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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- True-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone’s True-Self To Go Into Hiding? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves and what their life is like, there is the chance that these two things are a reflection of what is taking place internally. In other words, there will be a connection between their inner world and their outer world. This is not to say that their behaviour ...
Views: 565 - True-Self: Can Someone Believe That They Need To Hide Their True Self To Survive If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to get to the point where they were able to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what may soon stand out is that they have the tendency to hide who they are. They could see that this is something that typically takes place automatically. When this does take ...
Views: 343 - True-Self: Can Someone Leave Their Body When They Don’t Feel Safe? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, the title of this article might sound a bit strange, and it could be said that this is not going to be much of a surprise. After all, it can seem more or less impossible for someone to ‘leave their body’. To be human means having a body and, if someone lost this part of them, ...
Views: 911 - True-Self: Can Someone Lose Themselves When They Have The Need To Please Others? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are two worlds: the inner world and the outer world. When it comes to the inner world, it is going to relate to what is taking place within and, when it relates to the outer world, it will relate to what is going on without. A Fine Balance Even so, this doesn’t ...
Views: 1047 - True-Self: Can Someone Lose Touch With Their True-Self If They Disconnect From Their Feelings? - by Submitted on May 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be in touch with all of their feelings, they will need to be in touch with their body. The reason for this is that their feelings are primarily found in their body, not their head. Ergo, if someone has a good connection with their body, it will allow them to connect ...
Views: 594 - True-Self: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Hide Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there will be how one will behave when they are in touch with their true-self and then there will be how they will behave when they are not. When it comes to the former, one will be aware of their needs and feelings. These elements will have a big effect on what they do ...
Views: 810 - True-Self: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Being Able To Express Who They Are? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat allows one to have their own life on this planet is not just their physical body; it is also the fact that they have their own needs and feelings. If they didn’t have their own needs and feelings, it wouldn’t matter if they had their own body – or vehicle. The reason for this is that ...
Views: 662 - True-Self: Can The Fear Of Rejection Cause Someone To Hide Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to reflect on their own behaviour, they may see that they generally act in an authentic manner. Therefore, irrespective of whether they are with their friends or are around people they don’t know very well, they won’t put on an act. What this is going to show is that one will ...
Views: 691 - True-Self: Do Some People Use Labels As A Substitute For Finding Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now, some people have used different labels to describe themselves. This is something that can be observed by looking at the profiles that some people have created on different social media sites. When it comes to the labels that someone might use on social media, it ...
Views: 549 - True-Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Disconnect From Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone can look like a whole human being on the outside, meaning that they have a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that they are in touch with the totality of their being. There is the chance that they are aware of what is going on up top, but are unaware of what is going on down ...
Views: 765 - True-Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Lose Touch With Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to whether someone does or doesn’t do something, it could typically depend on if it is right for them. In others words, they won’t have the inclination to do along with what other people are doing. What this is likely to show is that they have a good connection with their needs ...
Views: 621 - True-Self: Does Someone Need Approval From Others If They’re Out Of Touch With Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t feel good about themselves, it can be normal for them to look towards others for approval. This can then result in them doing what other people want, or they can try to achieve things. In their eyes, what they need to feel better will be given to them by people who they ...
Views: 789 - True-Self: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Be Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperHow someone behaves around others can be in alignment with who they are, or it can be a reflection of their false-self. However, even if it is not a reflection of their true-self, it doesn’t mean that other people will realise this. An Act One is then going to behave in a way that doesn’t ...
Views: 1062 - True-Self: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Express Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the term ‘true-self’ is mentioned, it can sound a bit air fairy, and it could be said that this it to be expected. One thing that can come to mind for someone is that human beings don’t have a self that is fixed. It Doesn’t Exist It is then not as of it is going to be possible for ...
Views: 1098 - True-Self: Is It A Surprise For Someone Who Acts Strong To Feel Weak On The Inside? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn the one hand, there is going to be how someone behaves and, on the other; there is going to be how someone feels on the inside. At times, what is taking place within them will be expressed through how they behave. An Authentic Human Being In this case, one is generally not going to put ...
Views: 883 - True-Self: Is It Harder For Someone To Express Their True-Self When They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be able to fulfil their needs, they will need to be in touch with them. But that’s not to say that this is all there is to it, as one will also need to feel as though it is safe enough for them to fulfil them. The Two Levels It could be said that, as a human ...
Views: 973 - True-Self: Is Your Life Being Controlled By Your Split-Off Parts? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who are generally able to achieve what they set their mind on and there are others who aren’t. When it comes to the former, it is going to be a lot easier for them to make progress and to move forward with their life. Their life will change as the years go by - stopping ...
Views: 760 - True-Self: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAs far as some people are concerned, the purpose of life is to be happy; whereas for others, it is to live a meaningful life. When it comes to the former, it is going to be all about feeling good. Pleasure or Pain So, when someone has this outlook, they may believe that the alternative is ...
