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- The Psychosocial Politics of Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.As a psychologist, I’m often asked what is the psychopathology of individuals in abusive relationships? The perpetrator’s mental health status is usually more self-evident, whereas the victims’ mental health status is clouded with the psychosocial politics of domestic violence ...
Views: 928 - 5 Benefits of Learning to Identify Intimate Partner Abuse - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.If you have read my writing, you may know me as someone who encourages people to recognize intimate partner violence. But, I wonder if you know why I’m so steadfast about this. Learning to Meditate Is Like Learning to Mate I’m reminded of the days when I taught biofeedback and ...
Views: 844 - Leaving an Abusive Relationship - How to Insure a Safe Departure from an Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.If you’ve read my writing you know I’m a proponent of leaving an abusive relationship quickly and quietly, when you decide to do so. Now that doesn’t mean you jump in the car and go “out of the blue.” No not at all. Because if you do, chances are you’ll be ...
Views: 770 - Family Violence Healing: 3 Keys to Healing Parental Alienation - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.When children go away to college and get away from “who and what” the controlling family members want them to be, a window opens up. What they discover is their essence. Now here’s the gem... That essence is a composite of their formative years. If you were in their lives ...
Views: 844 - What You Must Know to Leave an Abusive Relationship Safely - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Often times we hear that leaving an abuser, can be deadly. According to FBI reports 75% of all homicides by intimate male partners occurred after the victim left. Battered women are far more vulnerable to physical attack as well as attacks to their personal privacy, their civil liberties and ...
Views: 780 - Domestic Violence and Child Custody: From the Frying Pan to the Fire of Family Violence - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Can we bring justice to family courts? That’s a highly political question, and I think the answer has more to do with the nature of the human beings behind the system and the misconceptions of those using the system to seek safety. We hear of battered women falling through the cracks of ...
Views: 774 - Emotional Verbal Abuse: Signs that Serve to Save Verbal Abuse Survivors - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Women say, I was glad when he hit me, because I finally realized what was on my plate. I finally got it. This is abuse! Do you need the altercations in your home to become physical before you can see them for what they are? If so, you could be making your remedy more difficult, more ...
Views: 1308 - Breaking the Spirit - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2008 from Robina HearleBreaking the spirit of people I am sad to say is an accepted method of control in our society. It is done in some cases as part of a regimen of discipline, by others unwittingly as they are not aware of their own destructive powers. People do it to other people and humans do it to animals. ...
Views: 12262 - After the Abusive Relationship: Long-Term Aid for Domestic Abuse Survivors - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Do what you’re called to do and the universe will support you. You’ve probably heard this, but may be scratching your head thinking about your bills, responsibilities and all of the what ifs... This is understandable. So rather than jump in with blind faith, I want to invite your ...
Views: 1210 - Domestic Violence and Child Custody - Legal Psychiatric Ploys of Divorce Lawyers - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.When divorce and domestic violence are before the court, the children can often serve as the vehicle for the perpetrator to save face and maintain control over the family. Sound familiar? If you are in family court with an abusive partner, or abusive ex-partner, and there are children ...
Views: 979 - Linking Sexual Abuse To Psychiatric Disturbances - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2008 from Gudrun FrerichsI have found in my research that often survivors do not know that their problems are related to experiences of sexual abuse in their past. In fact, in my research six of the ten participants did not link their psychiatric disturbances to their history of sexual abuse. They were completely ...
Views: 1195 - Abusive Relationships - What is the Difference between Being Abusive and Being an Abuser? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.What is the difference between “being abusive” and “being an abuser?” I hear this question by people trying to determine if they are entangled in intimate partner violence, even when they don’t know this term. What they want to know is: Am I in a dangerously abusive ...
Views: 894 - Beware Gangs Of Time Thieves Are On The Prowl - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2008 from Andrew RondeauTick-tock, tick-tock, tick-tock… Right. No time for hanging around today. Lots to do, so let’s get organized. First things first. Make a list. Now where’s my note pad. I know I left it here somewhere. Isn’t it amazing how things just disappear around here? I ...
