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- A Pep Talk for Single Women Over 50 Who are Looking - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2006 from Susan DunnThere are 97 million Americans over the age of 45, and of those, 40%, or 36.2 million, are single. If you’re over 50 and looking, I have some good news. Like a good coach, I’m going to pump you up! The ratio of females to males increases with each decade, but does it really matter? No, for ...
Views: 24993 - The Top Ten Things Employees Say They Want & How Managers Miss the Mark by Low Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2003 from Susan DunnA major problem for employers today is getting the best employees and then keeping them. How do you do this? By understanding what it is employees really want. Being able to sense what others feel and want is empathy, an emotional intelligence competency. SOMETHING THAT HASN’T CHANGED IN 50 ...
Views: 23793(2 votes) - EQ vs. IQ - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2004 from Susan DunnDEFINITIONS EQ - is a measure of your emotional intelligence, or your ability to use both your emotions and cognitive skills in your life. Emotional intelligence competencies include but are not limited to empathy, intuition, creativity, flexibility, resilience, coping, stress management, ...
Views: 20994(3 votes) - Define Yourself! - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2002 from Susan DunnPeople have emotions and emotions are contagious. How you conduct yourself and what values you live by define your culture, just as they do the other person's. Businesses have cultures and so do groups, committees, clubs, organizations and any situation where two or more people are together. ...
Views: 13737(2 votes) - Traits of Highly Intuitive People - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Susan DunnWant to be more intuitive? From an extensive study of intuitive people reported by Belleruth Naparstek in "Your Sixth Sense," this is what the highly intuitive person is likely to look like. 1. A woman over 40 with an advanced degree in one of the mental health professions. 2. Says she was ...
Views: 12238(3 votes) - Traits of People with Good Intuition - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2002 from Susan DunnIntuition is a great emotional intelligence competency to have. It expedites decisions and is a very sure way of knowing. It also helps us stay safe. From an extensive study of intuitive people, these are the traits they're most likely to have. 1. A woman over 40 with an advanced degree in ...
Views: 10427(1 vote) - Thriving Tips for Introverts - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2002 from Susan DunnIntroverts make up about 10-30% of the population, but they're highly represented on the Internet! However much of the world is designed for extraverts, who predominate. Being an Introvert can be like being left-handed and living in a right-handed world. Sometimes it can feel like the ...
Views: 8457(1 vote) - How to Choose a Good Partner - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2003 from Susan DunnThe best way to choose a partner is using your emotional intelligence. Here are ten tips. 1. Sexual attraction is based on a primitive and powerful feelings that can "hijack" us. It comes from the reptilian brain and is automatic and powerful because it relates to our survival. It is ...
Views: 7912(1 vote) - What's Your Definition of Fun? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2003 from Susan Dunn“What you need to do is to have some fun,” a therapist friend of mine told me last month. I wasn’t there as his client, but I could be, if that sort of conversation continues. You see, I’d just had what I call “fun”, in visiting with him. He’s funny, he listens to me, he has interesting ...
Views: 7523(1 vote) - Emotional Intelligence & Addiction: 10 Key Points - by Submitted on May 07, 2003 from Susan Dunn"Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom." -- Victor Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning Emotional Intelligence creates or extends that space between stimulus and response, which ...
Views: 6852(1 vote) - What To Do If Your Boss Asks You To Do Something Unethical or Illegal - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2002 from Susan DunnYou're the new secretary and your boss asks you to become a Notary Public. He then walks back into his office and you can hear him on the phone talking about a contract he wants out of, and the fact that he's going to falsify a date and signature -- "No problem, my secretary will do it." It ...
Views: 6614(1 vote) - The Pros and Cons of Dating Online - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2004 from Susan DunnI’ve had more potential partners through eharmony.com ( http://tinyurl.com/2lyea ) than I ever did dating around my hometown,” says my client whom I’ll call Mary. She’s over 50, single, and interested in finding a life partner. “I’ve always done better with some sort of introduction,” she ...
Views: 6077(1 vote) - The Dignity of Labor - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2003 from Susan DunnI love artists, because I’m a wordsmith and they say things I can never say. Here are two of my favorite paintings about work, both by Caillebotte: http://www.webstrategies.cc/caillebotte1.jpg ; http://www.webstrategies.cc/caillebotte2.jpg . My mother was full of aphorisms. I grew up with ...
