feeling depleted and ...
Views: 982 - Personal Success Strategies - Your Living Legacy - What is the Legacy You Hope to Leave? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonHow will you leave your mark? How will the world know you've been here one hundred years from now? What impact do you want to have on humankind in your lifetime? Simply put, your legacy is what you'll leave behind for those who come after you. No pressure, but from the looks of things now, ...
Views: 979 - Life Success Strategies - Plant What You Want To Grow! - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonAsk yourself, what are you planting in your life? What are the seeds you wish to sprout, grow, thrive, and multiply? I suggest you liberally plant positive and affirming seeds in your life every day. Start by writing a positive affirmation to yourself daily (just in case the world forgets to ...
Views: 965 - Life Success Strategies: Juggling Bowling Balls While Walking Across Hot Coals - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonYou’ve probably heard the old real estate cliché which asks the question, “What are the three most important elements of property?” You also probably know the answer is location, location and location. But have you ever heard the similar question about life, “What are the three most ...
Views: 965(1 vote) - The Singles Scarcity Myth - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonBeware singles...you are about to be invited into a deception regarding the singles scene in your local area. According to the 2006 “Best Cities for Singles” research from Forbes.com (http://www.forbes.com/lists/2006/3/06singles_Best-Cities-For-Singles_land.html ), your home town may ...
Views: 963 - Boundaries And Balance In Life: Are You Forgetting the Future And Predicting The Past? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonQuestion: Do you suffer from already always living? The primary symptom is projecting the past onto the future. It’s assuming what has already happened to you before, will always happen again. So as a result, you stay stuck in repetitive patterns, and you live your life like a broken record, and ...
Views: 958 - The Roots And Fruits Philosophy Of Life - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonOne of the biggest barriers to living fully in your spirituality and in your life is an ever-so-deeply-conditioned, limiting, and self-defeating belief system. This is the core and the root of self-destructive behavior, sub-satisfactory results and negative thinking. Over the years of ...
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