Views: 1855(1 vote) - Abusive Relationships - Why Do People Return To Their Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.A common question people have about individuals in abusive relationships is: why do they stay? A more perplexing question to bystanders looking in is: why do they go back? And moreover, why do they go back again and again and again? It is estimated that a domestic abuse survivor will return to ...
Views: 986 - Adult Child's Abusive Relationship - How to Support Your Child's Psychotherapeutic Growth - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Parents are often the instruments of change for adult children in abusive relationships. And at the same time, they can also impede the change process. The Process Yields the Result Psychotherapy is a process; it’s not an injection. Even though there are psychotherapeutic techniques ...
Views: 822 - What Is Recovery From Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2008 from Gudrun FrerichsThe journey of recovery from sexual abuse can often be a journey of pain that over time may become hopeful longing and turns towards the end into delight. Even though most survivors understand recovery as a lifelong process, a significant milestone is usually achieved when coping without ...
Views: 1111 - ***Violence Prevention Agenda For New President - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2008 from Kathy SeifertA 12-year old South Carolina boy was shot and killed while trick or treating on October 31. Members of his family were shot and injured. Werner Lippe, a 66-year old jeweler, has confessed to killing his wife and disposing of the body. Four men have been charged with the deadly shooting of ...
Views: 1457 - Abusive Relationship - The Power Of A Diagnosis in Understanding And Ending Domestic Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.The value of the diagnostic label has more to do with the way it impacts the person with the condition than anything else. Can you remember a time in your life when you had a medical condition and you received a diagnosis that immediately lifted the weight off your shoulders and sent you to ...
Views: 739 - 7 Reasons Why Child Abuse Is Not Normal - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2008 from Gudrun FrerichsJust the other day someone made the statement that child sexual abuse is normal because it happens so oft en. Maybe it’s only a problem because we (society) make such a big deal out of it. Well, that was quite a challenge that turned quickly into a heated discussion. I can understand though, ...
Views: 2332 - Red Flags to Help You Avoid Getting into Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2010 from Su EricksenDomestic abuse is not uncommon. According to a 1998 Commonwealth Fund survey almost one-third of American women have reported being physically abused by a husband or boyfriend sometime in their lives. 30% of Americans claim to know a woman who has been a victim of domestic abuse. All races are ...
Views: 2350 - Depth Psychological Perspectives On Addiction And Treatment - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2008 from John SmethersChemical dependency has been beaten like a dead horse. There are causal theories from genetic predisposition to various theories of learning, which has contributed greatly to a social construction of reality--a clearing that needs to be re-visioned. Discussed here will be psychological and depth ...
Views: 7346 - Abusive Relationship - Double Dynamics When Sons And Daughters Are In Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.It’s no secret that we use our adulthood to work out our unfinished business with our parents. And when domestic violence is on our plate we may even see it as an opportunity to get even. Young people in abusive relationships sometime remain in these relationships because their parents ...
Views: 780 - How Do You Know If Someone Is Ready To Connect With You? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2008 from Gudrun FrerichsIt is well know that only about 7% of communication is expressed in language. 93% of all communication is expressed in body language, facial expression, and tone of voice. That means the better you are able to ‘read’ the other person’s non-verbal expressions, the better you will be at connecting ...
Views: 1391 - Victims Have Purpose In Life - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2008 from Nikki JourdanNow that I have your attention, allow me to explain why I know, beyond any reasonable doubt, that our choices and decisions either make or break our true destiny and purpose in God. If you are not where you want to be, there is still hope for you. My purpose is to exhort women leaders and others ...
Views: 1863 - Verbal Abuse - How To Stay Out Of The Line Of Fire When It Comes To Verbal Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.The moment the verbal assault springs off his/her tongue, the natural reflex is “ouch.” Correct? But lucky for you, it doesn’t have to be. Let’s face it, you cannot control what’s up with another person, much less what they dish out, but you certainly can control ...
