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How To Deal With Angry People: A Survival Guide - by Tony FioreFour Ways to Deal with a Passive-aggressive Person - by Tony Fiore- PROD Method of Conflict Resolution - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2014 from Janet PfeifferConflict: one of the most feared words in the English language and sadly one of the most misunderstood as well. My mission: to bring deeper awareness to this benign term, to remove all preconceived negativity associated with disagreements, and to reinstate it's position of value in our ...
Views: 1537 - Alternative Healing Modalities for Anger - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2014 from Janet PfeifferWhen I was a child, my mom always utilized natural methods for healing. Fevers were treated with cold compresses to the forehead, sucking on frozen juice pops, and cool baths. Burns were treated with ice, colds with chicken soup. Rarely was medication given to restore health. Even when we ...
Views: 1618 - Debunking Six Common Myths About Anger - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2014 from Janet PfeifferI've been presenting seminars on healing anger for twenty years and it never ceases to amaze me how much misinformation is circulating about one of life's most powerful emotion. I've decided it is time to debunk some of the most common myths. So without further ado, let me begin with... Myth ...
Views: 2290 - Why Stay Angry? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2014 from Melissa Heisler“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” – Mark Twain What was the last thing that made you angry? The bad driver cutting you off? Your kids not picking up their toys? You were passed over for a promotion? How long ...
Views: 1295 - Rumors and Gossip: Damage Control, Part 2 - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2014 from Janet PfeifferThey all complained about the daily gossip that ran rampant among them. Every one participated in it yet ironically no one could understand why they would be targeted. In the fifteen years I worked at the battered women's shelter, both staff and residents criticize those who engaged in rumors ...
Views: 2438 - To Fight or Not to Fight? That is the Question - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2014 from Janet PfeifferDo you enjoy a good fight? I don't but I know some people who do. Regardless of who we are interacting with, differences of opinion, issues , and conflict will arise periodically. Some approach arguments with zest, others with great trepidation, and some avoid them at all costs. There are times ...
Views: 1383(1 vote) - Kids + Divorce + Blended Families = Anger - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2014 from Janet PfeifferDivorce - it's a word that makes me cringe every time I hear it. Mine was thirty-two years ago (not of my choosing) and was one of the most painful periods of my life. Two people brought together in love take a sacred vow to love, honor, and cherish one another for eternity. No one ever says, ...
Views: 2760 - Finding Inner Peace- - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2014 from Janet PfeifferNo matter where you go in life, you'll find that humans share similar goals: we are all seeking happiness, success, good health, wealth, and love. Some are fortunate to acquired some or all of them. And yet as quickly as we obtain them we can lose them or they can disappoint and hurt us. You ...
Views: 1598 - In America You Are Allowed To Say NO! - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown"Two things define you; your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything." In my article on March 2, 2014 and chapter two in my book Backbone Power The Science of Saying No, I speak about the importance of being able to say No when you mean No. After listening ...
Views: 1330(1 vote) - How Your Memories Can Make You Angry And How You Can Manage It - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2014 from Frank HealyAnger and vindictiveness always comes from the belief that one is cheated and their life is unfair. For Eliott Rogers, it seems that the memories that he focused on were of two varieties which, in combination can cause anger and rage. The first type of memory is one that you are a nice person ...
Views: 2808 - Weak, Meek or Strong: a Biblical Perspective on Anger - by Submitted on May 28, 2014 from Janet PfeifferThe first verse of the Beatitudes in the Bible says, "Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the Earth." Like many others, I always had difficulty with the term meek. To me, it was synonymous with being weak. And yet nothing could be farther from the truth. The word meek comes from the ...
Views: 1878(1 vote) - An Odyssey from Resentment to Forgiveness - by Submitted on May 27, 2014 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.comResentment is like quicksand…it really sucks! It pulls us in and holds us down, and we become stuck in our own self-imposed suffering. Forgiveness offers freedom from that suffering, but getting to forgiveness can sometimes feel like an arduous odyssey. Our defensive egos hang onto wrongs with ...
