Sex, Marriage and Compatibility - Soul Mate Connections Are Not What You Think

Sometimes people are drawn together like magnets, yet the
compatibility is questionable. It’s not smooth sailing to
say the least, and trying to make it permanent is akin to
strapping a 45lb weight to your back for the rest of your
life.

Might the inability to part ways, the intense draw, be a
mysterious working of fate? Yes. "Soul mate" connections
very often include plenty of strife and heavy lessons,
without the presumed romantic bliss.

Based on our comprehensive astrology and numerology work,
two people can absolutely be incompatible, yet they may
stay together for other reasons. Know that person A might
have great overall compatibility with person B, but not
with person C. Varying, unique degrees of intellectual,
emotional, spiritual, physical and sexual compatibility
exist between every couple.

Despite a lack of compatibility, some such couples say no
amount of effort is too much to save a relationship if they
are deeply in love. We recommend looking at what "deeply in
love" really means to you. What exactly do you feel for the
person and why? Is there an early life, dysfunctional dynamic
being played out for either or both of you? Is the connection
held together by guilt due to one or both of you being afraid
to walk away? Exactly how much sacrifice is involved for you
or him? Is it really a great connection, or is it more about
what they do for you or voids they fill for you? Are you
afraid to be alone? Are you concerned about financial
security? You've got to be brutally honest with yourself
if you want clarity.

Every person you meet is for a different reason, or reasons.
It's not easy to overrule your heart and be totally objective
in your romantic life, but it will save you heartache. Dating
is easier when you accept each situation for what it is
instead of trying to cast a play (husband or wife role,
provider, etc.).

To help you understand more about romantic compatibility,
we'll list some of our findings. We have yet to invalidate
the following considerations through our extensive work
over the years: some romantic connections include
questionable compatibility, but the shared or compatible
timing (long-term or short-term) serves as the foundation
of the draw; some connections are horrible, but the
"unexplainable" draw is intense and serves to help them
fulfill the karmic implications of this particular "soul
mate" connection (one or both "owe" each other in not so
pleasant ways); some people have great life-long love karma,
some people have fair life-long love karma, and others have
terrible life-long love karma; one's personal timing (long-
term and, or short-term), if very good in relation to love-
life, can symbolically, somewhat mitigate one's life-long
challenging love-life karma; one's personal timing, if very
challenging in connection with love, can symbolically wreck
one's love life even if they have great life-long love karma
(as reflected in the patterns in the comprehensive charts).

We feel that a highly compatible match does not need a lot
of "work" or compromise. If you are complete by yourself
and have your life together, finding someone to share it
with should not require you to give up your goals, friends,
hobbies, or what you've worked hard for.

At the same time, compatible, harmonious matches that also
share a high degree of sexual chemistry are few and far
between for most people. Some people would rather be with
someone who is semi-compatible, or not compatible at all
instead of being alone. Others are content to be alone and
concentrate on other areas of their life, like career, until
they meet someone they feel is worth sharing their time with.
It's up to you, yet our work tells us that people are largely
going to do what they are predestined to do, so as long as
you remain objective and respond with compassion and
unconditional love, you'll be fine.

Copyright © 2007 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo