Where did your money story come from?

No matter what our financial background, we all have unique money stories imprinted upon us from a young age. And whether we’re conscious or not of what we’ve absorbed, we all pass along these stories, feelings and attitudes to our children, partners, friends and colleagues. Even if you don’t talk much about the topic, that in itself, is part of your story.

The first step in getting a handle on your money story is to figure out what your parents or other childhood models taught you about money. This influence is so strong that most adults recreate family money dynamics –the familiar –in one of three ways:

1.Being attracted and attractive to people who are similar to those “childhood models”

2.Interpreting other people’s behaviour as being similar to your parents or childhood models (whether it’s the same or not)

3.Doing all you can to get the other person to exhibit familiar behaviours.

Here’s the kicker: Even if you consciously choose someone who’s different from your mom or dad, it’s likely you’ll unconsciously try to change that person so they fit into the family blueprint (which is why we often get angry at a partner for not being who we want them to be).

Author's Bio: 

Dr. Gerhart, Certified Financial Planner, has a solid stature as a successful businesswoman. She has proven her business acumen as a management consultant to Fortune 500 companies and two branches of the United States armed forces, and as the owner of a financial service company, Gerhart Group, for almost 20 years, serving as a registered principal. She maintains and exceeds the minimum continuing education standards required to maintain her CFP credentials as well as her life insurance license and securities registrations. She is a graduate of Financial Planning, a Certified Financial Planner, and holds insurance and real estate brokerage licenses.
She is committed to seeing that people, especially women, are inspired, empowered, and transformed around their money/financial issues. She served as a college Dean of Student Learning, holds a doctorate in education, graduated Cum Laude from DePaul University, and is a member of honor societies Kappa Delta Pi and Delta Pi Epsilon. Dr. Gerhart was a founding faculty member of one of seven Leagues of Innovations Community Colleges in the United States. Her remarkable contributions to college education span twenty-five years.
Through her vast experience and qualifications and magnetic energy, Judith is facilitating the creation of profound and inspiring futures for all the women she works with.