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- Speaking The Truth In Love - Know Your Truth First - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2012 from Karla DowningDo you struggle with speaking the truth in love in your relationships? If you answered yes, this biblical truth and tip will help you by helping you to know your truth first. Is it possible to speak too soon? Yes. If you aren't fully convinced of your stance, beliefs, and perceptions, then you ...
Views: 908 - Speaking The Truth In Love - Use "I Statements" To Minimize Defensiveness - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2012 from Karla DowningDo you struggle with speaking the truth in love in your relationships? If you answered yes, this biblical truth and tip will help you by showing you how to use "I statements" to minimize defensiveness. When sharing your truth, your approach matters. You can share your truth in a way that ...
Views: 1443 - Marriage Help For Christians - 7 Signs That Your Spouse's Affair Is Truly Over - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2012 from Karla DowningThis marriage help for Christians will allow you to recognize whether or not your spouse's affair is really over. Affairs don't necessarily end at the first disclosure or discovery. There is often a time period where the spouse says it is over but continues the affair. During this time, the ...
Views: 1358(1 vote) - Speaking The Truth In Love - Keep Your Cool - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2012 from Karla DowningDo you struggle with speaking the truth in love in your relationships? If you answered yes, this biblical truth and tip will help you. Speaking when you feel panicky, anxious, or emotionally reactive and thinking you have to make IT (your reason for speaking) happen NOW will sabotage your ...
Views: 927 - Speaking The Truth In Love - To Speak Or Not To Speak - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2012 from Karla DowningDo you struggle with speaking the truth in love in your relationships? If you answered yes, this biblical truth and tip will help you. One of the misconceptions people have is thinking that they have to speak their truth. They don't. Wisdom is needed in deciding who to talk to and what to ...
Views: 1151 - Prodigal Children - Six Things You Absolutely Must Do - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2012 from Karla DowningWatching your prodigal children make choices that you fear will cause pain and consequences and you know are out of God's will is heart-wrenching. The parable of the prodigal son in Luke 15:11-32 provides the model for six things you absolutely must do when dealing with your prodigal ...
Views: 1176 - Speaking The Truth To Someone Who Will Use Your Words to Hurt You - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2012 from Karla DowningDo you struggle with speaking the truth in love in your difficult relationships? If you answered yes, this biblical truth and tip will help you. It is important to speak the truth, but we need to use wisdom in deciding who we should speak to and what we should say, so we can protect ...
Views: 1081 - Speaking the Truth in Love - Keep It Short - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2012 from Karla DowningDo you struggle with speaking the truth in love in your relationships? If you answered yes, then this biblical truth and tip will help you. One of the mistakes we make is that we get caught up in the desire to convince the other person that we are right and as a result, we use too many words. ...
Views: 981 - Speaking The Truth In Love Even When It Hurts - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2012 from Karla DowningAre you struggling with speaking the truth in your relationships because you are afraid of causing the other person to be hurt, unhappy, or upset? Then, this biblical truth and tip will help you. The most common concern Christians express when being honest is the fear that it will hurt the ...
Views: 1389 - Christians and Divorce - Make Your Life Yours By Changing Your Environment - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2012 from Karla DowningChristians find divorce to be a painful experience even when they wanted the divorce. One of the most painful aspects is letting go of the old life and starting a new life. There are thousands of reminders of your life with your ex. You need to figure out how to make a new life for ...
Views: 1009 - Christians and Divorce - 5 Tips to Get Your Ex-Spouse Out of Your Head - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2012 from Karla DowningAre you a Christian going through a divorce? Are you struggling with getting your mind off your spouse? Do you find yourself thinking about your spouse obsessively trying to figure out what he/she is doing and thinking? Do you wonder what your spouse thinks about you? Do you want to make your ...
Views: 2836 - Christians And Divorce - Grieve The Loss Of The Good Stuff - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2012 from Karla DowningOne of the things Christians need to do when they divorce is to grieve the loss of the marriage. Whether you wanted the marriage to end or not, it wasn't all bad. Your ex-spouse has some good qualities. You have some good memories. You've lost the intact family and even if it wasn't perfect, it ...
Views: 997 - Christians and Divorce - The Grief Process Applied to Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2012 from Karla DowningChristians divorce as much as non-Christians. Divorce is one of the most painful experiences people go through. It is like having gangrene and being told by the doctor that you have to cut off your arm. You don't want to, but you know you have no choice. You do what you have to do and yet the ...
Views: 960 - Christians and Divorce - How to Take Care of Yourself After Your Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2012 from Karla DowningChristians divorce just as much as non-Christians but often feel as if they have failed God and don't deserve a good future. That is not true. God understands that sin causes broken relationships. He hates divorce, but He loves you. Regardless of what happened in your marriage that led to the ...
