The Courage to Answer the Call – The Permission to Want What You Want and The Tools To Get You Results

How many of you feel that little voice inside keeps you from taking risks? Do you ever feel like it’s possible for other people but somehow, when you imagine yourself really going for it – you hit up against a tight knot in the pit of your stomach that knocks the wind right out from under you?
Are you tired of hearing people telling you to just TAKE ACTION? Forget taking action, for many of us even just THINKING big is scary!

Whether it’s the thought of starting out in your own business, promoting your services in a bigger way or even simply defining what you do with confidence – showing up and really being present to life is and what it is calling forth from you – is sometimes scary, period.

You are not alone, there are many of us feeling the call to show up in a bigger way and serve life and in the very same breath feel terrified and confused because how are you supposed to commit to something that doesn’t yet even have any form or definition? How do you take action on that? You may not even know what showing up to play bigger game even looks like.

The whole planet is feeling this call for wholeness – for a way that works, for a career that works, for a relationship that works, for an image that works for something that feels better, that is true, authentic, raw, real, and connected.

I had the privilege of teaching at a 3 day women’s gathering in northern Massachusetts called “Daughters of The Earth Gathering” with Alisa Starkweather (whom I highly suggest you get to know if you haven’t already) where I also danced and laughed and cried my heart out under the stars with my sisters. I gave myself a permission to allow the grass to tickle my feet and let the love in my heart bust open and overflow with unbridled joy.

An escape back to the earth, a weekend away immersed in nature, with a beautiful community of healers, artists and transformational leaders was exactly what my soul needed.
I had forgotten how much I totally enjoyed this space of light playful nature sourcing, magical spells, enchantment and ritual it’s was like a part of me I had tucked away, put aside and ignored to go out there and live and operate in the real world.

The Courage to Answer the Call – Simple 4 step process to help give you the tools to get you results your soul is calling for

What area of your life are you withholding permission to explore, to BE, to feel alive in? Where are you not showing up in your life? What is calling you, what is that itch that you just can’t seem to scratch? What is it?

1 – Give yourself the permission to want what you want without minimizing it. Sometimes the fear of the sheer HUGENESS of what you are being called to serve makes you shrink so you make excuses like “oh I don’t really need it all of that” when your insides are screaming with frustration at why what you are wanting is so elusive.
Give yourself the permission to want it, to allow it to birth through you, to surrender the how and just show up to be present to what is wanting to come through. Sometimes this is where we get stuck trying to control it, control ourselves, our emotions, control our environment and the people in it. What is it about the unknown that scares the living shit out of us?

Really. The flowers aren’t afraid. The trees don’t quiver in fear, NO they are supported totally, 100%, by life …just like you.

And sure sometimes there are storms, the wind comes in and rips off a branch, makes a mess; heck, sometimes a tornado comes in an destroys an entire village, decimates everything in it’s path. And then something amazing happens – you find that a space all of a sudden appears – a space to create something new.

Sometimes this is what life does: it obliterates your way back so you can only go forward because it’s time, it’s time to play a bigger game, to expand into something great, to serve in a bigger way, to love more fully, to love more deeply, to be more present, to show up and answer the call. It takes courage to be vulnerable like that. A shitload lot of courage.

2. Connect and calm yourself with the earth. It will bring you back to wholeness. If you feel frantic and fearful, get back to nature, go for a walk, sit in the sun, garden, play, breathe fresh air it will ground you and bring you back to you. I always feel better walking around the backyard and garden in my bare feet – it helps me be calm.
Get back to nature to help you unwind and get into the flow of your being, find what feels good again, tickles your senses, and what pleasures you. When you are in alignment with what feels good again – the world becomes your oyster.

3. Give definition to what you want to experience. Write it out, what is it you really want, why do you want it, what it will feel like to have it, what feeling are you really going after? What will the money bring you? What will the loving relationship bring you? Define it. Your world exists simply because you give it definition – because you are conscious of it. That’s it. You don’t have to worry about working hard enough for it – or deserving it – or any of that! All you have to do is to be disciplined enough to FOCUS your attention on defining clearly what it really is and how having IT would make you feel.

4. Practice the BEINGness of that feeling. Your life starts from beingness. Don’t make the mistake of doing this to get that to then be happy, or feel loved. Maybe this disconnect shows up for you working in a job that is completely out of alignment with your values, or eating foods that don’t support you, hanging out with friends who really don’t get you, making promises you know you know you wont keep. You keep doing more, more hard work at the office, more work around the house, you buy a bigger car, you get more clients, you make more money, you get the relationship of your dreams, you go on the trip – but still something is missing. The more you search, the more the itch needs to be scratched. You think if only I can just get … THEN, then finally I could relax and have some peace.

But that day never comes, there is always something in the way, some priority, some detail, some doing that keeps you from all of these wonderful feelings that you are REALLY going after.

That’s the circle of struggle. The DO – BE – HAVE struggle and its exhausting. Creation comes from BEINGNESS.

Being happy, being magical, being wise, being open, being confident, being prosperous, being gentle with yourself, being loving, being kind, being radical, being accepting, being nurturing, being powerful, being creative, being divine, being bold, being authentic, being whole, being complete, being present… leaving you with a few choices – what are you being?

To Your Love Expansion + Freedom
Vanessa