Views: 1107 - True-Self: Why Do Some People Find Their True-Self When They Get Older? - by Submitted on May 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some peoples early years were a time when they were given the support that they needed to develop into a well-adjusted adult, there are others that don’t have the same experience. This could mean that they were supported from time to time, or it may have been something that rarely, if ...
Views: 1098 - True-Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Playing A Role? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are going to be moments in someone’s life when they will need to be serious, they won’t need to behave in this way all the time. Along with this, one will need to be easy going at times, and at other times, they will need to be firm. Multifaceted Ultimately, how one will ...
Views: 965 - True-Self: Why Is It So Hard For Some People To Be Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a strong chance that there has been moments in one’s life when they have been told to ‘be themselves’. This could be something they have been told before they had a job interview, or before they were going to meet someone for the first time. Letting Go The other person may have ...
Views: 1205 - Trust: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Trust Others? - by Submitted on May 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAccording to Erik Erikson, the first developmental stage that someone goes through relates to whether they can or can’t trust others. Now, providing that their primary caregiver, who is likely to be their mother, is consistent with their care, this stage should go well. This will mean that ...
Views: 279 - Trust: Can Someone Find It Hard To Trust If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could find that they have the need to keep people at arm’s length, preferring not to get too close to them. They could find that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember. By being this way, they are unlikely to share a great deal about themselves. When ...
Views: 330 - Trust: Do Some People's Childhoods Make It Hard For Them To Trust? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take action there is no guarantee that everything would go to plan; in fact, everything could go wrong. This is why a certain amount of trust will be needed for them to take the first step. Without this, it would be a challenge for them to take action. They might not do ...
Views: 783 - Trying To Change Others Is A Waste Of Time - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be in an intimate relationship that is not going well or they could have a friend who is having a destructive affect on their life. Then again, one of their family members could be living in a way that is not healthy or they could be toxic. Irrespective of who it relates to, one ...
Views: 638 - Turn Someone’s Anger Into Ease with You - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2020 from Kare AndersonWhen you most want to smash someone in the face or run out of the room, remember this irony. Cooling off someone else’s anger can be a way to actually bring that person closer. Warning: Don’t add fuel to the fire by suggesting that they calm down. Here are five ways to not only dampen their ...
Views: 661 - Turn Someone’s Anger Into Ease with You - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2020 from Kare AndersonWhen you most want to smash someone in the face or run out of the room, remember this irony. Cooling off someone else’s anger can be a way to actually bring that person closer. Warning: Don’t add fuel to the fire by suggesting that they calm down. Here are five ways to not only dampen their ...
Views: 657 - Turn Someone’s Anger Into Ease with You - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2020 from Kare AndersonWhen you most want to smash someone in the face or run out of the room, remember this irony. Cooling off someone else’s anger can be a way to actually bring that person closer. Warning: Don’t add fuel to the fire by suggesting that they calm down. Here are five ways to not only dampen their ...
Views: 726 - Turn Someone’s Anger Into Ease with You - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2020 from Kare AndersonWhen you most want to smash someone in the face or run out of the room, remember this irony. Cooling off someone else’s anger can be a way to actually bring that person closer. Warning: Don’t add fuel to the fire by suggesting that they calm down. Here are five ways to not only dampen their ...
Views: 814 - Twenty ways to make yourself “Feel good”. - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2011 from Irina BenoitTwenty ways to make yourself “Feel good”. Why it is important to feel good? Because thoughts lead to feelings. Feelings lead to results. If you want to change the results you are getting in your life, you must start taking control of the way you feel. When you make Feel Good NOW your ...
Views: 1123 - Two Healing Words - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from Sheryl PaulLast week, I had the blessed opportunity of having a closure session in person with a beautiful woman with whom I’ve worked for almost six years. As we sat face-t0-face (as opposed to screen-to-screen) and the session’s minutes clicked toward the end of our hour together, I told her that I ...
Views: 1043 - Two Things You Must Do to Have a Blissful and Joy-Filled Marriage! - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2012 from Agu JaachynmaJust like it takes two to betroth, there are two things you must do to experience complete happiness and unspeakable joy in your marriage. No matter how you look at it, life is very beautiful and you can only enjoy this kind of life when you know how to. Your marriage can be blissful, if you ...
Views: 1566 - Two Tips to Manage Anger - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2012 from Martha DawsonAnger is a normal emotion like any other emotion. Human beings are hard wired to experience anger as a means to preserve ourselves. Instinctively anger inspires one to fight, to defend or to take cover as it alerts one to a perceived threat. In this view, we can see how important anger can be in ...
Views: 1366 - Two Types of Self-Awareness and Tips to Be More Self-Aware - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2020 from Kara McDuffeeTwo Types of Self-Awareness and Tips to Be More Self-Aware By Kara McDuffee The benefits of self-awareness are endless. Studies have proven that self-awareness leads to more success, stronger relationships, and better decision-making. Being self-aware also allows us to manage our emotions ...