Views: 1529(1 vote) - 13 Quick Questions for Clarifying Anger - by Submitted on May 21, 2014 from Janet PfeifferDo you ever wonder why it's so hard to break a habit? Whether it's biting your fingernails, the way you speak, or your reaction to drivers who cut you off on the highway, old habits die hard. The reason being is that behaviors, when repeated frequently enough, become habitual. We no longer ...
Views: 1715 - ***Enhancing Our Brains Easily - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2015 from Barbara SteppAt 75 years of age and working with Brain Enhancement as a teacher, author and coach for 45 years, it has been and continues to be a delight to enhance my brain and help others do the same. It is really fun too! Don’t you love brain games? A little over a year ago, I had a rare and ...
Views: 4330(1 vote) - Anger in the Workplace - by Submitted on May 14, 2014 from Janet Pfeiffer"One of my coworkers is so annoying! She's always making personal calls when she's supposed to be working. Then when she can't finish her work she asks me for help!" Recently, one of my clients (a mechanic) complained about missing tools. "We are all responsible for our own tools. I keep mine ...
Views: 2224 - Adult Temper Tantrums: the Why's and What's - by Submitted on May 07, 2014 from Janet PfeifferEach one of my children threw one temper tantrum in their lives. As with all toddlers, overwhelming frustration can lead to a meltdown of epic proportions. I was not the kind of mother who would wait patiently until them calmed down. Not me! I walked right up to them, grabbed their shoulders, ...
Views: 2512 - You Can Prevent Bad Things From Happening to You - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2014 from Janet PfeifferIn 1981, the book, When Bad Things Happen to Good People, was released. It chronicled Rabbi Harold Kushner's journey of doubt and fear that arose when his three-year old son was diagnosed with a degenerative disease that would dramatically reduce the length of his life. The following year, my ...
Views: 2122 - Joe Frasier's Got Nothing On Me (Reactive Anger) - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2014 from Janet PfeifferI was an instructor at the Learning Annex in NY City for many years. Classes ended at 9 pm and the ride home was a long one. One evening, after teaching an anger management course for three hours, I pulled into my driveway around 11 pm, exhausted and anxious to crawl into bed. I pulled my car ...
Views: 1462 - Veterans and Anger Management - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2014 from Abigail FazelatThe U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: “re-experiencing symptoms,” “avoidance symptoms,” ...
Views: 1321 - ***Should I Stay Or Should I Go? Stunningly simple ways to help you decide. - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2014 from Marc SadoffThree Exercises To Help You Decide If Hoping Your Relationship Can Change Is RealHope Or Toxic Hope These exercises come from the RealHope For Real Couples Course manual. #1. Take a look at the last six months of this relationship. Fantasize that the next ...
Views: 1722 - 7 Communication Strategies to Reduce Anger and Conflict - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Janet PfeifferWhy is it so hard to talk to one another? Unless you're a recluse, it's something we all do every day. Perhaps because I'm a motivational speaker, author, and radio host I can talk ad infinitum. I actually find it enjoyable and relatively easy. Yet there is a significant difference between ...
Views: 1786 - Four Simple Ways to Reduce Stress - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2014 from Janet PfeifferAs I entered the room I could feel the tension of the forty-eight individuals seated at the oblong conference tables. I was about to present a workshop to these teachers on managing stress. Conditions for educators across the nation have become increasingly more demanding as states mandate more ...
Views: 1099 - A No-Win Situation: What to Do When You're Caught in the Middle - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2014 from Janet PfeifferWe've all found ourselves in situations where we feel as though we're caught between a rock and a hard place. Faced with making a necessary decision, our choices are less than favorable and all options have potentially serious consequences. Your best friend confides that she's having an affair ...
Views: 3074 - The Healing Power of Play - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2014 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.comLoosening the grip of negative emotions through play is one of my favorite ways to shift out of misery into happiness. It’s not only fun but it’s healing as well. I’m quoted about this topic in a new book called Radical Remission: Surviving Cancer Against All Odds by Dr. Kelly Turner, which ...
Views: 1281(1 vote) - Three Key Strategies For Reducing Anger - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2014 from Janet PfeifferI see clients ever week who ask me to teach them how to control their tempers. "I'm not the person to help you with that. Controlling anger can be hazardous to your health and to the safety of those around you." Most often, they stare at me in disbelief. "Controlling anger takes an enormous ...
