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- Why Some People Talk Too Much - Are You One of Them? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2010 from Royane RealTalking too much is one of the the most common bad habits. Discover the reasons why people talk too much. If you are guilty of being too talkative, learn how you can break this annoying habit. We have all met people who talk a lot, who never seem to run out of things to say. Have you ...
Views: 25225(2 votes) - Help! My Mind Goes Blank During a Conversation! - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Royane RealSome people seem to be gifted with an ability to talk easily with anybody, anywhere. However, there are many people who find making conversation somewhat difficult. They struggle to find things to say during conversations, especially when they are talking to someone they don’t know very well. ...
Views: 19416(3 votes) - Overcome Your Fear of Rejection - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealDo you hold back from trying to start new relationships because you often worry that you will be rejected? If a fear of rejection is holding you back from forming new friendships or relationships, there is help available. You can learn to greatly overcome your fear of getting rejected. ...
Views: 17160(2 votes) - Real Solutions For Combatting Extreme Shyness - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealMost people experience some degree of shyness from time to time in certain situations. In fact, only about 7% of the population claims that they never feel shy. For the rest of us, shyness can range from being an occasional, minor inconvenience, to being a major problem. Some people ...
Views: 17109(1 vote) - First Impressions - Right or Wrong? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2009 from Royane RealFirst impressions – they feel so accurate, but it’s so easy to get them wrong. When we meet somebody new, we size that person up in just a few seconds. A few seconds, that’s all it takes to decide whether or not we like somebody, whether we trust them, whether or not we want to get to know ...
Views: 12947(5 votes) - Why Very Smart People Sometimes Have Poor Social Skills - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealDo you ever have trouble making conversation with others even though you consider yourself to be a very intelligent person? If so, this may puzzle you. You may wonder why you are so poor at making conversation with others, even though you are very smart, and you know a lot of interesting ...
Views: 10857 - What to Do When People Don't Like You - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealDo you feel like no matter how hard you try, other people still don’t like you? Have you been trying hard to make friends with no good results to show for all of your efforts? If it seems that you have been trying hard to make friends, but that other people still don’t want to be your ...
Views: 9743(2 votes) - Use Positive Reinforcement To Improve Your Life - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealIf you want to improve your performance at something, or if you want to create new good habits, one very successful technique is the use of positive reinforcement. The following story will illustrate how one of my coworkers used positive reinforcement to create new successful behavior. When ...
Views: 9260 - Why Should You Add New Words to Your Vocabulary? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Royane RealThere are a lot of good reasons why we should try to improve our vocabulary. When we have a good vocabulary, we not only sound smarter, but we are smarter. We can learn more things. We can understand deeper concepts and learn the connections between various bits of knowledge that we already ...
Views: 8346(7 votes) - Improve Your Conversation Confidence - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2010 from Royane RealPeople who are shy, and people who have low self esteem often have a difficult time making conversation with others. They sound awkward, they don’t make eye contact with their conversation partners, and they have a hard time keeping the conversation flowing. Although shy people and those ...
Views: 7845(8 votes) - Improve Your Confidence at Parties - Even If You Are Shy - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Royane RealDo you often feel nervous when you are at a party and you want to make a good impression on others? Perhaps you are shy and you get tongue tied or your mind goes blank. Here are many tips to help you improve your conversation confidence at social events. If you have to attend a party or ...
Views: 7317(3 votes) - If You Want Others to Like You, Like Yourself First! - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealMany of us mistakenly believe that it's wrong or conceited, to think we have any good qualities. We may spend a lot of time berating ourselves for our negative qualities, thinking that self criticism is the key to improving our performance. However, a constant focus on our supposed ...
Views: 7210(1 vote) - Why Is It So Hard to Make Friends When You're Older? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Royane RealMany of us fear growing older because we are worried that when we are older we will be lonely. We often see older people sitting in shopping malls who seem to have no friends and nothing to do. We hope that won’t be our fate. What can we do to make sure we still have some friends and a good ...
Views: 6998(1 vote) - Conversation Help For When Your Mind Goes Blank - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2010 from Royane RealMy readers often ask me for advice about how to make friends and improve their conversation skills. They lack confidence in talking to other people and they get shy and nervous. Their mind goes blank when they try to make conversation. If you have the problem of feeling shy or nervous during a ...
Views: 6785(4 votes) - The Truth About Persistence and Success - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealMany people who want to be successful spend a lot of time reading motivational books and articles. You probably do too. You want to know what qualities are required for success. When we read about the tools required to achieve success, very often we are told that if we really want to be ...
Views: 6567 - Use Eye Contact to Improve Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealHave you ever wondered why some people make friends so easily? Do you wonder why they are popular and act as friendship magnets? Do you wonder what you're doing wrong? If you're not making friends easily, it might not be your clothing style, or your financial status that is to blame. It ...
Views: 5550 - How Shy People Can Improve Their Conversation Skills - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2010 from Royane RealPeople who are very shy often share some of the same fears that people who are afraid of public speaking. Some of the techniques that help people overcome their fear of speaking in public can help shy people improve their conversation skills and increase their speaking confidence. I spent ...