Views: 2007(1 vote) - What To Do When Someone Discloses Sexual Abuse? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2008 from Gudrun FrerichsResearch * has shown that survivors of sexual abuse often feel support and understanding is missing when they disclose having been abused. Research has also shown that survivors who are not getting appropriate support when they disclose having been abused are more prone to develop post traumatic ...
Views: 4201 - The Underworld Of Gilgamesh - A Parable To The Underworld of Addiction - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2008 from John SmethersTo decide during childhood, whether as an ideal from a dream or fantasy, or from being impressed or influenced by others in the community, to delve into the netherworld of drugs and alcohol--actually choosing to live a life of chaos is one of those mysteries of human behavior. Most addicts do ...
Views: 7121 - Signs Of Abusive Relationships: Conditioning that Kills From The Inside Out In Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.We know the drama of domestic abuse from the outside looking in, as it is popularized by the media and by entertainment mediums. But the silent insidious inner deaths that take place are more pervasive and, and in some cases, more debilitating for the domestic abuse survivor. What are the inner ...
Views: 857 - Abused Men - Are You In The Doghouse Of An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Abusive women put their men in the doghouse when they are misbehaving. And the shame these men feel is no different than that felt by battered women. It’s a shame that has many dimensions: a) I let my partner down. b) I don’t measure up to my partner’s expectations and/or ...
Views: 847 - ***Female Violence: Problems & Solutions - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2008 from Kathy SeifertViolence in the family is a major source of teen female violence. The future well-being of a society is directly linked to its ability to care for and educate its young. Families that cannot successfully care for their young, nurture the seeds of future violence and criminality. Until we learn ...
Views: 1684 - After The Abusive Relationship - 7 Clues for Knowing You're Doing What Is Right For You - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Domestic violence survivors often wonder what next? Now, that I’m no longer defined by my role in my “other life,” then what next... Who is this person? What is this person? What ought this person be doing with her life? In some respects this pondering is typical of battered ...
Views: 833 - Everything I Own Fits In A Hefty Trash Bag - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2008 from Michelle ReneeThe truck I stole to have a place to sleep was a white Toyota with yellow and orange stripes, lifted with fat tires and no power steering. Everything I owned was stuffed into a dark green hefty trash bag, including a birthday card my mom had managed to get to me when I had turned 16. At the ...
Views: 1700 - Narcissism Understood - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2008 from Melanie EvansThis information is a purposeful broadcast. What is Narcissism? Narcissism is an unhealthy focus on self that affects others in unhealthy ways. Everyone to some extent is narcissistic. Most people ‘want the good stuff’ and from a psychological point of view: everything we do is for some ...
Views: 13039 - Celebrity Workshop: Adolescents New Addiction - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2008 from sherry gabaA frantic mother of a 15 year old daughter of a local suburban neighborhood tells her therapist that her daughter has quit the cheerleading squad, no longer dreams of college and becoming a lawyer, and her childhood friends have been replaced with friends she has never met. Her daughter has ...
Views: 3018 - Critical Thinking For Recovering Addicts And Alcoholics - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2008 from John SmethersCritical thinking (sometimes referred to as directed thinking) is purposeful, reasoned and goal directed--it is thought and knowledge and the relationship between them. To break it down more: the critical component is the evaluation that is most often agreed upon, and thinking is obtaining the ...
Views: 9762 - ***Book Review: How Children Become Violent - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2008 from Douglas PakThis book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Abuse and Recovery. Abuse and Recovery deals with countering and overcoming physical and mental harm of any degree or severity. Kathryn Seifert is the Official Guide to Abuse and Recovery. How Children Become Violent, by Kathryn ...
Views: 1155 - Definition: Abuse and Recovery - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2008 from Douglas PakPhysical abuse is abuse involving contact intended to cause feelings of intimidation, pain, injury, or other physical suffering or harm. Psychological abuse or emotional abuse is a form of abuse characterised by a person subjecting or exposing another to behaviour that is psychologically ...
Views: 1095 - Addiction, Brain Science Simplified - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2008 from David CarrollWhat is the essence of addiction from a scientific standpoint? What facts support the foundation that supposes that an “addict” has no control and that free will has nothing to do with their ability to stop? What indicates that without help, they have little or no hope of recovering, from this ...