Views: 5878(3 votes) - Gut Instinct: How to Develop Yours - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2003 from Susan DunnHe did it again – my stockbroker. He rolled a ten-bagger into my lap. That means the stock he picked for me went up x10. Then he had me sell just before it started its decline. I bought low and sold high. Or rather he did. Making me (and him) that kind of money isn’t what I’d call ...
Views: 5544(1 vote) - Thanksgiving Thoughts - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2002 from Susan DunnWhen you gather with your family this Thanksgiving and experience the joy and the pain ... those who loved you and those who wounded you and still do, those who hurt you and those who healed you and still do, those who gave you hope and snuffed out your dreams and still do, those who picked you ...
Views: 5377(3 votes) - 10 Emotionally Intelligent Questions to Ask Before You Marry Someone - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2003 from Susan Dunn1. Is it just sexual attraction? Sexual attraction comes from the reptilian brain and is automatic and powerful because it relates to our survival. It's not always a basis for living with someone happily. Don't let it "hijack" you. Find out what else is there. 2. Do they like to touch and ...
Views: 5288(1 vote) - How to Find the Work You Were Meant To Do - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2002 from Susan DunnI'm using "Now, Discover Your Strengths" by Buckingham and Clifton, for career coaching for clients with marvelous results. It was published this year and based on a survey done by The Gallup Organization of over 2,000,000 people who were excellent at what they do. The usual premises in ...
Views: 5106(1 vote) - I'm Dating This Guy Who is in the Process of Divorce - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2006 from Susan DunnI get letters. As a Relationship Coach, and the “How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams” expert on a major website, I get letters. “I’ve been seeing a guy for a year who’s in the process of a divorce,” writes Anne (not her real name). She goes on to ...
Views: 4918 - Mafioso Does Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2006 from Susan DunnI love Mr. Mafioso on AskMen. “Look, college boy,” he writes, “there are certain lessons that all the books in the world couldn’t teach you.” Strikes a chord with me. I came out of college quite the college girl. It was a college in rural Minnesota, very ...
Views: 4862 - What You Must Know If You’re Taking a Cruise - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2004 from Susan DunnBeing a coach, I speak on cruises. I took my first cruise about 4 years ago. I asked a friend who’d cruised a lot what I needed to know and she said, “Nothing. Just have fun.” I disagree. Having cruised many times since then, I’d like to pass on some tips I wish someone had told me, to help ...
Views: 4496(2 votes) - But How Can I USE Emotional Intelligence? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2004 from Susan DunnI’m sure you’re hearing the term Emotional Intelligence. It’s being talked about a lot these days. For most people there’s an immediate “click”. We recognize it as the missing piece! It’s like that cartoon of the girl saying, “Oh, I knew I forgot something. My career!” Well, in this case, ...
Views: 4493(1 vote) - The Top 10 Smoochy Love Songs - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2004 from Susan Dunn1. Lay Lady Lay - Bob Dylan 2. I Will Always Love You – Whitney Houston 3. Take My Breath Away – Berlin 4. Can’t Help Falling in Love With You, It’s Now or Never – Elvis 5. O Elizabeth - the Statler Brothers 6. Unchained Melody - the Righteous Brothers 7. Blue Velvet - Bobby Vinton 8. ...
Views: 4467(1 vote) - Looking for That Perfect Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2004 from Susan DunnIf you ARE looking for that perfect relationship, stop reading this article and do one of two things: (1) Go to one of those websites that promises something like that and be “taken” again, or (2) Brush up on your emotional intelligence skills. Looking for anything perfect is an ...
Views: 4419(1 vote) - After Christmas Letdown? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2004 from Susan Dunn“You gotta pay the price,” one of my clients is always telling me. She’s referring to what is a law of physics, and also the way things work – what goes up must come down. The higher your Christmas, the more exciting, chaotic and tumultuous, the more likely you’ll be tumbling down just as far. ...
Views: 4401(1 vote) - The Top 10 Things I Learned Being An Identical Twin - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2005 from Susan DunnEvery couple of years the topic of identical twins hits the front cover of Newsweek. In fact it's about time now--be watching! Most people find the topic fascinating. The relationship between identical twins looks good from the outside; a seamless interface, and they seem to enjoy one ...