Views: 5380(3 votes) - How Talk Show Hosts Can Boost Your Conversation Skills - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2009 from Royane RealDo you want to improve your conversation skills? One good way to pick up tips on making conversation is easily available to you every day. If you want to learn how to be a good conversationalist, a really useful place to start is by watching television! Not just any television shows - you can ...
Views: 5296(2 votes) - How to Write Your Way to Achieving Your Goals! - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealMany of the most successful and famous people in the world have one thing in common - they have spent time every day writing down their thoughts and goals! Learn how writing down your goals will increase your ability to be successful. Recently a book came out in my country about the early ...
Views: 5235(2 votes) - Why Should You Increase Your Vocabulary? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Royane RealDo you need to increase your vocabulary? Maybe you are already perfectly satisfied with the vocabulary you have. After all, you probably use several thousand words on a daily basis. Still, no matter how many words in English you already know and use, there are very good reasons to improve ...
Views: 5027(2 votes) - Learn to Pace Yourself When Studying - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2009 from Royane RealMany students leave their studying too late until the night before an important exam. Even though most students realize that this is a bad habit, they continue to do it. One reason that many students procrastinate with their studies is because they have not learned to pace themselves ...
Views: 4894(4 votes) - Improve Your Learning Ability With Visualization - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealWhen you need to learn something new, do you approach your learning experience feeling confidence in yourself as a learner? Or do you convince yourself that learning is hard, and that you’re not very good at learning? Learning is harder when you lack confidence. You can use visualization ...
Views: 4835 - The Secret to Making More Friends - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealWhen you meet new people for the first time, do you usually like most of the new people that you meet? Or do you find that you usually dislike new people, unless they can eventually prove after a long time that they deserve your friendship? Perhaps you have never thought about this ...
Views: 4834 - Does Your Body Language Attract Other People or Push Them Away? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Royane RealDid you know that even if you never say a word, your face and body are constantly sending out messages to other people about your state of mind, your happiness, and your level of confidence. And you have been reacting to the body language, voice tone, and facial expressions of those people ...
Views: 4789(8 votes) - Learning to Make Small Talk With Strangers - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Royane RealDo you find it difficult to make small talk with strangers? Most of us do. Talking with someone we don’t know can make many of us feel very anxious, especially if we happen to be shy. Why is it so hard to make conversation with strangers? When you first talk with a stranger, you don’t know ...
Views: 4655(5 votes) - Is Being a Perfectionist Keeping You From Having a Perfect Life? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealFor the last couple of weeks I have been working on a magazine article that I hope will be good enough to get accepted for publication in a major magazine. Because this article is so important to me, I am putting a lot of time and work into it, writing and revising, and polishing my writing ...
Views: 4570 - How to Get Over a Fear of Being Rejected - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Royane RealSome people end up living very lonely lives, with few friends, and no loving partner. Why? Because their fear of being rejected is so powerful that they can't find the courage to approach others socially. Learn what you can do to increase your confidence and improve your social ...
Views: 4537 - Attract Other People to You With a Friendly Face - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2010 from Royane RealWhen you are with other people, do you let them get to know the “real you”? Or do you hide yourself from others, always acting stiff and polite? In some societies, people behave very formally with each other. In those societies, you will be more respected if you are distant and courteous, ...
Views: 4477(3 votes) - Don't Put Your Life On Hold While You Search For That Special Someone - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2009 from Royane RealAre you looking for a mate? Sometimes people have the belief that their real life won’t start until they meet and marry their one true love. In the meantime, they put their life on hold. This belief is a fallacy. Your real life is going by right now, whether you are married or not. A single ...
Views: 4227(2 votes) - Discover Your Strongest Intelligence and Your Unique Learning Style - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Royane RealWhen you were going to school, did you do well on exams? Was learning easy for you? Or were you one of those students who had difficulty learning? Did you often feel dumb? Did you grow up convinced that you weren’t very smart? If you didn’t do well in school, it might not have been ...
Views: 4211(4 votes) - Does the Internet Cure Loneliness or Cause Loneliness? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Royane RealA few years ago a surprising survey discovered that people who spent a lot of time on the Internet were a lot lonelier than people who didn’t spend much time on the Net. This was an unexpected find because many people view the Internet and e-mail as a great way to make and keep connections ...
Views: 3988(3 votes) - How to Turn Down an Invitation Politely - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2011 from Royane RealHave you ever been in a situation where you did not know how to turn down an invitation to a social event, but you knew that you really did not want to attend? This is an embarrassing problem that everyone faces from time to time. One reason that it is embarrassing is that most of us want ...
Views: 3859 - Overcome Your Loneliness Even if You Are Alone - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealHow do you feel when you are faced with spending another weekend alone because nobody has invited you to do anything with them? Do you mope around the apartment, hoping that the phone will ring? Do you spend all your time wishing that somebody, somewhere, will call to invite you to do ...
Views: 3736(2 votes) - Invest in Friendship For Your Later Years - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Royane RealWhen I was twenty-two, I was befriended by a woman named Doris who was thirty years older than I was. Although Doris was then a fifty-two year old woman, she did not feel it was inappropriate to befriend me. She did not operate with the social belief that she should choose her friends only ...
