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- Why Am I...? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2009 from Keith BrayA Moment of Clarity Ever have occurrences and thoughts in your life that seem to come out of nowhere, then reoccur over a period of time? I have been going through just that over the past few weeks. In my line of work, I see many people struggling to get a new life and grow in a new direction. ...
Views: 790(1 vote) - Time for Personal Responsibility - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2009 from Keith BrayResponsibility brings power. "To be tested is good. The challenged life may be the best therapist." -- Gail Sheehy Time spent on my personal co-creative process of recovering a life that I knew was meant for me opens my eyes to truths on a continuous basis. One of these truths is that for my ...
Views: 1047(1 vote) - Gift of Life Recovery - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2009 from Keith BrayA week ago, I was facing surgery for the first time since I underwent a psychic change through the process of recovery. Lets be honest, the surgery was not life threatening although what was being corrected caused constant pain. I was not thrilled by the thought of someone cutting my groin area, ...
Views: 811(1 vote) - Being Genuine - by Submitted on May 25, 2009 from Keith Bray"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson R.W. Emerson certainly must have known me in a past life. I spent a four decades trying to be who I thought you wanted me to be, and no one, and ultimately ...
Views: 1448(1 vote) - Looking Inside of You - by Submitted on May 19, 2009 from Keith BrayIn looking to professionally certify in a field I had been actively engaged in for years, I did a thorough search of coaching certification bodies and key individuals who were core members of the body. I was lead to the Certified Coaching Alliance, and had the good fortune of studying and ...
Views: 1268(1 vote) - Relationships - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from Keith BrayWith “Mother’s Day” just past, what a better a topic to think about than relationships? They have such a huge impact on every facet of life. My relationship (like many men) with my mother was a troubled one. I was the victim of abuse, and did not feel safe or like I belonged as a child. My ...
Views: 809(1 vote) - Be Open to the Moment - by Submitted on May 05, 2009 from Keith BrayThe last couple of weeks, being knocked flat by an infection bug, have certainly given me time to reflect on some real core issues. One great reminder has been the importance of the moment and keeping my mind open to the “potential” of NOW. Within now are answers. "Why not concentrate on the ...
Views: 829(1 vote) - Need Someone to Just Listen? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Keith BrayAs I started on the process of life recovery, I felt that there was no one there who would really listen to me and actually hear me. Today I realise there are a few people who do listen to me and hear me; and this includes my wife and a few “skilled” others. Listening is a learned skill that ...
Views: 841(1 vote) - The Stumbling Block - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Keith BrayUpon reflection, the biggest stumbling block to get a journey started to a life I am happy with was seven little letters. HONESTY. Over many years I had lied to myself and others, I had been less the honest in dealings with others, and had created a Disneyland in my head which had become a ...
Views: 1045(1 vote) - Open Mind? Read On - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2009 from Keith BrayI was blessed a year or so ago to have a man named Patrick Meninga come into my life through “electronic” channels. He is the “Spiritual River” man (www.spiritualriver.com). Over the period we have got to know each other and have partnered on a few very small ventures. Our common bonds? We are ...
Views: 1016(1 vote) - Learn to Be Aware - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2009 from Keith BrayLearning to be aware of who we are and why a tremendous part of a recovery of life journey is. To do this, there is nothing better than a thorough working of the 4th step of the 12 steps. Going forward, we must make sure we stay in contact with “self” in an honest fashion each and every day. We ...
Views: 982(1 vote) - Seeking a Simple Life? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2009 from Keith BrayA simple life is something I sought, and continue to seek. I love this article written by my coaching professor (literally), and think many of you will enjoy it too. As you would expect, it is in keeping with what we coach at Hope & Serenity-Coached To Success. Living Life the Simple Way by ...
Views: 1298(1 vote) - Co-Creative Process Dreams - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2009 from Keith BrayWe are all blessed with two minds; one conscious that we react to and are aware of, the other, subconscious; a place where dreams dwell. A place of untapped possibilities. Just like high performing athletes, entertainers and business leaders, all of us can use coaching to take us to the ...