Views: 1354(2 votes) - What To Do If You Have It All But Are Still Anxious Or Depressed - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2014 from Frank HealyWhen I counsel people with depression and anxiety, they often say that they don't understand why they feel depressed or anxious. People who have a good job, a good loving family, and enough money get confused over their feelings. Consequentially they don't get any sympathy from their friends or ...
Views: 3100 - Sarcasm: Is It Humor or Something Sinister? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2014 from Janet PfeifferI hate sarcasm. It's rude, hurtful, and offensive. Yet I have met many people who insist that it is humorous. "Sarcasm can be funny, " my friend John told me. "I beg to differ", I replied. "There is nothing funny about saying something hurtful to another person." "Yes, but...", he continued, ...
Views: 2128 - A Different Perspective On Victimhood - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2014 from Frank HealyYou hear it all the time. Someone gets angry and dissatisfied with someone else and the person whom they are upset with is the victim. Here is an important question. Why would someone who is happy and content want to abuse another? It just does not make sense. Let's take some less serious ...
Views: 1850 - How to Survive the Rest of This Winter - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2014 from Frank HealyPeople throughout much of the United States will remember the winter of 2013-2014. You have recent memories of shoveling snow, driving through ice, snow, and slush, staying home with the kids when they had a day off, and worrying about the safety of people you know. Those of you who do not live ...
Views: 1744 - Tough Advice About Anger - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2014 from Janet PfeifferEverybody gets angry, even me. Professionally, I've been helping people understand and reduce their anger for twenty years. And in all honesty, I do practice what I preach. I experience far less anger and frustration than I did when I was younger, perhaps some of which is due to age. People ...
Views: 1333 - The High Price Tag of Anger: What is it Really Costing You? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2014 from Janet PfeifferThere's no doubt: anger takes its toll on every facet of our lives. From on the job, to our personal relationships, to our health and overall enjoyment of life, destructive anger can wreak havoc in our daily lives. On the job it cost businesses over $4.2 billion, yes -billion, a year. ...
Views: 2150(1 vote) - What's bothering you? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2014 from Larry CranePerhaps you’ll agree that when something is bothering you, it prevents you from being at peace. In truth, the more we try to figure out “what-to-do” or “what-not-to-do” actually keeps the situation from changing. Take a moment and look at this consideration more carefully. Whatever we are ...
Views: 1455 - Fatal Mistakes in Conflict Resolution - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2014 from Janet PfeifferFew people I know like to the process of resolving disagreements. In fact, when they hear "conflict" they automatically equate it with fighting. Yet one is not comparable to the other. Conflict is simply two forces in opposition. Fighting is defined with such words as "violent, battle, combat, ...
Views: 2094(1 vote) - Aggression and Anger: the Human/Canine Connection - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Janet PfeifferI've been blessed in my life. I've had eighteen dogs, all of whom were sweet and loving. I've never had an aggressive dog with the exception of one - Huggy Bear. Huggy was a black Great Dane that came to us when he was just a pup. Big floppy ears, giant paws, and a single white spot on his chest ...
Views: 1464 - ***Why are some people so mean? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Marc SadoffMotivational Reasons I don’t want or need to change my behavior. This is probably the most common reason for not changing how anger is expressed. No change is likely until the abuser ‘puts down the binoculars and picks up a mirror.’ Often shame is at the core of men and women who are ...
Views: 1847(2 votes) - ***Can hostile, aggressive angry people really change their behavior? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Marc SadoffAnger Management skills can be helpful for people ranging from the mildly miffed to the violently vengeful. You do not need to be in a physically violent relationship to benefit from understanding and learning about communicating angry and hurt feelings constructively. Secondly, if you are ...
Views: 5859(2 votes) - ***It’s O.K. To Be Angry! Hostility & Aggression Is The Problem. - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Marc SadoffAnger Management skills can be helpful for people ranging from the mildly miffed to the violently vengeful. You do not need to be in a physically violent relationship to benefit from understanding and learning about communicating anger and hurt feelings constructively. Secondly, if you are ...