Views: 4334 - Lady Will Power ... It's Now or Never: An EQ Tale - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2003 from Susan DunnIf you’re familiar with the lyrics to “Lady Will Power,” by Gary Puckett and the Union Gap, you understand this woman is under some pressure. Just what is “will power”? In emotional intelligence language, we would call it Intentionality. Emotional intelligence means being able to understand ...
Views: 4306(1 vote) - Want to Know How to Feel Better? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Susan DunnWe tend to think of feeling angry as being caused by rude drivers, people we don't like, or 100 degree temperatures, and feeling good as being caused by kind people, successful projects, or ice cream cones. When we're working on our emotional intelligence we work on our self-talk and ...
Views: 4127(1 vote) - About Formal Nights on Cruises - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2003 from Susan DunnMuch excitement and mystery surrounds the “formal nights” on cruises. It’s customary to have one formal night on a 5-day cruise, more in proportion on longer cruises. On my first cruise, I wondered what it would be like, how dressed-up people got, and what I would feel comfortable in. Let ...
Views: 3965(1 vote) - Examples of Reptilian Behavior in the Workplace - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2003 from Susan DunnThe reptilian brain, our oldest brain, operates at the level of survival instinct. It's the life of easy choices -- Can I eat it? Will it eat me? Can I mate with it? This brain regulates basic life functions, generates strong primitive emotions needed for survival (lust, fear, aggression), ...
Views: 3758(1 vote) - How to Choose the Best Partner for Life (and Make Other Important Decisions) - by Submitted on May 05, 2004 from Susan DunnHow to choose the best partner for life? Let’s use the investment analogy. Here’s how it works. I’m a fan of Warren Buffett, the world’s greatest investor. He took $100 and turned it into a multibillion-dollar company. In the latest Forbes “richest ...
Views: 3683(2 votes) - How to Handle a Mid-School Year Move - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2003 from Susan DunnQ: What’s worse than moving ? A: Moving in the middle of the school year. My family did it more than once when I was growing up. I still remember some of the incidents-being introduced in the front of the class, having to share a locker until they could find one for me, breaking into the ...
Views: 3671(1 vote) - When the Seas of Life Get Stormy, Use These Tips to Ride the Waves to Run and Happiness - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Susan DunnWhen sailing through life, sometimes you’ll encounter rough seas. Here are some of the things you’ll need to ride the waves to fun and happiness. You’re the CAPTAIN of your ship. Be empowered means having a deep sense of confidence that you can take charge of your ship and handle whatever ...
Views: 3594(1 vote) - Four Things Greater Than All Things Are: The Successful Seduction of Women - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2007 from Susan DunnServing as “Attract Your Dream Partner” expert for a major website, I get questions. I get the same questions in my coaching practice. “I saw this girl in the bookstore and I want to ask her out. What do I do?” “I want to ask this woman out but I can’t get her attention.” “There’s this woman ...
Views: 3593 - Past Experience, New Relationship: Is it Baggage? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2007 from Susan DunnWe are nothing, if not the sum total of our experiences, but when is it "baggage" and when is it not. Baggage is when you’re weighed-down by past experiences, stuck and unable to move forward from the weight. We think of it along with such terms as dumping it, getting rid of it, carrying ...
Views: 3574 - How Do You Feel About Cell Phone Abuse? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2003 from Susan DunnRemember the British noble-woman who said, re: sex, “I don’t care what two consenting adults do as long as they don’t do it in the street and frighten the horses”? She may have said “embarrass,” I can’t find the quote. Either will do, as I proceed to apply this to cell phones. I agree they’re ...
Views: 3440(1 vote) - 7 Steps You Can Take to Avoid Panicking (It Doesn't Help You Know) - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2004 from Susan DunnSomething’s making you anxious. In today’s world it could be any number of things, and sometimes several in combination. Maybe it’s a big assignment at work with a pressure deadline you’re not sure you can do it all and you feel your job depends upon it. Or you suspect your husband’s having ...
Views: 3343 - La Vie en Rose: Edith Piaf’s Transformation - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2007 from Susan DunnI have been a fan of Edith Piaf’s for many years. Among her esoteric US following was the basketball team at my college, which used to warm up to her song, “Milord.” I was also a student of French, and learned to sing along with many of her songs. Even though I knew nothing of her life, and ...
Views: 3324 - 9 Myths About Being Single at Christmas - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2006 from Susan DunnMore than 48% of US households are headed by unmarried individuals. The American Association for Single People projects that by 2010, 47.2% of adults will be unmarried. Being single does not mean being alone, not does being in a couple for the holidays insure happiness. Let’s dispel some ...