Views: 867(1 vote) - Disappointment and Frustration? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2009 from Keith BrayHow can disappointments be opportunities to grow? When we feel thwarted, frustrated or empty it is difficult - but not impossible - to see the positive side of our pain. It is from this type of situation we are trained to coach people to success- however they define success. Most ...
Views: 741(1 vote) - What Does Sobriety Mean? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2009 from Keith BrayWHAT DOES SOBRIETY REALY MEAN? WHAT IS SUCCESS? When people hear the word sobriety, they automatically think of freedom from alcohol. When I was finally ready to accept my life was being negatively impacted by the over and improper use of alcohol, sobriety meant exactly that-freedom from ...
Views: 8962(1 vote) - Lack Trust in Others? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2009 from Keith BrayFor as long as I can remember, I have loved to “observe” people. We are fascinating creatures. Throughout a great business career, and being people orientated, I have seen humans around the world in all colours, shapes and sizes. There are issues shared by all, and “TRUST ISSUES” are ...
Views: 734(1 vote) - Getting it Up! - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2009 from Keith BrayAlways good to read something from Norman Vincent Peale, the king of positive thinkers! I know a ton of people in my life who can find a negative in almost anything, they are the "king" of BUTS. Yes, But. Heard the phrase? I've been in that space also. Normal (what's "normie"-seperate ...
Views: 847(1 vote) - Bankrupt of Faith? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2009 from Keith BrayBankrupt of Faith? Ok Mr. Webster, your on! In this period we live in we all understand bankrupt, but what can you tell us about FAITH? On page 338 of this very thick edition I have, you state about FAITH:""trust, confidence; complete acceptance of a truth which cannot be demonstrated or proved ...
Views: 754(1 vote) - Bedevilment: An Interesting Word - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Keith BrayBEDEVILMENTS (interesting word) Got this reading this morning, and the word bedevilment is one I have not seen in ages. So over to Mr. Webster. He says, "exasperating interference and trouble; a besetting with devils". The way he puts it, I know I have experienced it. Have you? The message: ...
Views: 1097(1 vote) - Attitude: It's Everything - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2009 from Keith BrayAttitude. A great word and it reflects in every aspect of our lives! "And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone -- even alcohol (or other addictions or destructive behaviour). For by this time sanity will have returned. We will seldom be interested in liquor (Or old behaviours).If ...
Views: 1611 - CHOOSING HOPE OVER FEAR - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2009 from Keith BrayChoosing Hope Over Fear What a great topic for the times we're in. I received a piece of this blog from the head hunting business and as you can see, received it earlier in 2009. When I got the courage to do what I had felt was my life purpose, I picked a company name that reflected what I had ...
Views: 846 - Coping with Families - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2009 from Keith BraySome universal truths I have learned in my own process of life recovery and in working with hundreds of others. "Family" is an issue I hear about almost everyday, and deal with directly on many occasions in my own life. As today is a statutory holiday here in Ontario-"Family Day",- it is a very ...
Views: 941 - Make a Silk Purse from Your Sow's Ear - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2009 from Keith BrayThere was a point in my life, a decade plus ago, I was living in insanity. I was doing things that were negative repeatedly, but expecting a diffrent outcome. I was less than honest, leading a double life- one for the public and a diffrent life inside of me, I suffered frequent depression and ...
Views: 1034 - Serenity and the Squirrel Cage - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2009 from Keith BrayWhen I started by own personal journey to recover a life I really wanted, and a life free from addictions, I longed for serenity. I felt the squirrels were constantly running lose in the cage I call my head. They gave me no peace. Today, they are still there at times, but on an ever increasing ...