Views: 2126 - Acceptance And Addiction Recovery - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2008 from David CarrollThe anti-social nature of drug addiction results in a "Life-Style". The addict becomes out-of-synch with the social structure in which he must live. Addicts begin to associate only with other addicts or drug dealers and then transcend into the subculture of drug use. Paranoia triggered by ...
Views: 4241 - Addiction And The Criminal Justice System - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2008 from David CarrollStraight off the top… Addicts for one reason or another, have a problem coping with every day life in our Society! Drugs fill some void in their life, family or personality. A large number of people, who progress to the stage of drug use that is Addiction, are self-medicating! Many Addicts’ ...
Views: 1709 - Alcohol and Sex for Young Adults - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2008 from Susan HermanFor lots of student, sex is part of the college experience. For better or worse, decisions about sex (whether or not to do it, with whom, and when) are thought about and talked about a lot. "I didn't plan on sleeping with anyone when I went to that party. This morning I woke and there was a ...
Views: 819 - Do Sexual Abuse Survivors need Therapy? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2008 from Gudrun FrerichsI have been asked the other day whether people need to go to a psychotherapist or counsellor to recover from sexual abuse. I think that is a really good question. Does a person need therapy to heal? I don't think it is necessary to go to a psychotherapist or counsellor. However, they need ...
Views: 1005 - Taking Back Your Power - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2008 from Tamiel McAfeeOne of the most essential steps in healing and recovery is to take back your personal Creator given power. First, you must come to the realization that taking back your personal power is possible and necessary. Realize that the only person you can change is yourself. You have the ability to ...
Views: 2079 - Rape And A Snake Phobia: Can They Be Connected? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2008 from Tania PrinceRape can have a devastating effect on a person’s life. Some of that effect can be easy to identify. It is not uncommon for people to have difficulty in sexual relationships, trusting, feeling an irrational sense of guilt amongst may other things. How else can it affect a person’s life? Can a ...
Views: 2934 - ***The Association of Family Violence with Behavior and Psychiatric Problems in Children and Teens - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2008 from Kathy SeifertBackground While many behavioral and psychiatric disorders have a biological base, they may also have roots in early childhood maltreatment and in exposure to violence. The overlap between behavioral /psychiatric disorders and histories of childhood trauma is greater than has been previously ...
Views: 2302 - ***7 Action Steps For those Involved In Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2008 from Kathy SeifertDomestic violence negatively affects everyone in the family — the offender, the spouse, the children, and the next generation. Stopping and healing violence in the home will involve the whole family getting help, with or without the offender, whether reunification is antici¬pated or not. ...
Views: 2456 - Recovering From Physical Abuse: 3 Keys To Your Body's Miracle Makeover After The Domestic Abuse Assault - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Broken bones, ruptured spleen, bruised swollen tissue, and ultimately a diagnosed clinical condition labeled as “degenerative disc.” Such a label can connote a permanent, defective body part, and ultimately an image of broken body. I hear domestic violence survivors talk about their ...
Views: 1024 - Domestic Abuse - Why Water For Domestic Abuse And Trauma Recovery? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.What’s with the water for domestic abuse survivors? Water can be like soap to the body on a cellular level. It flushes out the impurities in the system. And let’s face it when you live with someone who tells you that you are junk...toxicity builds up in your system. So how do you ...
Views: 850 - Abusive Relationship - Why Does She Let Him Talk To Her Like That? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.What’s wrong with her for “letting” him talk to her like that? This is the first thought of an outsider looking in on an abusive encounter of an abusive relationship. Dr. Phil was interviewing a couple obviously in an abusive relationship. He asked the woman how she felt about ...
Views: 892 - Family Violence - Lost Mothers, Lied To Children & The Legal Abuse Syndrome - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.“Where is your Mom?” asked a little boy to another. The little boy replied, “I don’t know.” From his point of view, she was lost. She was gone. She left him. She abandoned him. ...And the conclusions go on and on, each one with more and more potential to fracture a ...
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