We’ve all been there, a phone clutched tightly in hand waiting for him to text, email or call. So afraid you might miss him, you carry the phone from room to room, from place to place.

You check your phone a hundred times while you refresh the mailbox again and again. You send an email to yourself just to make sure the mail program is working properly.

If your friend calls you don’t pick up. Instead of welcoming her call, you’re annoyed by the interruption and it reminds you how it hurts that it’s not him.

Afraid he may forget you, you decide to text him first, just to casually check in and say, “hi.” Your fingers hit the keys and type, but then you panic and stop yourself just in time.

As if all this isn’t enough to put yourself through, there are questions you keep asking in your head; “Does he like me?” “Did I do something wrong?” “Is he thinking of me?”

You hate yourself for feeling needy, for being unable to focus on anything else. Who is this person so consumed just waiting for his call? We’ve all been that person and it’s not fun.

So what can you do to stop this craziness and stop waiting for his call?

First of all, you have to stop pushing him away with your desperate energy. It doesn’t matter that he can’t see you; he will feel it because we’re all energetically connected.

This may sound a little “woo-woo” but I’ve experienced this truth time and time again. When you meet someone you like you become subconsciously “attached” to each other. This happens at a deeper level than your conscious thoughts and can’t be put into words. It’s something you feel as opposed to something you think.

Even if we send a text we hope will be perceived as a casual “hi,” it won’t disguise our neediness or desperation. It will be “felt” by the receiver for what it really is.

There’s no hiding what’s going on with you even if he gets in touch. If you’ve felt desperate waiting for him, no matter how you pretend you haven’t, he’ll know it.

How To Stop Waiting For His Call:

There is only one remedy; you have to change your energy by distracting your thoughts away from him. As hard as this might be, you must let go of the phone and turn it off for a good, long period of time. If you can’t do this on our own, put yourself in an environment where you have to — go to a movie or swim laps at the gym.

As your mind gets distracted by other things the energy between you will start to shift. He’ll sense your new state of mind and be more inclined to reach out to you.

When you’ve learned to stop waiting for his call you’ll have a new healthy dating pattern. It will keep your energetic connection clear of your negative emotions and increase the chance of that text, email or phone call coming in that much faster.

Author's Bio: 

Virginia Clark (aka Virginia Feingold Clark) has coached hundreds of woman by helping them to uncover their blocks to love and marriage. With over 12 years of experience as a successful Certified Hypnotherapist, she is an expert on the power of the subconscious mind and its ability to transform one's love life.

Virginia met her husband in her mid 40s, and has now has been married to the love of her life for twelve years. Her years of struggle and desperation as a single woman have given her a unique insight into what it takes to find your true love and create the marriage of your dreams.

Her past experiences as an actress and founder of a theatre company in Boston and the owner of her own successful personnel agency in Los Angeles has given her insight into both the corporate world and the Arts. She was also a leader in a spiritual community where she gave guidance on love and life problems for 19 years.

She holds a M.F.A. degree from Brandeis University in Theatre and was chosen to be one of the Pioneering Nine — the first women ever invited to attend Dartmouth College. They would later be hailed as the women who sparked the movement that turned the entrenched, all male Ivy League school co-ed.

Virginia’s direct approach and natural intuition gives her clients just what they need to create powerful breakthroughs in their romantic relationships.

She works with women who are in troubled relationships as well as with single women who are looking for their Mr. Right. She helps women find true love throughout the United States as well as internationally.