Views: 890 - Christians And Divorce - How To Enjoy Being Alone - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2012 from Karla DowningChristians divorce as much as non-Christians. Regardless of whether or not you wanted your divorce, one of the most difficult things to deal with is being alone. Here are some things you can do to cope better with your "alone time." View this as an opportunity to develop a "new you." There ...
Views: 1009 - Christian Relationship Help - Speaking The Truth Even When Others Disagree - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2012 from Karla DowningAre you looking for Christian relationship help because you struggle with speaking the truth in your relationships? Then, this biblical truth and tip will help you. It is especially problematic to communicate your perceptions, feelings, choices, needs, and beliefs to difficult people. One of the ...
Views: 1037 - Marriage Help for Christians - Four Things You Can Do To Change Your Difficult Marriage - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2012 from Karla DowningAre you looking for marriage help for Christians to guide you in deciding whether to stay in your difficult marriage? Before you decide to leave, make sure you have tried these four things: 1. Improve your own life. Other than dating, what would you be doing if you weren't married? How much ...
Views: 965 - Overcoming Christian Codependency - Four Truths To Determine When To Put Yourself Before Others - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2012 from Karla DowningWhen overcoming Christian codependency, how do you know when you should put your needs or the other person's needs first? By applying these four truths: 1. You have to stay emotionally, physically, spiritually, and mentally healthy. Ephesians 5:29 ...
Views: 913 - Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children - How Much Involvement Is Enough? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2012 from Karla DowningHow much involvement is enough when setting boundaries with your adult children? Just enough! You raise your children with the idea that when they turn 18, they will be completely independent with the exception of possibly paying for college. But just because a child turns 18 doesn't mean ...
Views: 2079 - Christian Relationship Help - Accept The Things You Cannot Change And Make Choices With The Options - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2012 from Karla DowningThis Christian relationship help will enable you to accept the things you cannot change and make choices with the options you have. The key to surrender is accepting the facts of the situation. While I was in Hawaii on vacation, a three-year-old girl was in the Jacuzzi. Her mom was standing ...
Views: 876 - Christian Relationship Help - How To Face Your Fears In Difficult Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2012 from Karla DowningHow can you face your fears in difficult relationships? By answering the questions offered in this Christian relationship help. It isn't unusual to have many fears in difficult relationships. When people are doing things that we find upsetting and are not making responsible choices, things can ...
Views: 1006 - Christian Relationship Help - What Would Jesus Do In Your Difficult Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2012 from Karla DowningAre you looking for Christian relationship help? Do you wonder what Jesus would do in your difficult relationship? There is a good chance that you have some misconceptions about what Jesus would do. Many Christians have a picture of Jesus as a passive weakling who allowed himself to be abused ...
Views: 1470 - Marriage Help for Christians - 5 Stages Of Grief In Affairs For The Betrayed Spouse - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2012 from Karla DowningThis marriage help for Christians explains the five stages of grief that the betrayed spouse will go through when discovering that the spouse is having an affair. The last thing we plan on when we get married is our partner being unfaithful. People typically say that they would never tolerate it ...
Views: 2949 - Christian Relationship Help - Fight, Flight, Or Freeze Responses To Fear In Difficult Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2012 from Karla DowningThis Christian relationship help will enable you to identify these three responses to fear in difficult relationships: fight, flight, or freeze. Each results in different problems in the relationship. 1. Fight Many of us respond to fear and anxiety by trying to force ...
Views: 3214 - Overcome Christian Codependency By Learning How To Take Care Of Yourself - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2012 from Karla DowningYou can overcome Christian codependency by learning how to take care of yourself. Christian codependency promotes misconceptions about when God thinks it is okay to put yourself before others. We have to care about ourselves and others. One of the best ways to determine if you should put ...
Views: 1472 - Christian Boundaries - 10 Truths About Boundaries In Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2012 from Karla DowningChristian boundaries are a source of confusion for many Christians, especially when they are in difficult relationships. We wonder what a boundary is. We wonder if we have the right to set boundaries. We wonder what our boundaries should be. We wonder if we should adjust our limits when people ...
Views: 1472 - Christian Boundaries - 7 Reasons Why Setting Boundaries Is Difficult for Christians - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2012 from Karla DowningHaving good Christian boundaries is something we need to work on all the time in every area of our lives, yet setting boundaries isn't easy and is a cause of confusion in our relationships. These are the seven reasons why it is difficult for many Christians to ...
Views: 1227 - Christian Relationship Help - 5 Common Fears In Difficult Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2012 from Karla DowningThis Christian relationship help will enable you to understand the five common fears people have in difficult relationships. Whether it is due to someone's addiction, irresponsibility, personality, mental illness, or abuse, life has uncertainty and complications. Here are the five common ...