Views: 994 - Uncensored Hidden Wiki: The Gateway to the Dark Web - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2025 from Shubham SardaThe internet we use daily, known as the surface web, represents only a fraction of the entire digital landscape. Beneath this visible layer lies the deep web and the dark web, where anonymity, privacy, and unrestricted information exchange thrive. Among the most well-known directories for ...
Views: 58 - Uncertainty And The Creative Space - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Jude Treder-WolffIn an episode of the classic television series The Twilight Zone, a gangster dies and is greeted by a man in white who introduces him to life in the hereafter by giving the guy absolutely everything he wants. Beautiful women, fabulous food, money, whatever. He asks for crap games and he cannot ...
Views: 1073 - Unconscious Mind: What Can Happen If Someone Doesn’t Realise That They Have An Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what someone’s life is like, there are at least two things that will play a part. Firstly, there will be what is taking place in their mind, and secondly, there will be their behaviour. Nonetheless, what is taking place in their mind will be the most important part, as what ...
Views: 470 - Understanding How Institutional Fit Plays Into Hiring Decisions - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2010 from Sean CookI spent over 15 years working in higher education, 13 of which were in residence life. This meant that there were several times of year when I spent more time on campus getting ready for students to arrive than I did with my family. It wasn't uncommon during August to work until 1 a.m. some ...
Views: 1705 - Understanding That Change Begins With Me - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Caroline Nettle"Be the change that you wish to see in the world". Ghandi. There is much talk in the spiritual communities about how the world that I see outside of myself is a reflection of the world that is inside me. Part of the journey to peace, love, and happiness, is understanding that I am not always ...
Views: 8350 - Understanding Violence - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2024 from William CottringerUnderstanding Violence By William Cottringer, Ph.D. "Violence in an uncontrollable animal, which usually ends up attacking its own master." ~Renny Yagosesky. There are two main problems standing in the way of understanding violence. One roadblock is that the violence trauma event ...
Views: 302 - Unique Ways of Decorating Oak Kitchen Cabinets for a Modern Look - by Oak kitchen cabinets were popular in the 1980s and ‘90s. This popularity is still maintained amongst some homeowners who want to have traditional kitchens in their homes. Did you know that you can modernize your oak kitchen cabinets and make them look contemporary? Well, with a few tips and ...
Views: 81 - Unlovable: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone doesn’t feel lovable, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Consequently, this will be something that has a big impact on their life but they won’t be able to do anything about it. For this to change, they will need to become consciously aware of ...
Views: 420 - Unlovable: Can Someone Find It Hard To Accept That They Are Lovable If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their relationships, what might soon stand out is that they have pushed at least one person away. They could find that this person was warm and that the relationship was going well and then, before long, it ended. Being in a relationship that was ...
Views: 234 - Unmet Childhood Needs: Can Someone Spend Their Adult Life Trying To Receive What They Didn’t Receive As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an adult, it could be said that their childhood is firmly behind them. Along with looking different, they won’t have the same needs as they had when they were younger. That doesn’t mean that some of their needs won’t be the same, but a lot of them will be different. With this ...
Views: 672 - Unmet Childhood Needs: Is It Important To Grieve Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one was a child, they had certain needs and wants. And for some people, these would have been met in the majority of cases. This doesn’t mean that one would have needed to have had a caregiver that was always available. As it is unlikely that this would have been possible and not only that, ...
Views: 3662 - Unsafe: Do Some People's Childhoods Cause Them Up Believe That The World Is Unsafe? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some areas of the planet are far from safe, there are other areas on the planet that are the complete opposite. And due to what the media covers, one can end up coming to the conclusion that the whole world is unsafe. Now, this doesn’t mean that one’s safety will be guaranteed if they ...
Views: 1401 - Unwanted: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Feel Unwanted? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wasn’t treated like they were wanted during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this now that they are an adult. Yet, if this is not something that they are aware of, what took place is still likely to have a big impact on how they experience ...
Views: 254 - Ups and Downs - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2015 from Royce GomezUps and downs, everyone has them. In work, in life, in relationships, even in fun. Imagine a week where you feel utterly alone and single, blessed with plenty of friends, stressed because you are working too much, grateful because you love your work. You receive a call from a loved one ...
Views: 1441 - Use Empathy to Unleash a Huge Reserve of Potential - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2008 from Julie DonleyConsider the thoughts that go through your mind on a daily basis – the fears, doubts, criticisms, and judgments. If you knew that other people have the same thoughts about life, their mate, their kids, the organization, about their co-workers and bosses, and about themselves as you have, ...
Views: 1754 - Using Emotions Tech from TrueTalk to Monitor Health and Wellbeing - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2018 from Tori UtleyIts stating the obvious but our bodies respond physically to how we think and feel. This is the final article in a series of 4 describing how emotions impact health and how we can use this fact to improve our wellbeing. The previous article is here. Imagine being able to monitor and ...
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