Views: 883 - The Wizard of Oz: A Different Look at Coaching - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2009 from Keith BrayPeople really have trouble at times getting their head around coaching. As pure coaching as a discipline is new to a lot of people, let’s see if this analogy from my school-Rhema International- rings some bells. There have always been coaches; we just don’t know how many we are ...
Views: 1669 - The Doctor's Opinion - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2009 from Keith Bray"The Doctor's Opinion" -It Defies Psychologists Why Co-Creative Life Recovery may be the best option to those with addictions; it works for everybody! A spiritual awakening plays a key role in the recovery of a life ANY person wants. While it works for those with addictions, it works for ALL. ...
Views: 1088 - "The" Key to Life - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2009 from Keith BrayIn a search to get a life I wanted, I began a journey. There were a number of things out of whack when the journey started. My wife had moved to an apartment leaving me in the home with our late teen kids, the kids kept their distance, the dog kept his also, my company was under performing, ...
Views: 659 - That God Thing - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2009 from Keith BrayAs I reflect on the week that was, I can’t help but remember how many times a fear of god and not understanding spirituality came up. My own belief is that to have any real contented success in life, you need a “spiritual”, not necessarily a religious, foundation. Why do many ...
Views: 857 - Are Your Roots Deep? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2009 from Keith BrayFortunate are the people whose roots are deep. --Agnes Meyer Co-Creative Life Recovery is a program of action and change. It has a spiritual (not religious) component as part of a holistic approach to getting the life YOU want. It is a process that is taught and requires commitment and work. It ...
Views: 908 - Time Takes Time - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2009 from Keith BrayOver the first couple of weeks of the New Year, I have reviewed the 12 Steps as part of trudging the road to happy destiny, looking after my own mental hygiene, sharing to help and putting together an E-Book. I love to keep those steps simple. A lesson I had to learn early in my journey, and ...
Views: 713 - 12 Steps - Life Going Forward| - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2009 from Keith BrayAfter we have worked the 12 steps to the best of our ability, we have started a journey that offers unlimited potential. What we do from here is critical. We have made tremendous change in our life. We have begun the practice of good mental hygiene and are humbly confidant in who we are. We ...
Views: 1110 - Step 3: Turn it Over - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2009 from Keith BrayEach year I like to run through the 12 steps as written in the book Alcoholics Anonymous. These steps were an adaptation of many works before them, and are a universal truth for all people who want to enjoy good mental Hygiene and an abundant life. They have been adopted by some 150 self-help ...
Views: 2285 - Step 1: The Mirror Told Me So - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2009 from Keith BraySTEP 1/Twelve Steps Each year I like to run through the 12 steps as written in the book Alcoholics Anonymous. These steps were an adaptation of many works before them, and are a universal truth for all people who want to enjoy good mental Hygiene and an abundant life. They have been adopted by ...
Views: 920 - Can You Feel Your Feelings? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2008 from Keith BrayThis is a time of the year when for a lot of us, emotions and feelings run high. Family, or lack of family; friends or lack of friends; loneliness, big ups and big downs, and of course the lingering resentments, something many feel at this time of the year. One of the big challenges I faced in ...
Views: 1915 - Resentments: Got Any? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2008 from Keith BrayWith the emotions that go along with Christmas, the topic of resentments is a good one. For many years in my not too distant past, I came out of the Christmas season with some pretty good resentment. They didn’t appreciate; I didn’t get; she said; they should have; they did….. ...
Views: 816 - Tonight, I Heard a Miracle - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2008 from Keith BrayI’m very fortunate, the things I’m involved in and the new life I’ve been given allow me to be positive about life most of the time. I also have a sense of realism. I have had the good fortune to see tremendous growth in the lives of others on a frequent basis and in nearly ...
Views: 664 - Accepting Change - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2008 from Keith BrayChange is a word we hear oh so often. Whether we like it or not, things are going to change; we can influence how they change, and whether the change has positive direction for our life. There is much that directly affects our own well being that is within our control. When the journey to a new ...