Views: 3195 - How to Stay Motivated in Hard Times - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2003 from Susan DunnA few years ago, psychologist Al Siebert, who's studied resilience and is the author of "The Survivor Personality: Why Some People Are Stronger, Smarter and More Skillful at Handling Life's Difficulties" ( http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0399522301/ susandunnmome-20 ), wrote an article ...
Views: 3120(1 vote) - When It's Time to Say Goodbye - by Submitted on May 29, 2006 from Susan DunnOne of the things we all dislike about psychologists is terms like "vulnerable to loss." Who, pray tell me, is not "vulnerable to loss"? It is devastating to lose someone who made your world a better place. Or some thing that did, like a career, a special house, your left leg, the ability to ...
Views: 3065 - Emotional Intelligence & Feeling Good - by Submitted on May 07, 2003 from Susan DunnTwo emotions, or ways of feeling, are especially troublesome to most of us – anger management and depression. Depression appears to be epidemic now, globally, and without going into the etiology (the causes), or pinpointing definitions or degrees of severity (they vary; there are many) lets ...
Views: 3022(1 vote) - The Question Freud Couldn't Answer - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2003 from Susan DunnHave you received “King Arthur’s Dilemma: A Wise Lesson for All Men to Learn” in your email? (I have no idea to whom to attribute it.) Here’s how it goes: As a test, young Arthur was asked to answer the question, “What do women really want?” (Freud’s eternal question.) He finally went to ...
Views: 2993(1 vote) - The Top Ten Reasons Why You Should Live as if There Is No Tomorrow - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2003 from Susan DunnIn Memoriam, Thomas Leonard, the Founder of Coaching, who died February 11, 2003 1. Because we never know when we may die. 2. Because we never know when's the last time we'll see a loved one. 3. Because it's the worst thing in the world to have someone die and not have told them you loved ...
Views: 2926(1 vote) - What Makes Us Feel Good/What Makes Us Feel Bad - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2003 from Susan DunnEmotional Intelligence is all about self-awareness, understanding how emotions work within you and others. Our feelings are regulated by neurotransmitters such as serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine. Here are some things to know about serotonin, called the "feel good" ...
Views: 2923(1 vote) - The Top 10 Ways to Get Organized - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2003 from Susan DunnStudies show that most New Year’s resolutions are broken by January 15th. Getting organized is most people’s number one priority, yet it never seems to happen. Here are the top 10 ways to get organized. 1. Hire a coach. USA Weekend says: “Coaches help clients navigate their warp-speed lives ...
Views: 2894(1 vote) - Emotional Intelligence & Your Toddler - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan DunnI was in the grocery, knew I was approaching the toy aisle, and braced myself. Adam was sitting happily in the grocery cart, but I knew what was coming: a tantrum! I knew he was tired and hungry – this was an emergency run to the grocery. I knew I was tired and hungry, too. Adam and I were ...
Views: 2750(1 vote) - Let's Take Another Look at Reducing Stress & Feeling Good - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2002 from Susan DunnWe tend to think of feeling angry as being caused by rude drivers, people we don't like, or 100 degree temperatures, and feeling good as being caused by kind people, successful projects, or ice cream cones. When we're working on our emotional intelligence we work on our self-talk and ...
Views: 2706 - The Evolution Of Gift Giving - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2008 from Susan DunnHomemade Struffoli makes a great Christmas Gift. Here's a photo of mine: http://tinyurl.com/susandunn. We are entering that sacred time of year. In every culture around the globe there is a celebration this time of year with different names, but the purpose is to bring people together for ...
Views: 2643 - Inspirational Quotation about Fear - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2003 from Susan Dunn"I've been terrified every day of my life but that's never stopped me from doing everything I wanted to do." ~ Georgia O'Keefe, American painter Go to: http://cgfa.sunsite.dk/okeeffe/p-okeeffe4.htm to see one of her paintings, called "Music - Pink and Blue II"
Views: 2626(2 votes) - Is Emotional Intelligence Just the Fad du Jour? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2003 from Susan Dunn“I’ve been doing this for 15 years,” Annette told me. “It just wasn’t called this.” I was explaining to a counselor in Australia about the field of emotional intelligence, and she was sure she’d found it first. Likely you'll feel the same way. “Oh, I know what you’re talking about,” James ...
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