Views: 1473 - Overcome Christian Codependency - Do These 4 Things When Dealing With Chronic Illness In A Loved One - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2012 from Karla DowningThere are 4 things you must do when dealing with chronic illness in a loved one to overcome Christian codependency. When someone we care about is chronically ill, we react to it the same way people react to other situations that are continually stressful and uncontrollable. Christian ...
Views: 1274 - Christian Relationship Help - 5 Steps For Overcoming Fears In Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2012 from Karla DowningThis Christian relationship help offers five steps to overcome fear by enabling you to face your fears and deal with them rather than propagate or avoid them. Relationships stir up many fears in us, especially when people are doing things that we disagree with. Fear is a basic survival ...
Views: 2441 - 4 Steps to Let Go of Denial - Christian Relationship Help - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2012 from Karla DowningAre you looking for Christian relationship help? This article offers 4 steps to let go of denial. A friend of mine complained that her college daughter didn't act responsibly while in Hawaii on her parent-paid vacation. The expectation was that she would call home regularly and not get into ...
Views: 1395 - A Seven Step Plan For Detaching From Manipulative People - Christian Relationship Help - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2012 from Karla DowningAre you looking for Christian relationship help? Then here is a seven step plan for detaching from manipulative people. People do all kinds of things to pressure us to do what they want us to do. It is up to us to see through the manipulation and do what is right for us. People use guilt, ...
Views: 4797 - 4 Truths About Biblical Submission in Marriage - Marriage Help For Christians - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2012 from Karla DowningSubmission is the "S" word in church. In this modern day of equality, women's rights, and women working, many pastors avoid it or quickly skip over it, focusing on the man having to love his wife as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:22-33). There is still confusion about how women in ...
Views: 1334 - Marriage Help For Christians - How Does a Woman Respect a Man Who Does Not Love? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2012 from Karla DowningThis marriage help for Christians answers the question: How does a woman respect a man who does not love her? Ephesians 5:33 says, "However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband" (NIV). This isn't a problem in a healthy marriage, but ...
Views: 1240 - How to Let Go of Anxiety When People You Love Make Poor Choices - Christian Relationship Help - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2012 from Karla DowningThis Christian relationship help answers the question: How to let go of anxiety when people you love make poor choices? I just got off the phone with a friend distressed over a hurtful and intense argument she had with her husband where both of them brought up all the weapons in their arsenal ...
Views: 1471 - Christian Codependency - How to Detach and Still Stay Engaged in the Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2012 from Karla DowningThis article addresses Christian codependency by showing you how to detach and still stay engaged in the relationship. Detachment is the opposite of being attached or enmeshed. It is similar to differentiation or individuation where it is implied that you have a separateness that allows you to ...
Views: 3936 - How to Decide Your Boundaries When You're Asked to Help - Christian Codependency - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2012 from Karla DowningHere's an important tool in overcoming Christian codependency: When you are asked to help, you can decide what your boundaries are by considering these five things rather than thinking you have to do everything you are asked to do and becoming resentful. Halley decided to lend her sister money ...
Views: 745 - Identify Four Misbeliefs You Need to Change to Detach From False Guilt - Christian Codependency - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from Karla DowningHere's another help to overcome Christian codependency: Identify four common misbeliefs you need to change to detach from false guilt. Guilt is meant to help us identify when we have done something wrong. Guilt can be experienced as a physical pain, a nagging sense that something is wrong, a ...
Views: 1656 - How to Change 5 Dysfunctional Family Rules to Functional Family Rules - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2012 from Karla DowningHow do you change 5 dysfunctional family rules to functional family rules? You simply do and encourage the opposite of the dysfunctional rules. Instead of Don't talk. Don't trust. Don't feel, and Don't be selfish, you Talk, Trust, Feel, Take Care of Yourself, and Rock the Boat. Talk. Be ...
Views: 3124 - 9 Relationship Red Flags - What Not to Overlook, Excuse, Or Deny - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2012 from Karla DowningThese 9 Relationship Red Flags have the potential of being overlooked, excused, or denied. All are reasons to stop, look, and listen to what is going on and carefully consider whether or not you should continue in the relationship. All have the potential of desensitizing you to their affects the ...
Views: 3197 - Christian Relationship Help: Jesus' Model for How to Deal With Difficult People - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2012 from Karla DowningIf you are looking for Christian relationship help, you are probably dealing with difficult people and wondering how God would want you to respond to them. Jesus dealt with many difficult people. Here are three principles he put into practice: Know the person. Jesus always knew who he was ...
Views: 1218 - Christians and Boundaries: Five Causes of Weak Boundaries - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2012 from Karla DowningChristians need boundaries but often don't have them in their relationships. Here are five causes of weak boundaries: 1. You were raised in a dysfunctional home where boundaries weren't modeled. As a result, you don't know what healthy boundaries are and don't recognize that you need ...
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