Views: 3348(1 vote) - When You Have Problems In a Relationship - Should You Forgive and Forget? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealIf someone has let you down or hurt you repeatedly you may wonder how many times you should "forgive and forget" before you give up on the relationship. No one else can really tell you what to do, although you may wish to ask others for their advice. If you are always being let down or hurt ...
Views: 3292 - Is Your Memory Fuzzy Because of Normal Aging? Or Is it Alzheimer's Disease? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealDo you ever get forgetful? Of course you do, it’s part of being human. However, when we are younger, perhaps in our twenties and thirties, we usually don’t take forgetfulness very seriously. When we’re young, we hardly ever think we must have Alzheimer’s Disease just because we forgot ...
Views: 3189(2 votes) - Do You Need to Have More Friends? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealMany of us today are getting too busy to have a lot of close friendships. In the modern world, we are on the go all the time. Yet our human need to be close to other people continues. Maybe it's time for you to slow down and have more friends. Lots of studies have shown that it’s ...
Views: 3186 - What Is Your Intelligence Type? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Royane RealIs there more than one kind of intelligence? How should we define intelligence? Can we really measure it? What is intelligence, really? Several experts in the field of intelligence have proposed that we need to broaden our understanding of what intelligence really is, and the role it plays in ...
Views: 3115(3 votes) - What Can We Learn from Unlikeable People? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealAll of us encounter unlikeable people from time to time. These are people who in one way or another manage to be very unpleasant to us in every encounter. Yet, even though the experience of coming across an unlikeable person can be very unpleasant, there is always something we can learn from ...
Views: 2980 - Use a Vision Board to Achieve Your Dreams - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Royane RealOne of the best techniques you can use to help you accomplish the goals in your life is creating a vision board. Perhaps you have heard of this technique. If you have not yet heard of a vision board, you are no doubt wondering what it is. A vision board is a board which you cover with ...
Views: 2962(3 votes) - Let Other People See Who You Really Are - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealDo you know anybody that you feel is particularly engaging and lively? Take a moment to picture that person in your mind. What is it about that person that you find most attractive? He or she may have a charming voice and a great laugh, but it is also very likely that you find their face very ...
Views: 2959 - Do You Need to Upgrade Your Small Talk Skills? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2009 from Royane RealBillions of people are doing it every single day. In fact, you could say it makes the world go round. Some of the people who are doing it are very young. Some are very old. And billions of hours are spent on it every single day. What is this activity that is so common that nearly everyone ...
Views: 2864(3 votes) - Rediscover Your Creative Self - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealAs we grow older, many of us feel that our creative side has gone for good. We wish we could be more creative but we don't know how. Chances are that our creativity is just sleeping, and if we try, we can reawaken it. Do you wish you could get in touch with your creativity? Chances are ...
Views: 2717(1 vote) - Are You Terrified of Social Rejection? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealDoes your shyness and fear of getting rejected keep you from having the relationships you want? Are you lonely much of the time? Everyone gets rejected at times, but for those of us who are socially confident, rejection is a minor matter, and people who are confident quickly bounce back from ...
Views: 2509 - Shy People - Learn to Enjoy Networking at Parties - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from Royane RealMany people are intimidated by the idea of attending a party or a business function, especially if they are shy. This is a shame, because social shyness can hurt your career chances as well as your potential for romance and friendship. I’ve put together some tips for you that can help you ...
Views: 2474(2 votes) - Positive Affirmations or Negative Affirmations - You Choose! - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealOne of the most powerful tools we can use to change our beliefs and our behaviors is the tool known as affirmations. Affirmations are simple, short, strong messages that we send to ourselves, by repeating them out loud or silently. Affirmations can also be written. There’s a good reason ...
Views: 2459(5 votes) - Improve Your Conversations Skills With Open Ended Questions - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2010 from Royane RealOne of my friends recently asked me how she should handle an upcoming lunch with her lawyer. She was worried that the lunch would become awkward if they ran out of things to talk about. I suggested she should try to mentally prepare a few general questions such as, “Do you still enjoy being a ...
Views: 2409(1 vote) - Make Time for Friendship - by Submitted on May 29, 2010 from Royane RealDoes it ever seem to you as if it’s harder and harder to make new friends? Sometimes it’s our imagination, but sometimes it’s actually true. When we’re young, we’re surrounded with lots of other people who are the same age as we are, and who are going through the same things we are going ...
Views: 2393(1 vote) - Learn to Overcome Being Shy - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Royane RealAre you shy? If you are shy, then you are aware that shyness can sometimes be a problem. People who are very shy, miss out on a lot of life. They miss out on relationships, on fun, and on career opportunities. Fortunately, there are treatments. Most of us are shy on some occasions. For ...
Views: 2336(1 vote) - Turning Strangers Into Friends - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2006 from Royane RealDo you find it easy to make conversation with new people you’ve just met? Or does the thought of trying to make conversation with someone new make you break out in a cold sweat? If you don’t feel comfortable making casual conversation with new people you have just met, you will find it harder ...
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