Views: 1878(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am on MAJOR pain pills. - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 49 year old disabed vet, chest injury in pain 24/7. I am on MAJOR pain pills. Have not had sex with wife since one day I pulled her pants down and found a river of a substance that looked like human ejaculate but smelt like beer. Six months later she said it was ...
Views: 1627(4 votes) - Getting over the issue of Jealousy - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2013 from Larry CraneIf you haven’t yet recognized this fact, nothing good comes from being jealous. Jealousy is a deep-rooted emotion in the realm of pride. Jealousy damages relationships. Reasons for being jealous include: thinking we can’t have something… believing we aren’t good enough… lacking confidence ...
Views: 1818(4 votes) - The Spiritual Solution to Anger - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2013 from Janet PfeifferI've spoken many times about the importance of all feelings, anger included. With every emotion we experience, we have the ability to learn much about ourselves. No feeling is inherently wrong. It's how we choose to express and use them that determines their value. In The Secret Side of ...
Views: 1865(2 votes) - 8 Ways To Have An Anxiety Free Experience This Holiday Season - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2013 from Dennis SimsekI have to admit i'm not a big fan of the continuous christmas carols, crowded shopping centers or the pressures to prepare holiday meals for people. Call me the grinch, but the holiday season for many can be a time of relentless stress and anxiety rather then a festive experience. But a few ...
Views: 1353 - (Really Smart) Advice About Anger - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Janet PfeifferOne of my clients complained that her boyfriend had an annoying habit of constantly chewing gum. It drove her crazy! "Aside from that, he's perfect." she exclaimed. "But how do I get him to stop? He knows it bugs me yet he continues to do it. He says he's not doing anything wrong and then ...
Views: 2320(1 vote) - Five Tips to Mediate a Dispute - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2013 from Janet PfeifferI enjoy a good robust debate. I find it can be very stimulating and present an opportunity for me to learn something new. In every facet of life, we encounter individuals with whom we have disagreements. Recently, a woman in her forties came into my office seeking suggestions as to how she could ...
Views: 1132 - How to Approach and Assist an Angry Person - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2013 from Janet PfeifferWe all encounter angry people in every walk of life. Some will confront them, others avoid them like the plague. There are times when either approach is acceptable. I do not like drama. However, I am concerned about others when they appear upset. And I am very knowledgeable as to how to help ...
Views: 2565(3 votes) - Forgiveness: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Forgiving? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to be told that they should just forgive and forget and simply move on from someone who has wronged them. This can seem to be the most logical thing that one can do; to put it behind them and carry on with their life. One could be told that they are bigger than ...
Views: 2110(2 votes) - The danger of suppression: Don’t bottle up your emotions - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2013 from Adele TheronAny serious scientist will be familiar with the assertion that stress causes immune-compromise. A recent study by researchers at Harvard School of Public Health has finally put this long-held knowledge into perspective, deciphering that those who bottle up their feelings have a cardiovascular ...
Views: 1417 - THE NAIL IN THE FENCE - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2013 from Janet Pfeiffer"The sharpest sword is a word spoken in wrath." (The Buddha). A little boy, prone to anger, was told by his father, "Every time you're angry, drive a nail in that wooden fence. When you've learned to control your anger, start removing them." Six months later, the boy had removed every nail ...
Views: 1822(2 votes) - Dealing with Child Anger and Aggression - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2013 from Tali Shenfieldby Dr. Tali Shenfield, Clinical Psychologist Every parent wants to protect their children, teach them to protect themselves, and help them redirect their own outbursts before they become dangerous and aggressive. We want to know that when our children become angry, we can discipline them ...
Views: 2409(6 votes) - My Ways of Stress Control! - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2013 from Niki CleggI need to say straight off the bat stress is a killer and I don't intend to be a victim anytime soon! I am a sixty years old, hard working single mum of five adult children, eight grandchildren plus a great granddaughter. I still have two sons at home all of which means I do know and understand ...
Views: 1468(3 votes) - Road Rage: Drive to Stay Alive - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2013 from Janet PfeifferRoad rage is one of the leading causes of accidents and deaths in this country. According to a report by CNN, an estimated 28,000 people each year are killed due to aggressive drivers. It's easy to see how cities such as Miami, NY, Boston, LA, and Washington DC (the cities with the most ...
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