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- ***Grief and Restlessness - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVGrief and loss can manifest in many different ways. Your world is different now. You may not be sure what to do next. You may feel very hesitant and unsure of yourself and your ability to make decisions. These feelings may lead to figeting and restlessness. You may have difficulty sleeping as a ...
Views: 2404 - ***Sadness or Depression - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVOften when we grieve, we are uncertain about how to define our feelings. This can lead to confusion and frustration. Sadness and depression are often used in the same sentence to describe one’s feelings. The dictionary defines sad as…”feeling sorrow; unhappy…” The dictionary defines ...
Views: 986 - ***The Pain of Grief - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVYou have lost someone very dear. Your heart is aching. In fact, it may feel like your heart is breaking. These painful emotional feelings often manifest as the physical sensation of tightness and heaviness in the area of your heart. Your shoulders may also ache. They may pull forward as if ...
Views: 2884 - ***Mood Swings During Grief - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVDuring grief you may find your mood swinging back and forth between guilt and anger. Or you may feel depression and anxiety shifting quickly inside. These mood swings can cause you to feel stuck and confused about your grief. You may find yourself directing anger at yourself or at your deceased ...
Views: 4034 - ***Are You Grieving? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVThe complicated feelings involved in the grief process can continue for some time. One common problem grievers often encounter is the inability to concentrate. While there are certainly other reasons why you may be unable to concentrate, grief can very definitely bring on loss of concentration. ...
Views: 930 - ***What to do with Wedding Rings - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVOne of the big questions which comes to mind when you lose your spouse is whether or not you wish to remove your rings. You may also question when is the appropriate time to remove your rings. And you may also hear advice from family and friends about how to handle these deeply personal ...
Views: 1072 - ***Selective Memory - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVThe mind likes to push us from black to white, from either to or, from positive to negative. When we remember events or people, we tend to sort the memories into categories. We see life as either good or bad. We say this is a good memory and that is a bad memory. The mind seems to be trying to ...
Views: 1824 - ***Fear of Forgetting - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVAfter my husband’s death I spent a great deal of time focused on remembering. At first the focus was confined to the day he died. My mind would check to see if all the details were included in my memories. As relatives gathered, the memory loop expanded. The remembrance became denser as others ...
Views: 1570 - ***Grief and Finances - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVDo you know your net worth? The first time I was asked this question I had no idea what it meant. Even though I paid the bills for our farming business, I really did not pay attention to the bigger picture. I had money to pay the bills. That was the important thing. Right? When my husband died ...
Views: 1045 - ***Gratitude Journal, A Tool for the Grieving Heart - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVSeveral times over the past few years I began to keep a gratitude journal. I bought a special notebook and pen and kept them by my bed. I wrote for a few days. Then I would forget for a day. Then I would stop completely. Last year I made a commitment to myself to write in my journal for 21 ...
Views: 1174 - ***Finding Balance While Grieving - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVOne of the most important things I do each day is stand on one foot. I know, that sounds silly. I will explain. A couple months ago I added a new yoga pose to my morning routine. I begin by standing straight and tall with my feet together. Then I bend at the waist, lifting one leg straight back ...
Views: 1025 - ***Grief and Telling the Truth - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVWhile I would not say that I am a people pleaser, I would say that I prefer to avoid conflict. In fact, I really dislike conflict. This desire to avoid conflict has led me to compromise my truth, especially after I lost my husband. Someone would ask me how I was doing. At first I tried to be ...
Views: 810 - ***Grief is a Journey - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVSometimes life seems to become a giant “to do” list. It’s just about getting done and checking things off the list. We forget about the journey and focus solely on the end result. Then we experience frustration or annoyance over any delays in reaching the projected end result. The same thing ...
Views: 846 - ***Grief and Anniversaries - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVMy wedding anniversary is June 3. The first couple of anniversaries after my husband’s death were extremely difficult. There seemed no helpful way to get through this day. I would even start feeling sad and uncomfortable several days prior. During the fifth year, my old dog began having health ...
Views: 1284 - ***Grief and Menopause - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVSoon after my husband’s death, I felt myself descending deeper and deeper into a dark, lethargic place. My body felt sluggish. My mind felt like it was stuffed with cotton balls. I ate little, but seemed to be gaining weight. I decided to visit my naturopathic doctor. She reminded me that I was ...
Views: 5722 - ***Grief and Dating - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVAbout a year after my husband died I began feeling extremely restless. My mind seemed to be skittering from one thing to another. In a way, this was welcome relief from the heaviness of deep sadness and depression. But something was missing. Of course, something was missing. Floyd was missing. ...
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