Views: 8964 - Your Coach, Your Recovery, Your Option - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2008 from Keith BrayUsing a Life Coach for Addiction Recovery A dream is just a dream. A goal is a dream with a plan and deadline behind it. As I went through a major process to determine what I wanted to focus on for the rest of my life, the answer finally came to me: Helping others. Specifically, coaching ...
Views: 941 - Differences- Sponser/Coach - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2008 from Keith BrayDifferences:Sponsor / Coach Twelve Differences between your Sponsor and your Coach: As I chose coaching as my profession, and shared with others that I’d look at working with addicted people and those affected by addiction as a niche within my practise, some who have the honesty to be up ...
Views: 861 - LEADER or FOLLOWER? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2008 from Keith BrayLEADER or FOLLOWER? The best leaders are those who know how to follow. --Anonymous Coaching is about asking powerful questions. Leader or follower falls into that category, and it is one I contemplate often because of the wide spread implications. Give it some thought. Am I a leader or a ...
Views: 3419 - Simplicity - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2008 from Keith BrayThere is an old expression that rings true so often. “I could complicate the Lord’s Prayer”. Not withstanding that the Lord’s Prayer is a complicated document, I think we all know the intended thought behind complicating it. Often wonder how nice it would be to walk the ...
Views: 813 - Impact on Family/Dad May Die - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2008 from Keith BrayThis week, I think I’ve gone through the most impactful and emotional occurrence of my recovery journey. I have watched death several times as people start, and then leave the journey to a better life. Addictions are a terrible disease. They kill. So does the impact of poor mental ...
Views: 715 - Are You Allergic to Success? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2008 from Keith Bray(An adaptation from a business article) Success allergy? How can that be? Success is a concept, not something you eat, drink, wear or come into a physical contact with. Even so, it does appear that a large number of people just may be allergic to success. Perhaps, not in the sense that you ...
Views: 1290 - Paradox? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2008 from Keith Bray* A NEW EARTH * certified life coach * Creative Theory of Life Recovery * Paradox Paradox In The Journey For the last 14 plus years I have been on a journey. I had hit a wall in life, in particular the life I was living inside myself. The outside world may have thought things ...
Views: 948 - Remembrance Day - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2008 from Keith BrayRemembrance Day I awoke this morning well before first light. November 11 is a special day in my heart. A day to remember times and people past, and remember with gratitude. I have been fortunate to live in a time in history were I have not been needed to serve in active military service. My ...
Views: 713 - Fear - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2008 from Keith BrayFour little letters, but an emotion that plays havoc on so many of us. Have you ever really sat and thought about how much “Fear” has impacted your life. For those who have experienced going through “The Creative Theory of Life Recovery”, they are always surprised to ...
Views: 902 - Redefing Work - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2008 from Keith BrayRedefining Work More support for “The Creative Theory of Recovery” I’ve been privileged to walk this earth for a while, do some great things, travel and work with interesting and progressive people. I’ve also seen far too many talented people what I would call ...
Views: 966 - Awakening To Purpose - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2008 from Keith BrayPosted November 5th, 2008 by Keith • A NEW EARTH • Creative Theory of Recovery • Keith Bray. Life Coach Awakening To Purpose Last night I watched the world change. As I was going to sleep, US voters showed courage to change; they made a decision I did not think I'd see in my ...
Views: 689 - No Goals?? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2008 from Keith BrayI constantly talk about coaching. Yes, this is in part because it is what I am professionally. But more importantly, it is because what coaching is and what it can bring to a clients life is not clearly understood. To those in self-help programs, coaching IS NOT sponsorship. The essence of ...
Views: 637 - More On Ego - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2008 from Keith BrayPosted October 31st, 2008 by Keith * A NEW EARTH * ADDICTION * Certified * CREATIVE THEORY * DREAMS * EGO * Life Coach * www.hopeserenity.ca MORE ON EGO! While I haven't journalled about it in a while, ego, the duality and things Eckhart Tolle has written ...
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