Everybody wants to find that "perfect" partner to be happy. I'm sure some people have found him/her already and they are happy. Yet, there are more who are still looking … and they are frustrated.

Today, I want to share with you what I've learned about bringing my soul mate to my life.

If you are feeling frustrated and lonely about not yet meeting your mate, you may be wasting your time. The reality is that you are not happy with your life and that reflects in everything you do.

Some people are searching for love because they do not have enough self love and self appreciation, so they are seeking in others what they don't have for themselves. This is why so many people say that their partner "completes them" because the other person gives them the love they don't give to themselves. They focus their life on trying to find that special man or woman. The more they focus on him/her, the more they are missing the good things that are happening in their lives right now. They will get more and more frustrated.

Spend more time loving yourself. First and foremost, your love is inside you. Love you. Love all of you. Love yourself completely and unconditionally. Be in love with the totality of your being. This is the only way you will know true love and happiness. When you love yourself completely, you no longer NEED to have another's love to be happy, yet it seems that this is the time another's love comes freely to you.

You can practice every day in front of your mirror and repeat your positive affirmations. "I radiate love and happiness”, I have a beautiful face”, “My body is the perfect body for me”, "I’m full of love”, "I’m very happy with my life now”…

Do things to be happy. Exercise, get a massage, enroll in a new dance class, practice a sport, meet new people, do an activity you always wanted to do, but never get around to it: Today is the time to do it!

When you love yourself and you are happy with your life, great things start coming to you. You don't need to look for them. Imagine you are a magnet and you attract things to you – but please, be positive and believe. Then, you can attract your "perfect" mate. The perfect partner for you will match your desires and feelings. Make a list of WHAT you want in a relationship and WHY you want it. Find things that make you feel good. A few good tools to help bring your soul mate to you are Scripting and living the happiness with that special person NOW.

Remember, you want to fall in love because you want to enjoy somebody's company, because you are full of love and you can give so much love, not because you NEED to be loved or you feel lonely.

It is time to love yourself and being happy! Stop looking for those things that you already have inside. Your right partner is waiting for you; you both just need to be on the same frequency of love. “If you want to listen rock & roll, don’t set the station in a classic channel.”

Author's Bio: 

Patricia Anaya, creator of www.brainwoman.com, has a passion for creating projects that help people, especially women and children. "brainywoman.com opens up a lot of possibilities to touch women's lives and help them to improve self-esteem." She's also passionate about offering the very best in content and commentary, humor and high-quality merchandise that supports www.brainywoman.com's signature motto, Love Yourself! Tell the World, I'm Pretty, Sexy and Smart!